Muva nje, uvame ukuthi uzwe ngezinye izindlela zobuciko ezikuvumela ukuba ushintshe impilo yakho ibe ngcono. Lezi zihlanganisa uhlelo lwe-NLP - neurolinguistic, olubizwa nangokuthi inqubo yokuhlukumeza ingqondo. Ikuvumela ukuba uhoxise i-interlocutor eceleni kwakho ngaphandle kwezinkolelo ezinde futhi uletha ubufakazi obuningi. Ubuhle be-NLP ukuthi akukho mthelela "ebunzini." Umuntu uqiniseka ngobuqotho ukuthi yonke imishwana ekhulunywe yi-interlocutor ibonisa imicabango yakhe, kodwa ngubani ongavumelani naye? Kuzoxoxisana nabachwepheshe, amakhono anjalo akudingekile, kodwa ingabe i-NLP ingaba usizo kumantombazane afuna ukuthandwa ngabantu besilisa ohlukile?
Amasu we-NLP wabesifazane ngosuku
Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuthi manje asikhulumi ngendoda yokunciphisa - sonke sisetshenziselwa ukucabanga ngokwehlelo elithile, abambalwa kuphela abanokucabanga kwangempela okungavamile, kepha lezi zindlela azizisebenzisi. Futhi, ungasebenzisi i-NLP ukuxhumana nalabo abajwayele lezi zindlela - akekho othanda ukuphathwa. Futhi kumuntu osebenza njalo ne-NLP, ngokwesibonelo, kumqondisi wezokwelapha noma ochwepheshe ekukhangiseni, imizamo yakho nhlobo kuyoba yinto engafaneleki. Ngakho qaphela.
Ngakho-ke, yini engasiza amasu e-NLP abesifazane ngosuku?
- Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi amadoda adinga ukudunyiswa. Ngakho yenza! Uma wazi nganoma yikuphi ukungaphumeleli noma ukuthi uzotholakala emhlanganweni, udumise indoda, uguqule amaphutha akhe abe yizintandokazi. Isibonelo, uzokukhononda ngokukhukhumeza kwakhe, amqinisekise ukuthi kuhle kakhulu.
- Khumbula ukuthi abathandi bathintana kanjani - banezinkulumo ezifanayo, izinkulumo, ngisho nezenzo. Lokhu konke ngoba basesilinganisweni esifanayo, babheka umhlaba ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa ngubani owathi awukwazi ukungena kumagagasi omunye umuntu emhlanganweni wokuqala? Zama ukuthatha iphutha elifanayo kuqala, uma lingabangeli ukwenqatshwa, zama ukukopisha izinkulumo nezenzo. Yenza nje lokho okungahambi kahle, ukuze ungenzi umqondo wokuthi nje uhleka umuntu.
- Ukukhulumisana ngakudala kwamantombazane amaningi ngosuku kuvinjelwe, kodwa i-NLP ikhuthaza izingxoxo ezinjalo. Buza lo muntu lokho ayekuthanda nge-intombi yakhe yangaphambili, ake akhumbule zonke izinto ezinhle ezisebuhlotsheni babo. Bese uqhubeka nokuncoma, ukhulume kuphela njengokungathi egameni lakhe, isibonelo "mhlawumbe wayebathande izandla zakho ezinamandla kakhulu". Isinyathelo esilandelayo indoda idinga ukuphumula, ngenxa yalokhu inamba encane yotshwala noma umdanso omncane kahle. Mayelana nendawo ekhulayo yalowo muntu uzotshela isifiso sakhe sokuvumelanisa nawe. Hlola ukuqagela kwakho ngokushintsha i-intonation yakho noma i-pose. Uma i-interlocutor ezama ukuyikopisha - kungokwakho. Bheka ukuphendula komlingani wakho, lapho ephindaphindiwe, uye othintana naye oseduze - thinta isandla, cindezela kancane kancane. Uma lokhu kungabangeli ukusabela kwakhe okungalungile, qhubeka, uma umuntu edonsela emuva - buyela emuva engxoxweni.
- Okufanele ukwenze ngokulandelayo kuncike kuwe. Ufuna ukusondelana, qhubeka ne-caresses yakho. Ufuna umuntu ukuba acabange ngawe, aphele ngaphandle kwencazelo, tshela ukuthi usheshe. Umphumela kufanele ube! Iqiniso liwukuthi nge-trance enjalo futhi
izinkumbulo ezinhle zalabo ababengaphambili, le ndoda iqala ukuhlanganisa imizwa yakhe enhle nawe.
Yiqiniso, lokhu akuwona wonke amasu we-NLP angabasiza abesifazane, kunezincwadi eziningi kule ndaba. Isibonelo, "Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, baye baphila ngokujabulisayo ngemuva kwesikhathi" (L. Cameron-Baedler) noma "NLP. Imidlalo lapho abesifazane bethola khona "(u-Anwar Bakirov). Ngakho-ke, uma ubuciko bokuxhaphaza kukuthandayo, funda, uzame futhi uphumelele impumelelo. Yiqiniso, ngokuvamile abantu basuke behamba ngezinyawo hhayi ngenxa ye-NLP yowesifazane, kodwa ngenxa yobuciko bokuba ngowesifazana - ithenda, kodwa elifuna, elimnandi, kodwa elinamahlumela.