Ukuphendula kwabameleli bezocansi ezahlukene kuya ezenzakalweni ezifanayo kuyahluka kakhulu kangangokuthi amazwi mayelana nokufika kusuka amaplanethi ahlukene ayibonakali enhle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ngaphansi kobudlelwane besifazane oshadile nendoda eshadile elungele ukukhipha ingxenye yonke yengqondo. Kodwa sinokuhlukana okuyisisekelo ekuklanyeni akunjalo, ngakho kungani izinkinga ezinjalo?
I-Psychology yobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane
Izinkinga ezihlukahlukene zihlelwe ngumbono wethu osebenza kanzima, leli cala alihlukile. Ngenxa yobunqunu bokuthuthukiswa kwesintu (indoda izingela, owesifazane ulungiselela), izindlela zethu zokubona iqiniso ziye zahlukana. Ngenxa yalokho, ubulili obuqinile buqala ukubonisa logilo oluyisibonelo, kanti obuthakathaka - wafinyelela ezingeni lobuchwepheshe ekuqondeni imizwelo . Yingakho i-psychology yobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane inzima kakhulu. Isibonelo, ukukhuluma kwentombazane mayelana nokufika kwesikhathi sokufika ekhaya, umfana uphuma ngamazwi ngosuku olunzima. Uzocasuka futhi adideke ngenxa yokungabi namuntu. Futhi into ukuthi intombazane yayifuna ukusho ukuthi ilahlekelwe kanjani futhi ifuna ukunakwa, futhi umfana oqonde ngqo waqonda kuphela ukuthi utshelwe ukuthi "usephuzile namhlanje". Lesi sici se-psychology of ubudlelwano singaba nesifiso kubo bobabili owesifazane oshadile nomyeni oshadile ovame ukukhohlwa ngobuthakathaka bokubona kwabo, nakuba bekufanele bazi konke ngenhliziyo. Ngakho-ke kuyinto evamile kumabhangqwana asevele anesipiliyoni sokuhlala ndawonye ukuze bafunde ukuxhumana kabusha. Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi intombazane kuyodingeka inikeze ulwazi olomile kuphela, ukukhohlwa mayelana ne-sweet nonsense, futhi umfana akufanele aphenduke ukukhala okukodwa. Kodwa ngokuvumelana komndeni, kuzomele kwenziwe ezinye izivumelwano.
Enye inkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, ingqondo ye-psychology ibona ukufiphala kwemingcele yezindima zobulili. Kulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi umuntu enze isiteji, futhi uma ekhubeka, ingxabano yangaphakathi iyenzeka. Kuye, nesimo sempilo siba phansi, kanti abanye bahlupheka. Kulokhu, ngaphandle kwengxoxo egcwele nengxenye, awukwazi ukukwenza, futhi uma ungaphathi ukuxazulula ukuphikisana kuleli zinga, ungacela umkhandlu wezobuchwepheshe.
Yebo, lonke uhla lwezinkinga lubeka ukwesaba okuyisisekelo ukusebenzela ubudlelwane. Ngokuvamile abashadile, ikakhulukazi abasha, bacabanga ukuthi uthando luyakususa zonke izinkinga, futhi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, khona-ke kuzoxazululwa okwesikhashana, kodwa uma kungenzeki, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlukanise. Kodwa iqiniso ukuthi ungakhuluma ngothando kuphela uma ufuna ukuzama ubuhlobo.