Bonke abangani ngababili ... Ngakho-ke sihlelwe ukuthi siphupha uthando olukhulu futhi oluhlanzekile, kodwa ukukhulisa akusivumeli ukuba sijwayelane noyokuqala, ngoba akuhloniphekile, ngezansi kwesithunzi sethu, njll. nokunye okunjalo. Kungani kwenzeke ukuthi owesifazane unayo yonke iminwe yokuphatha impilo yakhe, kodwa akafuni ukuthatha konke ezandleni zakhe?
Yini evimbela ukujwayela indoda?
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani sihlala sizungu futhi singatholi injabulo yethu:
- ukuzethemba;
- ukungabi nesikhathi ekuhambeni okusheshayo kokuphila;
- ukungabaza ukubekezelela ukwehluleka noma imikhuba yabanye abantu;
- asazi ukuthi ungahlangana kuphi nokuthi kanjani.
Uma izizathu ezintathu zokuqala zikwazi ukulungiswa kancane ezincwadini ezinjenge- "Indlela Yokuphumelela" noma "Indlela Yokuxhumana Nabantu", iphuzu lokugcina linesisombululo esiqondile. Funda ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani futhi uthole izindawo lapho ungahlangana khona nensizwa, ungaba nezinkinga.
Kuphi ukuthola umuntu omuhle?
Into yokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu: uma ukholelwa ngokuqinisekile ukuthi ngeke uphumelele, ungaqiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka. Ngakho, ngaphansi kwesiqubulo esithi "Nginguye othakazelisayo futhi okhangayo" esimisweni esiphelele sishiya:
- Esitolo. Yebo, yebo, kwakusekusitolo. Uzenza sengathi uthathe umxhumanisi wokuthengisa futhi ucele usizo, khona-ke ukumomotheka ungaxolisa futhi usacela iseluleko. Ungabi ovilaphayo ukubuka ebhalini lakhe, okuqukethwe kwalo kuzokutshela ukuthi kunengqondo ukuqhubeka ingxoxo (ukutholakala kwama-diapers noma izimpawu ezicacile ezivela "ohlwini lwabesifazane" kuzokunika uphawu olubomvu). Noma mhlawumbe nje wathenga amadombolo futhi kwacaca ukuthi kwakungekho muntu ongampheka? Kulesi simo, ngokucophelela uthinte ukuthi nawe uthanda i-pelmeni, kodwa uthanda ukuwapheka wena. Pho, indoda ingamelana kanjani na?
- Esikhathini esihle sokuzivocavoca . Isikhungo sokuzivocavoca esibucayi, esinegama elihle - lena indawo enhle lapho ungahlangana khona nendoda ehloniphekile. Mcele ukuthi asize nge-projectile noma amcele ukuthi akhombise ukuthi angenza kanjani umsebenzi ngendlela efanele, ungakhohlwa ukwenza ukuncoma! Ngokuvamile izikhungo zokuzivocavoca zikhona imigoqo yetiyi, lokhu kuyindawo enhle lapho ungajwayela khona umuntu othakazelisayo nocebileyo.
- Kule cafe. Buza u-Unobtrusively ukuthi ungondla kanjani lapha. Buza ukutshela lokho okumnandi kakhulu, uhlale phansi etafuleni eliseduzane - ngakho ungagwema isimo esihlazo uma umuntu usevele elinde umuntu.
- Indawo enhle yokuhlangana nendoda "igumbi lokubhema" . Vele ucele ukukhanya, uqale kahle ingxoxo futhi ungakhohlwa ukusho ukuthi unambitha kahle, ngoba uyaphuza lolu hlobo lwegwayi (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, into esemqoka ukwenza ukuncoma).
- Ezikhathini ezinkulu zebhizinisi kulula kakhulu ukuzijwayeza. Awudingi ngisho nokubheka indawo ekhethekile ukuze ujwayelane nomuntu ohloniphekile, kwanele nje ukuba ushaye ngokuzenzekelayo inqwaba yamaphepha eduze kwakhe. Umuntu ophethwe kahle uzokusiza
qoqa konke, kahle, ke-ibhizinisi lobuchwepheshe. - Ungazijwayeza ngaphandle kokukhokha ngokukhethekile indawo okuyohlangana nendoda. Kwanele nje ukuqala ingxoxo, njengokungathi uyazi omunye iminyaka eyikhulu, bese uhleka ukuvuma ukuthi wenze igama lakho.
- Akubalulekile nje indawo lapho ungathola khona umuntu omuhle, kodwa futhi isikhathi . Enkampanini yebusuku, awukwazi ukungena ebuhlotsheni obungathí sina. Kodwa kungenzeka kakhulu ukuba uqale uxoxe ngengxoxo ngesikhathi sokudla kwasemini ku-cafe, kodwa ngokuzumayo uzoba nesidlo ndawonye?
Ungakhohlwa: uma usuvele unqume ukufuna indawo lapho ungajwayele khona indoda, ukuqala umsebenzi ngokwakho! Lahla amagama-ama-parasites, phinda usebenzise izenzo zakho uma uhamba futhi uhambile. Ukuzijwayeza kokuqala kuvame ukucacisa ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane, ngakho-ke kufanele ugqoke izingubo zakho (okungukuthi kusebenza nokwenza). Noma yimuphi umuntu uhlale ekhetha konke ngokwakhe, ngakho msize anqume ukuhlangana nawe!