Uma umuntu ehluleka ukubonisa ukunakwa kwengxenye yakhe yesibili, wonke owesifazane uqala ukukhala i-alamu. Sonke sisetshenziselwa ukuthi owesifazane angaba nenhloko kusihlwa, kodwa uma le nkulumo izwa nsuku zonke yindoda evela kowesifazane, ubuhlobo phakathi kozakwethu buqala ukuwohloka ngokushesha. Kuze kube yimanje, kunezici eziningi ezenza indoda noma isoka lingasifuni ucansi: imvelo embi, umsebenzi omzimba ophansi, ukusebenza ngokweqile, ukucindezeleka, ukungondleki kahle. Noma kunjalo, akekho owesifazane oyokwaneliswa yizimpendulo ezinjalo kumbuzo wokuthi kungani indoda engafuni ukulala naye.
Kulesi simo, kunezinketho ezimbili zokuxazulula inkinga - ukuxazulula ngokubambisana le nkinga, noma ukuzilahla ebuhlotsheni obunzima, obuzoyeka ukuyeka.
Ngokwezifundo ezenziwa eYurophu, izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani indoda engafuni ukulala ocansini zaziwa.
- Ubudala. Uma umuntu engaphezu kweminyaka engama-30, kungenzeka ukuthi emzimbeni wakhe kunezinguquko ezihlobene neminyaka ezithinta amandla. Ezimweni zanamuhla kwamanye amadoda, impilo iqala ukuhluleka ngisho nangemva kweminyaka engu-25. Isizathu salokhu kufanayo - ukucindezeleka, ukudla okusheshayo, umsebenzi wokuhlala. Futhi, ungakhohlwa ukuthi isifiso sobulili esikhulu kunazo zonke sivela emadodeni aneminyaka engu-18-24. Kwabesifazane, ukuphakama kobulili kuza emva kweminyaka engama-30. Lokhu kungavumelani kubonakala ngemvelo, ngakho isimo esifanayo sidinga ukwamukelwa.
- Ukuhambisana kobulili kwabashadile. Ekuphileni ngokobulili kwamadoda nabesifazane, umthethosisekelo wobulili udlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuya ngezici zomuntu ngamunye, umthethosisekelo wezocansi ungase ube buthakathaka, uqine noma ulinganise. Uma umthethosisekelo wezocansi ufana nabashadile, banesidingo esifanayo socansi, uma behlukile, omunye womshado angase anelisekile ngenani lezenzo zocansi.
- Ukuthatha imithi noma i-antidepressants. Imikhiqizo eminingi yezokwelapha iqukethe izinto ezithinta kakhulu amandla, naphezu kokuthi zinomphumela omuhle kwezinye izitho. Uma umuntu ethatha noma imuphi imithi, akudingeki ukuba uzibuze ukuthi kungani indoda engifuni, kodwa isikisela ukuthi ayeke ukuthatha izidakamizwa, noma ukuzitholela.
- Izinga eliphansi le-testosterone. Ukuncipha kwe-testosterone kungesizathu sokuthi kungani indoda ingafuni owesifazane. Kulesi simo, kufanele uxhumane nochwepheshe. Ubuchwepheshe banamuhla kwezokwelapha buxazulula le nkinga ngesikhathi esifushane.
- Izinkinga zomuntu siqu. Ngokumangalisayo, amadoda amaningi athambekele ekuboneni ukwehluleka kakhulu. Uma umuntu ecindezeleke kakhulu ngento ethile, ngakho-ke akahambisani nobulili. Kulokhu, owesifazane angazama ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile naye. Akudingekile ukusola umyeni wokuhlukumezeka nokuhlambalaza ngokungahambisani nalokhu - lokhu kungasusa isimo.
Uma intombazane ingayitholi impendulo yombuzo othi kungani umfana engafuni ukulala naye, ungazama ukusebenzisa amasu avumela ukuthi ubuyele ukunakwa komlingani wakho. Sinikeza izindlela zokwenza indoda ifune wena:
- ingxoxo. Izinkinga eziningi zivela ekungaqondani. Mhlawumbe lo mlingani naye ubhekene nale nkinga. Ingxoxo engagwegwesi ikuvumela ukuba ubeke konke endaweni yayo, susa ukungezwani nokukhuluma;
- ukwenza izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zobulili. Esinye sezizathu ezenza kungani indoda engafuni ukulala ocansini i-monotony futhi ibuhlungu. Owesifazane kufanele alethe ukukhanya nenjabulo ebuhlotsheni, ngaphandle kokungabaza zama entsha, kumangaze indoda yakhe;
- shintsha izithombe. Yiba ohlukile kumuntu wakho - onesizotha, ekhululekile, ekuqondeni, enakekelayo noma enobungozi. Imisebenzi ehlukile yenza indoda yakhe ibheke umngane wayo omusha ekuphileni ngendlela entsha futhi iyakwazi ukuqinisa ukukhangwa kobulili.
Ngokuvamile, izinkinga zobulili zivela ngenxa yezinkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba uzibuze ukuthi kungani umfana engifuni, kudingeka uzame ukuthola ukuthi yini eye yahlukumeza ebuhlotsheni futhi isusa zonke izinkinga.