Ngaso sonke isikhathi kwabesifazane kwakukhona imithetho yokuziphatha namadoda. I-modernity yenze izinguquko zayo, futhi abesifazane basuke benombono wabo wokusebenzisana nobulili obuhlukile, kodwa ezinye izinto zihlala zingashintshi. Futhi konke ngoba abathandekayo bethu abashintshi, bayathanda ukuzizwa benqobile abanqobile bezinhliziyo zabesifazane nabamakhosi besimo. Ake sibanike leli thuba, asinandaba.
Indlela yokuziphatha kahle nendoda?
- Ukutshela ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomuntu, unganquma kuphela ukuthi siyidinga yini le ndoda - izinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqeda ukudabuka, ukuhlukunyezwa noma ubuhlobo obude. Esikhathini sokuqala azikho imithetho ekhethekile, ukungakhathaleli okukhulu nokukhulula, akukho tricks kanye nezindaba mayelana nekati eligulayo. Izinkinga zansuku zonke yizitha eziyinhloko zokuzijabulisa. Kodwa imithetho ehlukene kakhulu yokuziphatha namadoda kufanele ilandelwe abesifazane abangefuni ukuqeda ingxoxo ngezinsuku ezimbalwa. Lapha, izimangaliso zokuzivumelanisa nezimo kuzodingeka ziboniswe kanye nokuqamba okuncane ukufudumala isithakazelo kumuntu futhi hhayi ukumethusa ngokuzibusa ngokweqile.
- Indlela yokuziphatha nomuntu emihlanganweni yokuqala, ukuba ufanane naye? Qinisekisa ukulalela indoda yakho bese uzama ukuyizwa. Uma nje uzenza sengathi ulalele, kodwa empeleni ulahlekelwa konke okwenzekile ezindlebeni zakho ezinhle, khona-ke indoda iyoqonda ukuthi ayikho isithakazelo, futhi iyokhohliswa iyocasuka.
- Ngokuvamile amantombazane azama ukuveza zonke izimfanelo zabo ezinhle kakhulu emhlanganweni wokuqala, futhi abonise ngisho nokuziphatha kwabo bezingelosi, abangenalo nhlobo. Ngakho-ke, futhi-noma yikuphi ukukhohlisa kuyokwembulwa ngempela, futhi umuntu ohlala kuwe uzodumazeka. Ukuze uzibonise wonke emihlanganweni yokuqala akudingekile kwenye isizathu. Amadoda amaningi angabashayeli abangapheli, abalandeli bama-charades kanye namapuzzles e-crossword. Uma, ngemva kwemihlangano embalwa, indoda iyaqaphela ukuthi kakade akukho okuzoxazulula futhi kunqobe, khona-ke owesifazane uzoyeka ukumthakazelisa.
- Bheka izithakazelo ezivamile, kufanele kube namaphoyinti amaningi okuxhumana nalo muntu. Ukulala, Yebo, kuhle, kodwa hhayi okwanele. Ngakho thola mayelana nokuzilibazisa kwakhe, mhlawumbe nawe uzothathwa yilo. Noma vele ukuzijabulisa okuthakazelisayo kokubili.
- Kodwa ungazami ukuba nendoda ngaso sonke isikhathi, uphishekele kuye, njengethunzi. Esikhathini esiteji sokuhlala (nangemva kwalokho) umuntu akakwazi ukuthatha inkululeko kuye, zama ukumisela izimo zakhe kuye. Indoda ethandwayo inamandla kakhulu ngenxa yowesifazane - ukukhohlwa abangane nokuzilibazisa, kodwa noma ngabe udinga ukuba abe njalo. Emva kwakho konke, wathandana naye ngokuzikhethela kwakhe, ngakho ungayishintshi.
- Ungesabi ukuphikisana nokuxabana - kuzokwenzekani ngempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukungavumelani okuncane kuyadingeka ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ubudlelwane abuyinto engavamile. Funda ukwenza ama-scandals awusizo. Into esemqoka akuyona ukuyiqeda futhi ubonise ukuthi zonke lezi zimpikiswano zingenxa yokuthi uyamdinga, uyamkhumbula, futhi wayengekho. Indoda yakho izozizwa ivikela. Dlala ku-"hot-hot", uhluke, khona-ke indoda ngeke ikwazi ukukhathala ngokuxazulula imfumbe enomdla.
- Njengoba unqobe indoda, ungayeki kulokho okufeziwe, ungacabangi ukuthi manje ungathula phansi. Gcina kuye umuzwa wothando, uvuselele isithakazelo sakhe kuye. Ngemva kokulwa, kufanele uvuselele imizwelo emihle, indoda kufanele ibe nawe kahle, ngokunethezeka.
- Qaphela ukuba ubangele umakhethi wakho, ukudlala ngothando nabanye abantu. Abameleli abaningi bobulili obuhlukile baphathelene nokuziphatha okufanayo. Ngakho sebenzisa le nqubo ukuvuselela ukukhathazeka, kuphela ekusebenziseni okugcina.