Izikhathi lapho amantombazane ayelindele isikhulu sabo, adlula. Namuhla, abesifazane abangashadile balungele okuningi kunokuthola indoda ehloniphekile kumanethiwekhi abo. Ukuncintisana phakathi kobulili obuhle kunkulu, ngakho-ke udinga ukwazi ezinye izinto ezenza kube lula ukuphuma esixukwini futhi ufeze umgomo oyifunayo.
Indlela yokujwayelana nendoda ngobuhlobo obunzima?
Okokuqala kudingekile ukuthi kuchazwe ukuthi ngimuntu onjani engingathanda ukukubona eduze kwami. Uma ufuna ukwakha ubudlelwane obunamandla, ungachithe amandla namandla kubalingani abakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuya "ukuzingela" kunconywa ukuthi uthathe iseluleko osayinikeza ngengqondo:
- Okokuqala udinga ukubheka ukubukeka kwakho. Isithombe kufanele sicatshangelwe ngemininingwane encane kakhulu. Khetha izingubo ezizogcizelela ukuba nezihloniphekile nokufihla amaphutha. Yenza ukwakheka kwemvelo, futhi wenze nekhanda elihle.
- Izosiza ukuphuma nokuphuma kumomotheka wezinhlanzi, okuwuphawu lokujabula nokukhanya, futhi lezi zimfanelo zamadoda zibaluleke kakhulu.
- Asikho isidingo sokudlala noma iyiphi indima, ngoba ubuhle bemvelo kuphela kanye nesimo sengqondo esiqotho kungenza umuntu abe nomzwelo nomzwelo othandekayo.
Ungabi namahloni futhi wesabe ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ngoba abaningi okuthiwa "abesilisa" ngokwabo besaba ukulahlwa.
Amantombazane amaningi afuna ukwazi indlela yokujwayela indoda e-intanethi, ngoba lokhu kukhetho kufanelekile ngisho namantombazane anamahloni kakhulu. Le ndlela ine-drawback ephawulekayo - "inkohliso" eminingi. Indoda ingasebenzisa isithombe samanga, ubhale ulwazi olungamanga, njll. Yingakho udinga ukunaka imininingwane, ngoba abakhohlisi bavame ukudideka ebufakazini babo. Bheka ukuthi lo muntu ubhala ngokuphikisanayo, ukuthi ucacisa kanjani imicabango yakhe, njll. Mcele ukuthi athumele ngaphezulu kwezithombe zakhe empilweni yemvelo.
Lapho kungenzeka khona ukuba ujwayelane nale ndoda?
Hlangana nomphefumulo wakho womshado kungaba noma yikuphi, ngisho nokuma emgqeni esitolo. Umbhalo wokwazisa ngezindlela eziningi kuxhomeke endaweni lapho owesifazane eqaphele indoda ethandekayo.
Kuphi lapho wazi khona umuntu omuhle:
- Emsebenzini. Ochwepheshe batusa ukudweba abantu ngamomotheka. Mcele ukuthi asize ngandlela-thile, ngoba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abesilisa badingeke. Ekukhulumisaneni, qaphela ukuziphatha kwe-interlocutor, lapho ungahlulela khona ukuthi kukhona imizwa ephindaphindiwe noma cha.
- Ku-cafe noma yokudlela. Uma unesithakazelo, kuphi ukujwayela umuntu ocebile, khona-ke uye esidlweni noma isidlo kusikhungo esithile esihle, lapho "ukhilimu" womphakathi uvame ukuhlangana khona. Kungcono ukucela ukwesekwa komngane noma amaningana, ngoba ngokusho kwezibalo, ukuphola kubanjwe kulezi zinkampani. Yiba ngokwemvelo futhi ungabonakali, ungakhohlwa ukuthumela
amaqembu anentshisekelo ezinhlangothini. - Enye indlela, lapho ungayazi khona umuntu ofanelekayo - imibukiso ehlukahlukene. Khetha izindawo ezihloniphekile, isibonelo, imicimbi yezimoto noma ibhizinisi. Kulula kakhulu ukubandakanyeka - buza umbuzo, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma ngawo, ukuze ungabanjwa ngendlala. Ungaya futhi emidlalo yaseshashalazini kanye neminye imicimbi yamasiko.
Amantombazane amaningi enesizungu ngaphambi kokuhlela iholidi, cabanga ukuthi ungaphi lapho uya khona ukuze ujwayelane nendoda. Empeleni, noma yikuphi ukubhuka okumele ujwayelane nakho, ngakho-ke khetha indlela oyithandayo, kodwa khumbula ukuthi ngokusho kwezibalo, ukuthandana okungafani kakhulu kukhule kube ubuhlobo obuqinile futhi obuhlala njalo.