Uvame ukuzwa inkulumo ethi "izihlobo azikhethi." Ukusho lokhu, umuntu kusho ukuthi akukho ukuxhumana nezihlobo, futhi uma kungenjalo ngemithetho yokuhlonipha, khona-ke imihlangano nabo ayengeke kwenzeke nhlobo. Kodwa kuthiwani ngamanani omndeni, amasiko, konke okuxhumanisa izizukulwane eziningana zibe yinye, akunalo yini ngempela ezweni lanamuhla?
Yiziphi izindinganiso zomndeni?
Siyajabula ukusebenzisa inkulumo ethi "izindinganiso zomndeni" ezingxoxweni, kodwa lokhu kunzima ukucabanga. Ukuchaza ukuthi akulula, mhlawumbe, izindinganiso zomndeni yizinto ezibalulekile emndenini, "isimeme" esidingekayo ukuthi iqembu labantu abanekhodi efuzo elifanayo lihlangana emphakathini onobungane. Kuvela ukuthi emndenini ngamunye into eyinhloko yinto eyakhe: omunye udinga ukuthembela, kanti abanye badinga ukuchuma kwebhizinisi lomndeni. Kusobala ukuthi kulezi zimindeni ezimbili izindinganiso zizohluka. Ngakho-ke, ukusho ukuthi yiziphi izindinganiso zomndeni okufanele zibe, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu ukuze zikhulume ngokuqokwa kwazo, umsebenzi awunakwenzeka, umndeni ngamunye unombono wayo kulokho okubalulekile kuwo, wona ngokwawo ubeka izinto eziza kuqala. Futhi akumangalisi - sonke sihlukile.
Isibonelo, uhlobo olusanda kufakwa lobuhlobo, lapho izindinganiso zomndeni eziyinhloko ziduduza, izithakazelo ezivamile, inhlonipho. Le yilabo okuthiwa yiqembu lomndeni, imizwa yethenda ehambisanayo lapha ifinyelela ngemuva noma ayidlali nhlobo indima. Imindeni ethatha isisekelo sothando, lolu hlobo lobuhlobo luzobonakala luyingozi, kodwa, noma kunjalo, lukhona. Njengoba kunezinye izinhlobo eziningi zobuhlobo bomndeni.
Ngakho-ke, akukho iresiphi elungiselelwe ukuthi yiziphi izindinganiso okufanele zihlonywe emndenini wakho. Ungacabangela kuphela ukuthi yiziphi izindinganiso zomndeni futhi ucabange okulungile kuwe, nokuthi yini engeke ibe yinto engenamsebenzi.
Yiziphi izindinganiso zomndeni?
- Ukuxhumana. Kukhona umuntu, ukuxhumana kubalulekile, udinga ukwabelana ngolwazi, ukuveza umbono wakhe, ukuthola izeluleko nezincomo. Ngokuvamile imindeni ayinayo isimiso esivamile sokuxhumana, futhi siletha zonke izinjabulo nezinxushunxushu zethu kubangane nakwa-psychoanalysts. Uma kukhona ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo emndenini, ukuxabana nokuxabana kungaphansi, ngoba imibuzo eminingi ixazululwa, kubalulekile ukuthi amalungu ahlale phansi etafuleni lokuxoxisana.
- Hlonipha. Uma amalungu omndeni engahloniphane, angenayo intshisekelo emibonweni yomunye nomunye, ngakho-ke ukuxhumana okuvamile phakathi kwabo ngeke kube khona. Kubalulekile ukungahloniphi inhlonipho nokwesaba, izingane kufanele zihloniphe uyise, futhi zingamesabi. Inhlonipho iboniswa ngokuzimisela ukwamukela imizwa, izidingo kanye nemicabango yomunye umuntu, hhayi ukubeka umbono wakhe siqu kuye, kodwa ukuzama ukumqonda.
- Ukuzwa kubalulekile emndenini wakho. Ukubuyela ekhaya, sifuna ukubona injabulo emehlweni abathandekayo, sidinga ukuzwa uthando lwabo, ukwazi ukuthi akuxhomeke ekumpusweni nasekuphumeleleni. Ngifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi ngesikhathi sakhe samahhala wonke amalungu omndeni uzothola isikhashana ngomunye, futhi angayi ekhanda ezinkingeni zakhe. Indlu yinqaba, futhi umndeni uyisiphephelo esithulile, mhlawumbe, wonke umuntu uyayifuna.
- Amandla okuthethelela. Akekho kithi ophelele futhi umndeni uyindawo yokugcina lapho singathanda ukuzwa ukusola nokugxeka ekhelini lethu. Ngakho-ke, umuntu kufanele afunde ukuthethelela amaphutha abanye futhi angaphinde abuyele.
- Amasiko. Omunye unomkhuba wokubuthela umndeni wonke ngo-Meyi 9 nogogo-omdala weMpi Yezwe Yesibili, omunye umuntu ubheka ama-movie ngoMgqibelo, eqoqa ehholo nge-TV, futhi omunye ngenyanga inyanga yonke umndeni uphuma ngaphandle kwedolobha (endaweni yokuhamba ngamanzi, ipaki yamanzi). Umndeni ngamunye unesiko lawo, kodwa ubukhona bawo
isici sokubuthanisa futhi kwenza umndeni uyingqayizivele. - Isibopho. Lo mzwa uhambelana nabo bonke abantu abasungulwe nezingane, sizama ukusifaka ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Kodwa kufanele kube nomthwalo wemfanelo hhayi nje kuphela ngezikhathi zokusebenza, kodwa emndenini, ngoba konke esikwenzayo emndenini nawo wonke amalungu ayo kudingeka akwazi lokhu.
Izindinganiso zomndeni zinqwaba, kuphela okujwayelekile kuzo ezibalwe. Emindenini eminingi, kubalulekile ukuba nenkululeko, isikhala somuntu siqu, ukuhleleka, ukwethembeka okuphelele kakhulu ebuhlotsheni, ukuphana.