Ubuhlobo phakathi kwesilisa nowesifazane mhlawumbe kuyisihloko esijabulisa kakhulu, okuthakazelisayo izinhliziyo zezizukulwane eziningi. Ikhodi yenkosikazi encane ikhetha umlingani wokuphila, ngakho-ke, njengomthetho, ubhekana nobunzima obuningi obuhlobene nesikhundla, iminyaka yobudala kanye nemibono ephikisayo yabalingani.
Ngeshwa, namuhla azikho izikole zokubhukuda zangaphambilini kanye nezikole lapho amantombazane afundiswa khona ukuziphatha okuhle nendlela yokuziphatha nomuntu ngesithunzi. Amantombazane anamuhla azimele, futhi azimisele, ngakho-ke baqonde lesi sayensi esithakazelisayo ngokwabo. Ukusiza abesifazane ngale ndaba enzima, sizoxoxa ngendlela owesifazane ohlakaniphile aziphatha ngayo nomuntu, ukuze ahlale ehle emehlweni akhe ezithakazelisayo kakhulu futhi ezikhangayo.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomuntu oshadile?
Kubonakala sengathi indoda enomngcele wokubambisana esandleni sakhe kanye nophawu ngomshado epasipoti yakhe ayikho into ebaluleke kakhulu yowesifazane. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kufanele kube njalo, kodwa hhayi njalo umshado womuntu - isibambiso senjabulo kuyo yonke impilo yakhe. Kunezizathu eziningi ezenza kungani "isithembu samadoda" engacabangi ukudlala ngaphandle.
Kulokhu, umbuzo wokuziphatha kahle nendoda eshadile ubuzwa amantombazane amaningi azama inhlanhla ekusebenzelaneni nabalingani "abathandwayo". Ngeshwa, ubuhlobo obunjalo buvame ukungathembeki, kepha buvutha, bugcwele izinto ezimangalisayo futhi, ngeshwa, izithembiso ezingenalutho. Ngakho-ke, indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela efanele njengomuntu onomndeni wakhe, kungcono ukuthola ngaphambi kokuba uhambe endleleni yendlela enesivunguvungu.
Kuyaziwa ukuthi bobabili badinga ubulili obukhulu kulesi simo. Ukuphila okujule kakhulu kulezi zinsuku kusebenza njengenye yezisekelo eziyinhloko zenveli ende neyithakazelisayo. Ngakho-ke, madodakazi othandekayo, kufanele uhlale uhlomile futhi uhloniphe umthandi.
Kodwa-ke, umuntu osondelene naye akakwazi ukwenza, ngoba kubalulekile ukuziphatha kahle nendoda eshadile hhayi kuphela embhedeni, kodwa futhi ekukhulumisaneni. Kumlingani, ogcwele ubudlelwane obugcwele, akazange aqale ukufuna enye indawo, athole uthando lwakhe ngokuqonda. Thola okuthile okuthakazelisayo kokubili, zama ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye ngenhloso evamile. Isibonelo, gxuma kanye nama-aqualung noma uhlele izifundo zokushayela ezihlangene ngaphandle kwedolobha.
Kunemibono eminingi ehlukene mayelana nendlela yokuziphatha kahle nangokwanele nendoda. Into esemqoka akukona ukulahlekelwa umuntu oyedwa. Kwamangalisa umlingani ngempumelelo emisha, ukutholakala, izifiso ezithakazelisayo nezingavamile. Ngezinye izikhathi uchitha isikhathi kude nomthandi wakho, ukhululekile nabangani, uhamba. Ngakho-ke uba yilokho okufisa, isifiso nokuthandwa, hhayi umfazi wesibili wesifazane omncane.
Futhi, ukudlala ngothando ehlangothini ngeke kulimale. Ngentombazane enendima yenkosikazi, injengendlela yokwelashwa yedwa futhi indlela yokugcina umlingani, lapho ebona umncintiswano, ngokushesha uqala ukunqoba inhliziyo yakho.
Kulungile ukuziphatha kanjani nendoda endala?
Namuhla siphila ezweni lapho umehluko weminyaka phakathi kombhangqwana noma inqwaba yeminyaka kuyisithiyo ebuhlotsheni. Ngakho-ke, kuvame ukuhlangana nombhangqwana ojabulayo, obukeka sengathi ubaba nomalokazana kunabathandi. Kulaba besifazane esimweni esinjalo, amathiphu ambalwa okuziphatha ngokuziphatha nomuntu omdala uyokwamukeleka kakhulu.
Khumbula into esemqoka, ungamkhumbuzi umehluko eminyakeni. Lokhu kuzosusa isithombe sonke.
Uma ungazi ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomuntu omdala kunakho, kodwa uzizwe uzwela olujulile, nesifiso sokuhlala uhlala njalo, kubalulekile ukuba ube nesineke. Okhethiweyo wakho akakwazi ukuchitha njalo ngomzuzu nawe, ngoba ukuze azuze zonke izinzuzo zamanje, kumele asebenze kanzima.
Ukwenza kube mnandi ku-knight yakho, hlonipha lokho akusho kuwe, bonisa inhlonipho ngemisebenzi yakhe yokuzilibazisa, umsebenzi, umndeni. Kodwa-ke, sicela uqaphele ukuthi amadala asebekhulile azinzile, ngakho-ke ungazenzeki futhi ungaqapheli. Phakamisa okhethiweyo ngezikhathi ezithile ngezinkumbulo ezenzekayo, empilweni esondelene nabo noma ubonise amakhono okudla ekhishini.