Manje yisikhathi lapho abantu bacabanga ukuthi inkululeko iyigugu, futhi uthando alukho kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaningi bahlala emshadweni womphakathi, njengoba kuwumkhuba wokubiza ngokuhlelekile. Babonakala bebonke, kodwa kubonakala sengathi wonke umuntu ukhululekile. Ukukhathala - ukuhlukana, ungayi ehhovisi lokubhalisa, wenze isehlukaniso. Njengokungathi, ngesikhathi sekhefu nomuntu othandekayo, into enzima kakhulu ukuya ehhovisi lokubhalisa isitifiketi sokuhlukanisa.
Ngokuvamile owesifazane ungene emshadweni womphakathi, ngoba ufuna, kodwa akwazi ukushada ngempela (ngomqondo, ngokusemthethweni, ngomshado nokubhaliswa). Ulindele ukuthi indoda ejwayele kuye izofuna ukwenza ubudlelwane busemthethweni. Futhi ithemba lakhe liqinisekiswa ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi amanye amadoda enza lokho. Kodwa kwenzeka kaningi, ngoba umqondo womshado osemthethweni awuthandeki kuwo wonke amadoda.
Noma, mhlawumbe, kuyoba okulungile ukusho ukuthi iningi lihle elifanayo elikhangayo, kodwa kungcono hhayi lapha futhi manje, kodwa kwenye indawo nakamuva. Kungani kufanele uchithe ubusha bakho, le minyaka yegolide, emshadweni othakazelisayo: izimbiza, izindiza, ukuphikisana nomkakho, ukumemeza umntwana, ukungabi namali futhi ushiye uninazala ezweni? Uma kujabulisa kakhulu "ukuhlala nje": awunazo izingane, akukho izinkinga. Owesifazane othanda - lapha ukhona, kutholakale kalula, uyamsiza futhi uyasiza (usazethemba isitembu epasipoti yakhe futhi ufuna ukufakazela ukuthi yilokho akudingayo), akukho sidingo sezingane, umkhwekazi, ngaphezu kwalokho. Ngezinye izikhathi indoda iyavumelana nezingane uma ukusebenzisana sekuphumelele: nje ukugcina izibalo ze-quo. Konke ngoba amadoda amaningi, angena emshadweni okuthiwa umshado, awafuni ukushada nhlobo. Futhi ngani? Banebhodi ephelele yamahhala (noma ephansi kakhulu), ehlanganisa amasevisi wezocansi.
Kungani indoda engafuni ukushada nomlingani wesifazane?
Kodwa kungani amantombazane avuma lokhu? Ngifuna ngempela ukuvela kuwo wonke umuntu futhi mina ngokwami unanamuhla futhi ozimele? Kungcono ukuthi ucabange ukuthi lo mfana, ongenele iminyaka engu-25, uzoqeda iminyaka yakhe eyishumi, abe ngumsebenzi omuhle nomuntu ozimele, uzofuna ukuguqula impilo yakhe, alahle ama-slippers ashaqelekile kanye nenkosikazi yangaphambili, i-podnadoevshuyu. Futhi nangu-ke, osemncane, omuhle, owanelisayo, ngemoto ethengwe imali yokubonga, ngenxa yemali yokubambisana, uyahamba efuna indodakazi yenkosikazi, futhi "owayengumfazi womphakathi" wangaphambili nje uhlala - ehlaba izingxube zakhe, ekhala emceleni futhi ebuza: kungani indoda engafuni mshade naye, isancinza esinikezele kangaka?
Ngakho-ke, akafuni ukuba ngumlingani wesifazane. Futhi ngo-35 akuyona intsha yokuqala, uzothola kangcono, futhi athande ... Hhayi, kahle, uthando seludlulile ...
Lokhu kungukuthi, ukukhuluma nje, lowo ohlala naye akafuni ukushada, ngoba kakade unakho konke manje intombazane engamnika yona kuphela emva komshado, futhi okunye okunye: ilungelo lokuvuka futhi ushiye lapho ekhukhumezekile noma ephenduka into engcono.
Yini okumelwe yenziwe uma indoda engafuni ukushada, kodwa ifuna "umshado womphakathi"? Kungcono ukukutshela ngokukhululekile ukuthi uphendule umlomo wakho futhi unqume ukuthi yini ngempela ayifunayo: umshado noma "inkululeko." Esimweni sokuqala - kunomshado osemthethweni, uvikela amalungelo kwanoma yimuphi umuntu, kuhlanganise nezingane ezinokwenzeka, futhi, ngakho-ke, intombazane iyavuma ukucabangela lesi siphakamiso. Ngesibili - usevele ekhululekile. Kungani kufanele ushintshe noma yini?
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani indoda ingafuni ukushada nomlingani wesifazane, kodwa into esemqoka, mhlawumbe, ukuthi akafuni ukushintsha noma yini.