Kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane kunzima ukuyiqonda. Futhi bacabanga kanjalo, impela, amadoda. Isizukulwane sabososayensi abangaphezu kwesisodwa emkhakheni wezingqondo zengqondo sifuna ukuhlukanisa lokho owesifazane akufunayo ngempela. Kodwa engqondweni yesilisa, abayikumba kakhulu. Ngizibuza ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Phela, abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuhlangabezana nokulindelwe kwamadoda, futhi lokho akufunayo - akwaziwa.
Siphakamisa ukuzindla ngesihloko esithi "Yini umuntu ayifunayo, noma intombazane enhle emehlweni abantu." Yiqiniso, bonke abantu bafuna ukubona owesifazane ohlakaniphile, omuhle, womnotho eceleni kwabo. Kodwa izimfanelo ezichazwe zijwayelekile kakhulu. Futhi wonke umuntu ngaphansi kwegama elithi "smart", "omuhle", "umnotho" ubona into eyakhe. Futhi lezi zici azikwazi ukulinganiswa ngokweqile, okungukuthi, umphumela wokuqhathanisa, isibonelo, abesifazane ababili abahlakaniphile bayokwenqabela ngokuqinile ngesici esizithobayo, kanye nendima yalomfazi odlala ngayo ekuphileni komuntu. Phela, umama wesifazane, umngane wesifazane, uthisha wesifazane kumele abe nezimfanelo ezehlukene. Kodwa sisamazama ukuchaza ukuthi yini intombazane enhle, ngokubona kwamadoda nabafana .
- Cishe isigamu sabantu besilisa sezwe lethu siza kuqala ngokuhlakanipha komuntu wesifazane. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, iningi lamadoda alithandi kakhulu uma intombazane noma owesifazane ebonisa inzuzo yakhe engqondweni phezu kobulili obuqinile. Ngakho-ke sithola isiphetho esilula: ngamehlo amadoda namadoda, intombazane efanelekayo kufanele ihlakaniphe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ifihle ngokuhlakanipha.
- Endaweni yesibili ebaluleke kakhulu, amadoda abeka idatha yangaphandle. Kodwa, mhlawumbe, asikho isibonakaliso esilandelayo ngaphezu kobuhle besifazane. Futhi ngeke sisimangaze noma ubani uma sithi inhlekazi yobuhle besifazane kumuntu ngamunye noma isoka lihlukile.
- Endaweni yesithathu izimfanelo zabesifazane ababili zikhishwa kanyekanye. Lokhu kungumusa nobuqotho. Futhi uma ngokwethembeka yonke into iyicacile, ngakho-ke ngomusa kungaba nama-nuances engeziwe. Omunye ucabanga ukuthi kwanele ukuba owesifazane omuhle abe nozwela, uzwela futhi abekezelele abantu, futhi amanye amadoda aqonde kahle ukuthambekela komsebenzi ongathandeki kubantu nokuzidela.
- Kanti futhi amehlo enhle abantombazane kufanele abe abesifazane. Ngaphansi kwalesi sikhawulo, amantombazane namadoda baqonda ubumnene, ubuthakathaka besifazane, umusa, ububele kanye nezimfanelo eziningi eziningi ezihlukahlukene.
- Ngokungangabazeki, intombazane efanelekayo kufanele ibe yindoda futhi ibe efiselekayo kumuntu. Kodwa futhi, izintandokazi zokunambitheka kwamadoda ziyahlukahluka kakhulu. Futhi ngisho nokucabangela iqiniso lokuthi indoda ithanda amehlo akhe, ngakho-ke konke okufanayo, abesifazane abanjalo bangafana nomuntu oyedwa, futhi omunye - cha.
- Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi amadoda ambalwa adlulisela phambili umgomo onjengokuphathwa kwezomnotho. Umbono wabo yilokhu: intombazane akudingeki ukuba ibe yomnotho, kunalokho iyinto ejabulisayo ekugcineni kwezimpawu zamantombazane. Kodwa lapho ukhetha umngane oyedwa oyedwa wokuphila, umnotho usondela kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane kufanele acabange ukuthi ngabe insizwa yakhe ithembekile ekutheni awukwazi ukupheka, noma ungathandi ukuhlanza. Mhlawumbe akabonanga impilo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo nawe.
- Amehlo amahle abesilisa abesilisa namadoda kufanele abe nokuthembeka nokubekezela.
Umqondo wokwethemba ubalulekile kuwe. Kodwa lapha kubalulekile ukuthi ungahambi komunye okwedlulele futhi ungabonisi ukukhathazeka kulokho okwenzekayo. Ngakho-ke, zama ukungahlukumezi umuntu onemibuzo, futhi nangaphezulu, angamdingi ukuba anikeze i-akhawunti eningiliziwe yazo zonke amacala ayewenza ngawo emini. Kodwa bonisa isithakazelo uma yena ngokwakhe efuna ukukutshela ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhamba kanjani. - Khumbula futhi ngomona. Cha, asineluleka ukuba ube nomhawu ngendoda yakho kuwo wonke owesifazane odlula. Kodwa ungesabi ukuveza imizwa yakho uma ubonakala ubangele. Umhawu olinganiselwe uzozuza kuphela ubuhlobo bakho.