Njalo intombazane iphosa ukuba ikhangele futhi ifaneleke, kodwa ngeshwa, akubona wonke umuntu owazi ukuthi anganqoba kanjani abantu. Indoda ayinaki ukunxusa futhi ihlale ingamcasuli abesifazane abathanda abesifazane abathandekayo nabalungile, uthanda "ukuzingela" nokufeza umgomo wakhe. Nokho, ukuvikela kuphela lapho umuntu enqoba wena akwanele. Uma ungafuni ukuthi okhethiweyo wakho akupholise, njalo umgcine emangele kuphela ungayidluli!
Yini amadoda ayinakekele?
- Amabele - le ngxenye yomzimba idonsela indoda kuqala. Futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ukuphawula lapha akusizi.
- Amaphesenti omzimba. Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi lapha asikhulumi ngemingcele umfazi ngamunye ofuna ukufanisa, okungukuthi, ukulingana. Ngomqondo wesilisa wobumnandi, akukho mingcele, into esemqoka yindoda yukuthi owesifazane wakhe unezingxenye ezihlukahlukene zomzimba.
- Ubuso besifazane. Okumangalisa ukuthi iningi lamadoda ayifuni ubuhle ezimweni zobuso besifazane, kubanele ukuthi ubuso buhle buhle futhi buhle.
Kodwa-ke, ungakhathaleli ukunakekelwa kwamadoda, ngokuqinisekile abakwazi ukubona isicocisi sokuqala sekhanda noma ikhanda lezinwele, kodwa izinwele ezingcolile, izipikili ezindala kakhulu futhi zingcolile ngaphansi kwazo, zizoqaphela ngokuqinisekile.
Unganqoba kanjani abantu?
Ukuheha umuntu othanda, udinga ukubonakala. Zama ukuba njalo phakathi kokunaka, ungazungezi nabangane abahle, kungenjalo uzobe ungafinyeleleki kalula. Amadoda ayesaba ukuthi angenqatshwa, ikakhulukazi phambi kwabesifazane. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kungani udinga ukuncintisana?
Umthetho oyinhloko wokuheha ukunakekelwa komuntu ukubonakala okungenakuqhathaniswa. Zama njalo ukubheka okusemandleni akho, lokhu ngeke nje kwengeze ekuzithembeni kwakho, kodwa futhi ukuheha umuntu oyithandayo.
Ukumamatheka njalo - amadoda athande ukuvuleka nokulula ukuxhumana namantombazane, eduze kwalaba besifazane, indoda izwa ikhululekile futhi iqiniseka.
Ukunakekelwa kanjani indoda?
Bonke abantu bangabantu abazingeli bemvelo. Bathanda ukunqoba abesifazane, ukucabanga kwabo kukwenza izifiso zomzimba ngokuqondene nomuntu onentshisekelo kuye. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho umuntu enqoba "umhlatshelo" uba ikakhulukazi enganandaba futhi ebanda ngakho. Futhi lapha abesifazane abaningi baqala ukuzibuza "Indlela yokugcina ukunakwa kwamadoda?".
Okokuqala, ziqonde ukuthi ama-hysterics kanye nezikhalazo ngeke bathole ukunakwa komuntu. Kungcono ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo bakho futhi uthole umzuzu lapho beguqulwe. Mhlawumbe uvumele indoda ukuba "ivule" umphefumulo wakho, okumele ukwenze kuvinjelwe ngokuphelele. Indoda kufanele ibe njalo "kwi-hook" futhi ikuthande kancane kunakho. Kodwa uma kunjalo wena waphutha kabi futhi wehla esiteji lapho umuntu ekuphakamisa khona, udinga ngokuphuthumayo ukulungisa isimo.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, guqula ngokuphawulekayo isitayela sakho. Iya ku-beautician, ushintshe izinwele zakho, ubuyekeze umbala wezinwele zakho, qala ukudlala ezemidlalo futhi uqhubeke nokudla. Ungaphinda wengezele ikhabethe lakho ngezinto ezintsha, konke okushiwo ngenhla kuzokusiza uzizwe futhi njengomfazi othandeka futhi okhangayo.
Emva kwalokho, hlela usuku nomuntu. Lokhu kungenziwa endaweni engakhohlwayo noma nje lapho ungaphazanyiswa khona. Umgomo wakho ukuvuselela umlingani wakho, emva kwalokho kufanele ulungise umphumela. Qala ukusebenza emaphutheni akho. Uma ngaphambilini wenqaba ucansi - bonisa uthando noma, isibonelo, uma ufinyelela kakhulu - udlale nendoda yakho, umkhathalele, unganikeli umzimba, njll.
Futhi uma nonke nenza umuntu ofanele ukuba aphinde athande nawe futhi, futhi wena ngokuziphakamisa ikhanda uphakamise uzophinde uthathe indawo yakho inhlonipho on the pedestal indoda, ujabulele impumelelo yakho.