Noma yimuphi ubuhlobo bubi ngokwalo. Phela, kulokhu umuntu akakwazi ukwenza ngokuzimela, kuncike ezimweni ezithile. Ukuthembela, ngandlela-thile, umkhuba ngaphandle kokungenakwenzeka ngalesi sikhathi ukuba ube khona.
Imizwelo kanye ne-codependence othandweni
Ukuxhomekeka komunye nomunye umqondo ofanayo, esizoxoxa ngawo kanye nobuhlobo phakathi kwabantu. Uthando lwe-codependence lufana nesifo esibangela ukunganaki okubonakalayo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo nezinye izici eziningi ezimbi ezichaza " ukuxhomekeka komzwelo ". Abanye abacabangi ngisho nokuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokubhekana ne-codependence, banelisekile ngesimo samanje. Ngakho-ke, abahlose ukushintsha noma yini, bayayithanda, ikakhulukazi, bayidla ngokuhlanganyela.
Ukuxhomekeka kobunye - ukugula komndeni
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi ukuxhomekeka komndeni emndenini kuvamile. Emva kweminyaka eminingana yokuhlala ndawonye, abantu abashadile, bazizwa benothando, badinga futhi bancike kulowo oshade naye. Lokhu kuvamile, futhi ngisho - kuhle! Kungaba kubi nakakhulu uma abantu ababili bengavumelani, bahlangane futhi baqinise ubuhlobo babo. Kodwa kunezinkinga ezihlukahlukene ebuhlotsheni obuncike ekubambisene nabo.
Izimpawu zokungena ngemvume
Mhlawumbe abantu kulesi sigaba sobuhlobo babo abasasekho injabulo yokuba ndawonye, bahlale bedla izenzakalo ezidlule kuphela, izinkumbulo ezinhle nezothando kusukela esidlule. Ngeshwa, aziqinisi ubuhlobo esikhathini samanje. Inkinga yokwehlisa i-codependence yukuthi wonke umuntu uyaqaphela ukuthembela kwakhe komunye, kodwa akenzi lutho kumthandekayo wakhe. Wonke umuntu udinga isinyathelo esinqumayo, ngokwemvelo, hhayi kuye. Ufuna konke kube "njengokungathi ngaphambili", uthi ufuna ukuthanda, kodwa ngeke ngenxa yokuntuleka kwesinyathelo. Lo muntu uzilahla ngokuzenzakalelayo umthwalo wokuthuthukiswa kobuhlobo kanye nesidingo sokwenza okuthile ngokwakhe. Konke kwakhiwa kuphela ngokholo kulokho okuyoba khona esikhathini esizayo njengoba kwakunjalo ngaphambili. Indlela yokuphuma kwe-codependence ilula: qala ngokwakho ukwenza okuthile kubantu abasondelene kakhulu, uthathe izintshisekelo zabo, futhi ungaxoshe owakho! Ekugcineni, wena wonke uzozuza imiphumela efanayo! Manje ake sibone ukuthi singasusa kanjani futhi sikukhulule ekukhokheni.
Ukuxhomekeka kobuhlobo ebuhlotsheni - ukwelashwa
Uma uzibuze ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukuxhomeka kokubambisana, xhumana nochwepheshe kanye nomqondo wezengqondo zomndeni noma uzame ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokwakho. Okokuqala, hlela izinto ngaphakathi kwakho. Nazi imibuzo okufanele uphendule ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isenzo:
- Ingabe ubuhlobo bakho bubalulekile kuwe?
- Uyawazisa yini?
- Yini ngempela? Ngenxa yalokho?
- Ingabe bayakuthanda okwamanje?
- Yini ngempela?
- Yini ongathanda ukuyishintsha kuzo?
- Yini ongathanda ukuyithuthukisa?
- Yini ofuna ukuyifinyelela?
- Luhlobo luni lobuhlobo olufuna ukuthola ekugcineni?
- Yiziphi amathuba okwenza lokhu? Futhi izinketho?
- Yimaphi amathuba akhona ebuhlotsheni bangempela?
- Yini oyaziyo ngothandekayo wakho onika ithemba lokuthi sizophumelela?
- Yini okudingayo ukumtshela noma ukumtshela, ufunde kuye, ukuze uhlanganyele futhi ukwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuyanelisayo?
- Yini ngempela futhi ulungele kanjani ukwenza ngokwakho?
Uma umuntu ngamunye ngezikhathi ezithile ezibuza imibuzo enjalo, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu buyoba ngcono kakhulu futhi bube namandla. Phela, into ebaluleke kunazo zonke eyithandekayo ukusindisa ingempilo namandla webuhlobo. Ungabuyiseli esimweni esibucayi, kodwa zama ukwenza konke ngesikhathi. "I-spoon yindlela yokudla." Futhi-ke umhlaba wakho kanye nezwe lomunye umuntu kuyoba lula kakhulu futhi kuyathandeka kakhulu!