Ubudlelwane nomuntu othandekayo "bungalahleka" emzuzwini ongalindelekile, kungase kube nezizathu eziningi kulokhu, kodwa kunoma yikuphi ukuhlukana kuhlale kunzima. Omunye uhlangabezana nokuhlukaniswa yedwa, omunye uzama ukuzikhohlwa utshwala, omunye ufuna ezinye izindlela zokuphazamisa, kanti omunye uzama ukuthola isikhathi sakhe.
Ungabuyisa kanjani ubuhlobo nomuntu othandekayo?
Cabangela amathiphu ambalwa azokusiza uqonde ukuthi ungabuyisela kanjani ubuhlobo ngemuva kokuhlukanisa:
- Okokuqala, zama ukubuyisela ukukhulumisana futhi ube umngane wakho nje umngane, uyisekele, unikeze iseluleko esihle, wabelane ngenjabulo, njll, kodwa ungakhathazeki ukubuza abangane ngemuva kwekhefu, ulinde kancane, makube inyanga noma ezimbili.
- Ungakhohlwa ukugcina iso ekubukeni kwakho, uma ngaphambili ungakwazi ukubonakala phambi kwabathandekayo bakho egqoke izingubo futhi ungakhiwanga, manje uhlome ngokugcwele, ake umfana abone ukuthi ubuhle abulahleka.
- Enye indlela eqinisekile, indlela yokubuyisa ubuhlobo nomfana ngemva kokuhlukanisa, ukuqala ukuxhumana nomama wakhe. Uma ungakwenzi lokhu ngaphambili, manje yisikhathi. Woza ukumvakashela, mtshele indlela indodana yakhe enhle ngayo, ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani nokuthi kunzima kanjani ngaphandle kwakhe. Ngikholelwa ukuthi omama banethonya elikhulu kule ndawo emadodaneni abo.
- Khumbula ukuthi awuthandanga njalo umuntu kuwe. Mhlawumbe wacabanga ukuthi ungumuntu onesihluku noma ozikhukhumezayo, zama ukushintsha ube yilokho akufunayo ukuba ube khona.
- Ukubuyiselwa ubuhlobo nomuntu wakho othandekayo kude, kunzima kakhulu, kepha nanku kukhona izinzuzo. Vumela lo muntu angakuboni okwesikhashana, ungalizwa izwi lakho. Uzama ukushintsha, uzibeke esimweni esihle, kahle, ngolunye usuku, uzizwe uzizwe, ushayele, uthumele i-SMS, ngokuqinisekile kuyoba mnandi kakhulu ukuba umfana akhulume nawe futhi abone, kahle, bese wenza.