Ngisho nasemindenini ejabule futhi ephumelelayo, umcimbi onobuhlungu onjalo njengomfazi njengokungathembeki komyeni kungenzeka. Lokhu kugxila kungokwesibili kuphela ekulahlekelweni kwesihlobo esiseduze, futhi owesifazane, ngemva kokufunda lezo zindaba, uwela ekucindezelekeni kwangempela. Funda ukuthi ungahlala kanjani emva kokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe, ungavela kulesi sihloko.
Ukuphila emva kokwedluliswa komyeni wakhe kunenkinga eminingi. Izazi zengqondo ziye zabala ukuthi kunezinyathelo ezine ezilandelanayo zokuphendula kwesifazane ukuhlubuka. Ngesikhathi, ngamunye wabo uqobo futhi uncike esimweni esithile.
Izinyathelo zokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa
1. "Ngeke kwenzeke kimi . " Ngalesi sikhathi, lo wesifazane uphika ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukukhashelwa ngumuntu othandekayo futhi ufune izizathu zokuzilandulela kumlingani wakhe. Njengomthetho, uma kunjalo, ingxabano idlula. Kulo mhlaba, abesifazane balungele ukukholelwa kunoma yiziphi izindaba futhi kugcizelelwe ukungaboni ubufakazi bokuhlubuka.
2. "Ungakwenza kanjani!" , Noma ukucindezeleka ngemva kokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe. Isigaba sesibili, njengombuso, sithola cishe. Owesifazane ulahlekelwa ukucabanga okungapheli futhi uqala ukubheka isimo ngokusobala. Abaningi bawela ezinhlanhleni futhi banamathele kumculi, abangafuni 'ukunikeza' umphikisi wakhe. Kodwa-ke, abanye ngokuphambene nabo bayakhala futhi bazikhiphe. Kulesi simo, amadoda ayathulisa omkawo, noma amemeza ngokuphendula.
3. "Asikhulume" . Kulesi sigaba, owesifazane ucabanga ukuthi angamamukela kanjani indoda ngemuva kokukhashelwa, nokuthi ngabe kufanele yenziwe yini. Ukuphila, njengangaphambili, ngeke kusebenze futhi: lapha, qala ekuqaleni, noma uhlukanise:
- ngokuvamile abesifazane bafaka i-ultimatum - noma indoda ihamba, noma iphonsa inkosikazi. Ngokuvamile umuntu uyaqonda lokhu ngokuthi "sichaza umndeni, futhi senza okufunayo", futhi baqhubeka bephila njengangaphambili, kuphela okude emkhatsini wabo;
- ngezinye izikhathi umlingani ofuna ukusindisa umshado uqala ngokuzama kabili umyeni wakhe, ngenxa yalokho ekugcineni ekuthukutheliseni, eqaphela ukuthi uhamba nayo yonke into, kodwa uhlala emndenini;
- abanye abafazi bakhulula omunye umuntu - ugijima, uzama ukuhlala lapho, kodwa ngamacala angu-90% ubuyela kumkakhe ngemva kombhangqwana
amasonto noma izinyanga; - abanye abafazi ngokushesha bafaka iphuzu, kubangele ukukodwa kokubili kokumangalelwa - noma umzamo wokuwunqoba umkayo, abanye bayonquma ukuthi akukho uthando emshadweni futhi ungaphuma ngokuphepha.
4. "Okufanayo . " Lesi sigaba, njengombuso, sibonisa ukwamukelwa okuphelele kowesifazane ngesimo. Umkami usuvele wavumelanisa ukuthi ubuhlobo buye bubhujiswa futhi ngeke bubuyiselwe, futhi akunakwenzeka ukubuyisela.
Abafazi abaningi bacabangela indlela yokujezisa umyeni emva kokukhashelwa. Kodwa-ke, uma uzama kakhudlwana lokhu, ngokujulile uzigxilisa ohlelweni lesi simo nokucindezeleka . Ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokushesha uma uqaphela ukuthi awunandaba nokuthi wawukuphi - impilo yakho izophuthuma ngokushesha.