Umsuka wepipu uphindela kulezo zikhathi zakudala lapho abesifazane bekhohliswa nguDon Juan, Giacomo Casanova. Pikaper wamanje - ngubani lo? Umcwaningi wesimo sabantu besifazane noma indoda enokuzijabulisa ngokobulili nje kuphela, kanye namantombazane enkosikazi ekuzilibazisa kwakhe okuthakazelisayo?
Ubani umculi we-pick-up?
E-intanethi, isithombe sekhasi sinemikhuba engathandeki futhi sibangela ukufutheka kobulili obuhle. Ubani umuntu othole? Lo ngumuntu usebenzisa amasu athile okuqamba amantombazane ukuze athole ubulili futhi apheleke kusukela ekugcineni kwawo ukuze anqobe okulandelayo. I-pic ingaqhathaniswa nesithombe senhlanzi ephuma embali kuya embali.
Iphepheni ngesitayela sepop - kuyini?
Kuyini i-pickup - ngo-1992 umlobi waseMelika uPaul Jeffrey encwadini yakhe ethi "Indlela yokuhudula owesifazane wamaphupho akho elele" ebizwa ngokuthi le nqubo umholi ongcolile wokudukisa amadoda asekhathele ngokuba okuhle, kodwa ehluleka ukulwa nobulili obuhlukile. Khetha ekuhumusheni kusuka ku-English. slang pick up - "pick up", "phuma" - ubuciko ukuhenduka okusheshayo, ezavela eNtshonalanga. Umhlangano ngesitayela sekhasi uhlala ekubusweni "kokuvakashelwa okungu-3":
- Isigaba sokuqala - ukujwayela. Ukufuna intombazane ezindaweni zomphakathi: i-metro, amapaki, amaqembu. Umgomo ukuthola inombolo yocingo (engekho ngaphezu kwemizuzu engu-15).
- Usuku lokuqala - ikhefu idala isimo sokuthembela, isebenzisa ukukhanya okukhanyayo, ukubukeka okungenangqondo. Ukugcizelelwa konke kugxile kwengxoxo yentombazane ngaye, ihlale iqondisa kulo mzila. Umgomo ukuvusa isithakazelo (akudingi ngaphezu kwehora), nokuthi umhlangano wenziwa.
- Ukuqokwa kwesibili ukukhwabanisa ngezandla: ukumbumbulula, ukushaya, ukucindezela, ukuzama ukukhombisa ukuthi uthathwe intombazane. Isikhathi sinqunyelwe emahoreni angu-4-5. Umgomo womhlangano ukuguquka ngokushelelekile emhlanganweni wesi-3 kanye nesiphetho esinengqondo sobulili bakhe, noma uma intombazane ingakalungi, simemele okwesithathu.
- Usuku lwesithathu . Umgomo ubulili. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuqoqa "ngengozi" kukhumbula ukuthi kunendawo eyodwa enhle eyindlu yakhe, noma indawo yokuhlala yabangane.
Iyini iloli elihle?
Noma iyiphi inqubo inehlangothini elibi nelungile. Leli phepha ekuhumusheni kwanamuhla lihlukaniswe ngamagagasi: i-pics engcolile nokukhohlisa ngamabomu. Akubona bonke abantu abakwazi ukujwayele futhi baziphathe ngokukhululekile nabesifazane. Omunye unenhloni yemvelo, abanye banezinto eziningi eziyinkimbinkimbi ngemali yabo siqu, kodwa bahlangane nesifiso sokujwayela intombazane ngobuhlobo obude. Imikhiqizo yeloli yamaphoyisa yaqaphela:
- ukubona owesifazane umuntu onezwe lakhe elingaphakathi elicebile;
- ukutadisha ulimi lomzimba ukuze kuqaphele izimpawu, lapho intombazane ingenakukwazi ukujwayele;
- ukuguqulwa komuntu siqu;
- sebenzisa ngokuzethemba;
- ukutadisha ukwesaba okuvela kokwazi
Yini engalungile ngeloli yokupaka?
I-Psychological of Pickup yakhiwe ngamasu aqondisayo wehlelo lwezinhlelo ze-neurolinguistic (NLP) eyasungulwa nguRichard Bendler. Ukusetshenziswa kwamaqhinga kuhileleke ngezindlela ezibonakalayo zokubheka: ukukhuluma ngokweqile, okuzwakalayo, okubonwayo, isisulu sepikethi senziwa ngohlobo lwe-trance, charm charm. Pikaper ongcolile - ngubani lo? Isigaba samadoda lapho umoya wokuncintisana nobuhle ufika kuqala. Amasu asebenzisa ukukhethwa:
- Iphikisana nezimiso zokuziphatha.
- Zihloswe ekunciphiseni ukuzihlonipha kwentombazane. Kulezi zimo, sebenzisa i-banter, amahlaya ahlukahlukene (angagqoke imfashini, izinwele zinezinwele, njll).
- Gxilisa imizwa, imizwelo. Kungaba nezimo ezingafani: uthando lwezilwane, ukuthanda ukuhamba nokukhuluma ngenkuthalo ngakho. Amantombazane asabela emoyeni okunjalo, okusho ukuthi - ukuqoqa kuye kwafinyeleleka ekufezeni umgomo wayo.
Indlela yokubona umculi we-pickup?
Abesifazane abaningi ababhekana nomdlalo wokungathembeki wesilisa babuza lo mbuzo: indlela yokuqaphela i-pickup empilweni, ukuze bangabi nesimo esibuhlungu sokuthi "sebenzisa" futhi. Qaphela le "macho" ingaba ngesisekelo se:
- Kube khona ukungathandeki lapho kuxhumana.
- Umbuso ongekho ohlangene: izenzo, imizwelo, ukubonakala komzimba, ukuthinta, imizwa iphikisana. Kubonisa injabulo - ngamahlombe nasemagumbini omlomo wehlisa, izingalo zawela phambi kwesifuba.
- Kunakekelwa okuningi ekubukeni: i-hairstyle engenakulungiswa, amakhaya abizayo.
- Ukuqala kwe-pikaper ufuna ukuthola ngokushesha ukuthintana ucingo kwintombazane futhi ufihle, "isipiliyoni" sizokwenza ingxoxo isikhathi esithile.
- Ingxoxo iqala ngemishwana engejwayelekile-engabandakanyi ukujwayela.
- Indlela yokuhlukanisa umculi we-pickup ovela kunesithakazelo esiqotho: ukuzikhomba ngokwazo kubonisa izindawo zokuvakashelwa lapho kungekho sidingo sokukhokha intombazane.
Muva nje, i-baton ye-pick-up ithathwe ngabamele abesilisa ababuthakathaka. Owesifazane ongu-Pikaper - ngubani lo futhi yiliphi iphephandaba lesifazane elihlukile kumfana? Amantombazane asebenzisa izindlela ezifanayo zokuthandana, kodwa umgomo omkhulu ungahluka: ukuhlukanisa ngemali, ukuqoqa amadoda, noma ukushada. Owesifazane angakwazi ukuhlangana namadoda amaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi wonke umuntu uzoqiniseka ukuthi nguye kuphela.
Indlela yokuxhumana nomculi we-pick-up?
I-Pikaper ngumuntu oya emgomweni wakhe, kulokhu ukukhohlisa nokucansi. Intombazane into ayifuni ukuyazi, kodwa ithatha njengomklomelo wokwenza umzamo othile. Uma owesifazane eqonda lokho ngaphambi kokuba umkhohlisi wakhe ekukhulumeni nomculi we-pick-up ungasebenzisa amasu:
- Ziqaphele kuye ngokwakhe, ubuze imibuzo eminingi mayelana nokuphila kwakhe, umndeni wakhe.
- Yeka ukuzithoba nokuncoma ekhelini lakho: phendula "Yebo, ngiyazi ukuthi yini enhle (i-smart, i-athletic)".
- Ukuze uqondiswe ukuzola nokulinganisela kwangaphakathi, ngokushesha nje lapho kunomuzwa wokungahambi kahle engxoxweni - ukumisa ingxoxo, ngokubhekisela emisebenzini.
Ungathandana kanjani nomculi we-pick-up?
Indoda - umdukisi - uyindoda evamile enezinkinga zakhe futhi naye, akanakukwazi ukuthanda "umhlatshelo" wakhe. Ubudlelwane nomculi we-pick-up kungenzeka futhi, okwesikhathi esithile, uzoxhunyaniswa nentombazane eyayivusa imizwa yakhe, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ubudlelwane obuqinile esikhathini esizayo akufanelekile ukulinda. Amadoda abambe iqhaza ekunqobeni kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangenwe nakho ngamunye ayencike kule ndlela yokuphila.
Ungadonsa kanjani i-pickup?
Izindlela zokudweba abaculi nazo zingasetshenziswa ngokumelene nabakhohlisayo ngokwabo:
- kubangela kuye umuzwa wokungalapheki (izinwele ziqhutshiwe, ukulungiswa kwekhanda ezindala);
- khetha indawo yomhlangano ngokwawo: i-cinema, i-cafe (i-pic ayivumelani, inendlela yakhe "yamahhala");
- mcele ukuthi akhulume ngaye futhi aqondise ingxoxo ngaye (akayithandi, ngoba ukulawulwa kwakhe kulahlekile).
Ezinye izindlela:
- ukungazinaki: ungaphenduli izingcingo, ama-imeyili. Ungaphendula, kodwa uhlehlisele umhlangano ngolunye usuku lwesonto, bese uhamba futhi. Isikhathi eside lokhu ngeke kuqhubeke, i-pikaper izoshiya yedwa iphinde ithathe enye.
- Ukugwema ukuthintana ngokomzimba, okuyinto ethanda kakhulu ukusebenzisa abakhohlisa.
Indlela yokufundisa isifundo kumculi we-pick-up?
Ukuziphatha kwe-pick-up kubangela ukuthukuthela kumantombazane ahlangabezane nalesi simo okokuqala. Amaforamu wabesifazane axoxa ngentshisekelo ezindabeni ezihlobene nekhwalithi ye-pickup kanye namantombazane akhungethwe iphupho lokuphumula. Ukuze ufundise isifundo kumuntu oyedwa, ungamthanda naye bese uyeka, upheleke empilweni yakhe - yilokho abesifazane abakucabangayo. Kumuntu - ubuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuzomenza ashintshe.