Iqiniso lenye inhlakanipho eyintamo yowesifazane, nenhloko yendoda, ezweni lanamuhla lithole ubufakazi obunjalo bokuthi bambalwa abantu abaphikisana naye. Kodwa-ke, akubona wonke umuntu owazi imininingwane yobuningi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwalabo abamele abahlukene bobulili obubili. Yini owesifazane wangempela okufanele akwazi ukuyenza, efuna ukuthola ezinyaweni zakhe isigamu esiqinile somuntu? Phendula kulo mbuzo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze uthole okuhlangenwe nakho okuyigugu ongakwenza nathi.
Abesifazane ebuhlotsheni namadoda
"Wena ungowesifazane futhi uqinisile," kusho omunye. Futhi ngempela, ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani engqondweni yengxenye enhle, abantu abanamandla emhlabeni baye bezama amakhulu eminyaka. Futhi abesifazane, okwamanje, baye bavela ngezindlela eziningi ukuthi bangafunda kanjani ukuxhaphaza amadoda. Futhi kumelwe ngithi, iningi labantu lenza kahle. Mayelana nalokho amadoda akwenzela abesifazane yisikhathi sokubhala izindaba zothando nezindaba ze-adventure. Kodwa ukucabanga ukuthi bonke abesifazane bayakhohlisa futhi basebenzisa ingxenye yabo yesibili kuphela ngezinhloso zomuntu siqu, kungaba okungalungile. Into yukuthi amadoda nabesifazane bahlukana hhayi kuphela kwezocansi, kodwa nakuzo zonke ezihlobene ne-psyche nokuziphatha. Futhi zikhona izimo lapho abagibeli besifazane abangenakugwema khona. Noma ubani oshade naye ungowomuntu hhayi umama wezingane zakhe kuphela nomgcini wezindlu, kodwa futhi nomsekeli, umeluleki osekelayo nomngani omkhulu. Yingakho kuvame ukukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane wenza indoda ibe namandla. Ungumama wesibili, uyamamukela nazo zonke izinkinga, uqondise imicabango yakhe nezenzo ngendlela efanele. Kodwa indlela okwenzeka ngayo kufanele ifanele ingxoxo ehlukile. Ngakho-ke, ake sibone ukuthi kanjani nokuthi owesifazane uthinta kanjani indoda.
Ukuxhashazwa ngumuntu
Yini owesifazane wangempela okufanele ayenze ukuze afinyelele umgomo wakhe futhi aqondise imicabango kanye nezenzo zomuntu ngendlela efanele? Izindlela, okuyingxenye enamandla yesintu ehlabayo ngokuzithandela, kunenqwaba. Kodwa sizohlaziya kuphela izindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokuphatha kahle umuntu.
- Bayiziphukuphuku, ababuthakathaka nabangenalutho. Indima enjalo noma yimuphi umuntu kuyodingeka ukunambitha. Ngenxa yokubhekwa njengamandla kunawo wonke, owokuqala, owesilisa nokunye, uzoguqula izintaba futhi athole izinkanyezi ezivela esibhakabhakeni. Iqiniso likhona nenye ye-nuance - kuphela umuntu oqinile ngempela ozokwenza. Futhi ababuthakathaka, sebezwile ukuthi uyindoda yangempela nendoda yelungu, ngokuvamile bayeke ukwenza noma yini.
- Flatter noma ukuncoma. Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile yokuthi abesifazane bathanda ngezindlebe zabo, ngokusemthethweni kubonakala ukuthi ubulili obuqinile abuphikisanga nokuzwa amazwi ahlabayo. Ngenxa yamagama ambalwa athandekayo, ahanjiswe ngokubambisana kahle, cishe noma yikuphi umuntu "oncibilikisayo" futhi uyobe esilungele noma yini ezocelwa yona.
- Umhawu. Enye indlela enhle abesifazane abaningi basebenzisa ngayo ukudlala ngothando nabanye abameleli besilisa. Umzwelo wokuthi othandekayo wakhe uchitha isikhathi nomunye umuntu kungabangela umuntu ukuba ahlasele isifo sofuba, futhi uzoqala ukufakazela ngamandla akhe ukuthi ungcono, unamandla, unethenda ngaphezulu futhi unake kakhulu.
- Umgcini we-hearth. Ukuze azibophe unomphela umuntu, abafazi bavame ukusebenzisa izindlela ezinjengokuthi nsuku zonke ukuthi ngaphandle kwakhe indoda ingadlulela ekudleni, yafa yindlala futhi yayingasebenzi. Lokhu akusebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ezimweni eziningi indoda iqala ukukholelwa ukuthi ngaphandle kowesifazane wayengeke azuze noma yini futhi ngabe igxile odakeni nasebumpofu.
- Scandal. Enye yezindlela ezivame kakhulu ukufeza umgomo wakho ku
Isimo esinezinyembezi namahlaya, ngokuvamile okungeke akwazi ukubekezelela noma yimuphi wala madoda. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, ngokushesha kuphelile, balungele noma yini, noma yini.
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zokuxhaphaza abesifazane ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokwakha i-encyclopedia yonke enikezelwe kulokho abesifazane abenza namadoda. Abamele abanengqondo nabahlakaniphile bobulili obunamandla bazi kahle kakhulu lezi zindlela futhi bakhetha ukwenza izinyathelo ngokushesha ukuze bagweme ukulahlekelwa okungadingekile. Kodwa-ke, abesifazane abahlakaniphile ngempela abavame ukusebenzisa izindlela zabo. Ngempela, ukuze kuzuze eyakho, akudingekile ukwenza ama-scandals, ama-hysterics, ukumela isisulu noma i-doe ephazamisayo. Indoda yayibucayi futhi ilinakekile, kwanele ukumsekela, ibe ngumuntu ozimele ozimele futhi omnene, futhi empeleni makumeme ukuthi uyona ongcono kakhulu futhi othandekayo.