Intombazane ngayinye, ngokuhlukaniswa nomthandekayo wayo, iyamlahleka. Imicabango nemizwa yokuthi ukhona kanjani futhi uma ilungile, nje ungaphumi ekhanda lakhe. Ukuhlukana kuyilingo olunzima kwezinhliziyo ezimbili zothando. Izizathu zokuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside zingaba izimo ezehlukene, izimo ezingalindelekile, ukuhamba ngezinyawo ekuhambeni komndeni, kodwa kaningi endleleni yokuwa othandweni iba ibutho.
Incwadi eya ebuthweni lomfana othandekayo ingenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokumkhumbuza ukuthi hhayi kuphela umndeni wakhe nezihlobo ezilindele ukubuyela ekhaya, kodwa nawe. Bhala incwadi esitheni lakho ozithandayo ebuthweni, cishe zonke izintombi zithandana, ngoba ufuna ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho ngenye ingxenye.
Kubonakala sengathi kungaba lula kunokubhala incwadi kumfana empi? Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho kubhalwa phansi, amantombazane aqala ukulahleka futhi angazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi, indlela yokuveza imizwa yabo kangcono nokuthi yini ongayenza noma ongakwazi ukuyibhala. Uma lokhu kuqondene nawe, kufanele nje ufunde lesi sihloko ukuthi ungabhala kanjani ibutho, futhi konke kuzoba lula nokucacile.
Ungabhala kanjani ibhalela ibutho?
Ibutho liyizinkathazo kanye nemizwelo ye-draftee ngokwakhe, ngakho-ke lapho ethola isimo "esingasempi" esingavamile, lo mfana udinga ukwazi ukuthi uyamsekela kungakhathaliseki ukuhlukaniswa nokude. Ukuthola amagama afanele ukusekela othandekayo akulula neze.
Ukuze umngane wakho noma umfana athole incwadi yakho, kufanele wazi izici ezithile zokubhala izincwadi ebuthweni.
Kungani ungabhala?
- Izincwadi ezimbi mayelana nokufa kwezihlobo noma ekuqedeni ubudlelwane nesosha ngeke zimfinyelele kuye, ngoba empini zonke izincwadi zifundwa kabusha. Lokhu kuyadingeka ukuze kuvikelwe amasosha ekuphazamiseni ngokomzwelo, okuyinto ehambisana nokutholakala kwezikhali zempi kungaholela emiphumeleni eyingozi.
- Kule ncwadi futhi akudingekile ukuhlambalaza othandekayo nganoma yini, ngoba isimo sakhe sengqondo sizinzile kakhulu manje futhi angathatha konke afunde ngokuseduze kakhulu nenhliziyo yakhe.
Yini engingayibhala encwadini?
- Uqala kanjani incwadi ebuthweni? Veza imizwa yakho ngabathandekayo, ngitshele ukuthi ulahlekelwa umama wakho futhi ulinde ukubuya kwakhe. Faka "Ngikuthanda" ngobuqotho encwadini eya kumuntu othandekayo wakho. Ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukukhuluma ngokuthi uyaziqhenya ngokuthi ukhonza empini futhi unikeza umsebenzi wakhe ezweni lakubo.
- Ukuze ubhale incwadi enhle kumfana ebuthweni, faka enye into emvilophini, kungase ibe yinye i-amulet noma eyakho
isithombe, yilolu daba oluhle olunikeza incwadi yakho ngobuqotho futhi ikusize ekuvezeni imizwa yakho. - Buza ukuthi usebenza kanjani, kwenzekani kuye. Encwadini yokuphendula, okhethiweyo wakho uzochaza konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, ngaleyo ndlela, ukukhipha okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphakathi okuhlangene. Lokhu kuzokwenza isosha liqiniseke ukuthi akakukhathaleli futhi imizwa yakho ngaye iqotho kunanini ngaphambili.
Ungayinaki izinhlamvu. Yiqiniso, ungabiza isoka lakho, kepha kholwa, ingxoxo yocingo ngeke ifaniswe nencwadi ebhalwe ngesandla sakho, ezohlala njalo. Ukubhala ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwezincwadi kumuntu othandekayo kusondelene kakhulu nabathandi ababili, ngoba ekude banesikhathi sokucabanga ngamaphutha abo. Ekuhlukaneni, izinhliziyo zothando ziqonda izimbangela zazo zonke izingxabano ezavela ngaphambili, futhi zithola izimpendulo zemibuzo eminingi yokuthandana okuba nesithakazelo, okusiza ukuba benze kangcono nakakhulu.