Ukujwayele okungahle kulindelekile akukaze kuqhutshwe? Ngisho noma le ntombazane iqinisekile ukuthi ithande umfana kakhulu, ukuthi inesikhathi esiningi futhi ikhulume ngomsindo ofanayo, hhayi ukuthi indoda izobiza, futhi uma engakwenzi ngempela, kungase kube nezizathu eziyinkulungwane nalokhu.
Kungani ifoni ithule?
Uma umuntu engabizi emva kosuku lokuqala, ke:
- akazange ahlatshwe umxhwele, okungukuthi, ngamanye amazwi, wayengathandi intombazane;
- bezithoba futhi banqotshwa lapho, kodwa besaba futhi banamahloni;
- uzikhokhela intengo. Yebo, kunezibonelo ezinjalo ezidlala namantombazane, njengekati elinogundane;
- akuyona inkululeko, esivele ebudlelwaneni nomunye intombazane;
- nje ufuna ukuzinika isikhathi sokuhlunga imizwa yakho;
- akafuni ushintsho. Ukuphila kwakhe kukhulu kangangokuba engakakulungeli ukuchitha isikhathi kumlingani ohlala njalo;
- uthatha ugogo waya esibhedlela, ngokushesha wagibela kwelinye idolobha ukuze abhalise ifa, okungukuthi, kwakukhona uhlobo oluthile lwamandla amakhulu;
- nje akazange ngisho ucabange ngakho.
Yiqiniso, uma indoda ingabizi futhi ingabhali, khona-ke intombazane ngokwayo inquma ukuthi ingayenza kanjani nokuthi ingabe ifowuni kuqala. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umuntu kufanele aziqhenye futhi azihloniphe, ngoba uma ubonisa isithakazelo ngokushesha, ungacacisa ngokuqondile ukuthi le ntombazane iyifinyeleleka kalula. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu eyeka ukukhala, kodwa ukuthi aziphathe kanjani, intombazane ayiyazi, khona-ke singazinika isikhathi sokucabanga - kokubili kuye nakuye. Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, abesifazane balwe futhi ngokuzithandela ngamalungelo alinganayo nabalingani babo, okwaholela kulo mphumela: amadoda ayeka ukucabangela izenzo ezenzakalelayo ngabesifazane ngokuthile okungajwayelekile, kodwa imizwa yabo nayo yaphela.
Ngakho-ke, uzibuza ukuthi kungani umuntu ayeke ukubiza nokubhala, angaboni nanoma yimaphi amaphutha kuye. Kungase kungabi khona, kodwa umfana nje ucabanga ukuthi owesifazane kufanele alungele njalo ukuphenduka kwezehlakalo ngaphandle kwesizathu.