Uthando ekuboneni kokuqala ngumzwelo othanda kakhulu futhi ... ophikisanayo. Abakholelwa kuwo, kodwa balindele ngasese, bayalilahla, liphefumulelwe ukudala amafilimu, izinkondlo, izincwadi. Sizindla ukuthi kukhona yini uthando ekuboneni kuqala, yiziphi izimpawu zalo nokuthi yikuphi, empeleni, lo mzwa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukholelwa othandweni ekuqaleni kokubona?
Ukungakholelwa othandweni ekuboneni kokuqala, njengombuso, kuza kithi eminyakeni edlule, ngemuva kokuchungechunge kokudumazeka kanye ... nesipiliyoni. Sifunda ukungazethembi, futhi ukwesaba lokho okuzosilimaza ngakho, kukhula futhi kuhlobise ngombala onobudlova. Futhi-ke kufika umzuzwana lapho singaba khona ukuthi asikholelwa, sinqabe ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona uthando ekuqaleni kokubona (naphezu kokungakholelwa kwanoma yikuphi ukungaqiniseki kunoma iyiphi indlela). Kodwa kuhle ukucabanga ukuthi ngamunye kithi emzuzwini olandelayo angabulawa ngomqondo ocacile nokuqonda (naphezu kokuphefumula) ngalokho okuwukuphila.
I-Psychology, njengomthetho, ibheka uthando ekuboneni kokuqala ngokusebenzisa i-prism yokuqonda ukuthi uthando ngumzwelo ongekho ngokushesha, kudinga isikhathi sokukhipha isipiliyoni esihlangene. Ngesikhathi esifanayo kubhekwa ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingaphezu kwesikhashana ukukhetha ngokukhetha umlingani othile. Ngemasekhondi angu-90 ubuchopho buphumelela ekufaniseni isithombe se-ekahle (ekubukeni kwethu) ozakwethu nesithombe somfokazi. Uma ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kukhetha kungalungiswa esikhathini esizayo, kungani ungakuqapheli uthando ekuqaleni kokubona?
Izinkinga zothando ekuqaleni kokubona
Okubhekwa njengokuthandwa ekuqaleni kokubona. Njengomthetho, umhlangano wokuqala ushiwo, ngoba isimo sokuvela kwalolu hlobo lothando akudingeki ukuba sibe yi-glance kanye kuphela. Kubonakala ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi sisesimweni lapho kukhona khona umuntu oye wafika ngokuzumayo yonke into eyaziwayo (noma kunalokho, ingqondo engaziqondi), njengokungathi "siyayibona", isusa isithombe esixukwini esingenasici. Inkinga ukuthi "ukuqashelwa" kusho ukudweba okuzenzakalelayo kwesithombe, ocabanga ukuthi uyazi ngemininingwane yokugcina. Ukudumazeka kuza uma umahluko omkhulu kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, kufanele uvume, lokhu akuwona umthetho. Kodwa ukubusa kwangempela "uthando luyimpumputhe" lungasiza ekusebenziseni kahle ukulungiswa kwesithombe.
Manje ake sikhulume ngokuthi sisabela kanjani esimweni esingazelelwe. Abantu abaningi bayavuma ukuthi bayasusa amehlo uma behlangana nomuntu owamhlaba umxhwele. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, indaba yothando ekuboneni kuqala igcwele izibonelo, lapho abantu abangajwayelekile bengabamba izandla ngomzuzu, njengokungathi bajwayele konke ukuphila kwabo. Kunezindaba eziningi zobudlelwane emhlabeni wethu, kanti nakuba bonke bodwa, bangahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amakhulu. "Uthando ekuboneni kokuqala" lungomunye wazo. Phela, abantu badumala ngezinye izikhathi emva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye. Kungani unganiki ithuba lomzwelo wokuthi wangena ngokushesha empilweni, uma uletha imibala eminingi nenjabulo.
Udinga ukuzikhumbuza:
- uthanda umuntu okumele ufunde nje. Ungacabangi ukuthi uyamazi. Thola izimfanelo ezintsha, ujabulele loveli;
- ngokuzenzekelayo ithole isigamu sinelungelo lokuba yedwa. Ungazami ukulungisa umuntu, nalokhu kungavamile ukuzuzisa ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside.
Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, asikho isidingo sokuphazamisa imizwa egijimela imizwa nokwesaba, ngoba akekho ongakwazi ukubona ukuthi bazokuholela kuphi. Jabulela lokho okuhlangenwe nakho, othandweni futhi uthandeke! Futhi, ubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe, embuzweni wezingane ezizayo, njengoba uhlangana nopapa, uzophendula ngokuthi "kwakuyintando ekuboneni kuqala" ...