Kuzo zonke izinto zokuphila komuntu kunomthetho wenjabulo. Kwabanye, kusemsebenzini, abanye bayakujabulela ukuba nophahla phezu kwamakhanda abo, abanye bangacabangi bengenasici. Kodwa kunzima ukuqhathanisa noma yini ngomzwelo lapho uthando olubili luba khona ekuphileni. Uhlangana kaningi, futhi labo abakwazi ukuqonda lo mzwelo bangabhekwa njengenhlanhla ngokufanele. Kodwa yini ongayenza kulabo abangakabi nelenhlanhla ukuhlangabezana nengxenye yabo yesibili? Ikakhulukazi kulabo abangabaza ukuthi kukhona uthando lomunye nomunye emhlabeni futhi lesi sihloko sidalwe.
Ingabe kukhona uthando lomunye?
Ngokuvamile ukuthi akukho uthando, tshela labo abake bashise ngalesi sizwe esibonakala sengathi sizwakalayo. Phela, uma kuwukuthi kuphela kuletha injabulo, labo abathandayo, kodwa abathandwayo, kwakudingeka bahlangabezane nenhlekelele yangempela empilweni yabo. Akukho okubi kakhulu kunokungatholakali komuntu othandekayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, emphakathini wanamuhla, umqondo onjengoba uthando lwangempela lwababili luye lwavame kakhulu. Imishado yaqala ukuba nezinzuzo, ngemali kanye nesimo esiphakeme, kanye nesitayela sokuthi "ngendiza." Uthando njengokuzizwa komunye nomunye luye lwayeka ukuvela ngendlela ehlanzekile. Kodwa kusekhona. Futhi ukuze uphendule umbuzo wokuthi ungayifeza kanjani uthando olulodwa, kubalulekile ukuthatha izinyathelo ezimbili ezibalulekile: ukufunda ukuzithanda ngokwakho nazo zonke izinkimbinkimbi zakho kanye nokwehluleka kwakho, futhi ulahle amaphutha avamile okwenziwa yiwo wonke umzuzwana ubuhlobo obuvumelanayo.
Indlela yokuheha uthando lomunye?
Cishe wonke umuntu owake wazitshela ukuthi: "Ngifuna uthando olulodwa," aluniki ukuthi livela ekujuleni komphefumulo. Ungaziphatheka kanjani ngokugxeka futhi ulinde ukuthi omunye umuntu angakuthanda kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini?
- Yingakho into yokuqala okudingayo ukuqala ukuzithanda wena, umzimba wakho kanye nemikhuba yakho. Ziqonde ukuthi uhlukile futhi awunakwenzeka. Omunye angase athande ngomsindo wakho, kodwa uhlale ukhululekile. Omunye uzothanda umzimba wakho, futhi uyawufihla ngama-hoodies nezingubo ezingenakuhleleka. Gxuma izingxube zezinkimbinkimbi, futhi uzobona ukuthi cishe wonke umuntu wadalwa ngothando.
- Isitatimende esithandanayo sodwa kuphela asiyiqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuphambene nokuqonda okuvamile, ukuze kuhlangatshezwe nomuzwa ozwakalayo, umuntu kufanele afunde kuqala ukuthanda, ngaphandle kokulindela noma yini ekubuyiseni. Uthando cishe luyisisulu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa ngenxa yokuphindaphinda, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthatha izingozi, ukuthethelela, ukubekezelela nokulinda.
- Uma ngabe sihlala ekhaya futhi silindele ukuthi lolu luthando olufanayo luze, singaphila kuze kube sesikhulile kakhulu ngaphandle kokuthola ubuhlobo. Ufuna ukuthandwa? Khona-ke ungafihli ekhaya ngaphansi komugqa obhokisini lama-chocolate kanye nendaba yothando. Phuma uye ekukhanyeni. Bonisa umhlaba ubuhle nobuntu bayo. Futhi kungekudala kuyoba khona umuntu ozobona futhi azisa konke lokhu.
- Ukuthola othandekayo eceleni kwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala entanyeni futhi ungaceli ukwamukelwa njalo ngomzuzwana othandweni. Ngakho, umbuzo wendlela yokwazi ukuthi uthando luthandana alukaze luxazululwe. Yibani othandekayo, ukwesekwa nokusekelwa. Zizinikele ngenxa yakhe nangesikhathi esiningi, ngezenzo zakhe, wena ngokwakho uzoqonda ukuthi uyithande kangakanani. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuqashelwa kwakho njalo othandweni, sms-ki kanye nemizamo
ukukhuluma ngobudlelwane kungenza uhlukanise umlingani wakho kuphela. - Khumbula ukuthi othandekayo unelungelo lokukhululeka. Izinyoni azibaleki emgodini ovulekile. Ngakho ungamgcini umuntu oseduze nawe, futhi uma ekuthanda ngempela, kodwa ngeke abuyele kuphela, kodwa futhi unqume ukungashiyi nhlobo.
Uthando lwamaqiniso kufanele luhlangane. Kodwa uma kufanele uzishise futhi uhlangane nomuntu ongenhloso yokuphendula imizwa yakho, sebenzisa leli cala njengesibonelo sokusebenza amaphutha. Ungathukutheleli labo abangaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi nawe, uziphelele futhi omunye uzokutshela amazwi othando owawulinde isikhathi eside.