Uthando - uhlabelelwa yizimbongi. Ingqondo yakho iye yazama iminyaka eyikhulu izazi zefilosofi ezinkulu. Izazi zengqondo zikulungele ukuvuselela phansi kakhulu phansi kwe-subconscious futhi zihlukanise ingqondo ngaphansi kwe-microscope, ukuze ivule imvelo yakho. Omunye ucabanga ukuthi uyisipho sasezulwini, omunye ubiza wena ukuthi ukhona, kumuntu onesifo, kodwa kumuntu ongekho nje.
Kodwa masishiye izigaba zefilosofi manje, ake sibuyele emhlabeni oyisono, bese sizama ukuqonda ukuthi yini - uthando, nokuthi lubonakala kanjani.
Indlela yokuqonda - uyayithanda, noma umkhuba nje?
Ngokuvamile ungase uzwe ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, noma yikuphi, ngisho nobuhlobo obunothando kakhulu bulahlekelwa intsha yabo, futhi uthando luyalalalala kancane kancane, luyeke, kahle, luthandane futhi luhlonipheke, futhi nakakhulu umkhuba wokuba ndawonye. Izinhlamvu ezilinganiselwe kulesi sitatimende, yiqiniso, kodwa, mhlawumbe, i-categorical kakhulu. Yiqiniso, emva kweminyaka eminingi esichitha ndawonye kunzima ukulindela ebuhlotsheni besivunguvungu esifanayo sokufutheka njengasezinyangeni zokuqala zokuzijwayeza. Umuntu ujwayela konke, kokubili okuhle nokubi, futhi ulahlekelwa yinto enhle yezinzwa, ejikeleze ikhanda ekuqaleni kwenveli (ngendlela, uma sikhuluma nge-biochemistry yomzimba womuntu, kukhona ukulutha komzimba we-oxytocin, into edala uthando, futhi inesibopho isimo esihle). Kodwa iminyaka ayilonakali uthando ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngokuvamile ziyihumusha zibe yinye imfanelo: futhi ngenxa yothando olujulile lomzwelo umuzwa wangempela ojulile, nakuba ungabonakali kakhulu, kodwa okwazi ukufudumala izimpilo zethu ngokufudumala kweminyaka eminingi, ukhula.
Lo mzwa kunzima ukudideka nomkhuba, kodwa isimiso sezindaba zansuku zonke noma ukucindezeleka isikhathi eside kungenza kube nokungabaza ngobuqiniso bayo. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ngabe lolu thando, cabanga nje ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani uma usuvuka futhi uthole ukuthi lowo owahamba nawe empilweni wanyamalala phakade. Uma impendulo inguye-kahle, ngiyabonga uNkulunkulu, kubonakala sengathi izalwa kabusha, mhlawumbe uhlotshaniswe nokuthile okungahambisani nothando. Kodwa-ke, kungcono ukuthi ungadonsa ekushiseni, kodwa ukuvakashela isazi sengqondo somndeni - mhlawumbe akusikho konke okulahlekile.
Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso langempela?
Ngaphezulu kwakuwumbuzo othi "imibhangqwana" enokuhlangenwe nakho, kodwa umbuzo wemvelo yemizwa eye yavutha, ngezinye izikhathi ivakashela labo labo ubuhlobo babo buqala nje nje. Kulesi simo, lokhu kuyisimo esishayisayo - ngoba ukungabaza okunjalo kungavela ebuhlotsheni ekuqaleni. Isikhathi nje sokuthandana asithathi isikhathi sokuzifunela. Nakuba, kungenzeka futhi ukhethe kanjalo, lapho uthola ngokwengeziwe umuntu, uma uqala ukumthanda ngokwengeziwe. Ngenye indlela, kufanelekile ukulinda ukuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi, futhi uma ukungabaza kuzonyuka kuphela, kungenzeka ukuthi akuyona umuntu odingekayo.