Indlela yokuxolisa kumfana?

Lapho! Futhi kukhona into eyenziwe. Futhi, okuyinto ehlaselayo kakhulu, angifuni lutho olubi! Ngangingaze ngimcasule noma ngilimaze. Futhi manje udinga ukuxolisa.

Ukuze ukhulume ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ungaxolisa kanjani kumfana, kudingekile ukuthi unqume ukuthi yikuphi okusolayo. Yini ngempela ofuna ukuxolisa? Iphutha lakho libi kangakanani?

Ngakho-ke kuhle kangakanani ukuxolisa kumfana? Iqiniso lokuthi ucele ukuthethelelwa akuyona umgomo wethu omkhulu. Sidinga ukuba athethelele!

Inani lenecala lakho nendlela yokuxolisa kuxhomeke ngayo. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuze uxolise kumfana, kwanele ukuhleka emhlanganweni: "Ngiyaxolisa, ngiphutha!". Noma into efanayo ukukusho efonini. Kulesi simo, ngeke kube kubi uma ubiza. Kodwa, kwenzeka, futhi abamele abesilisa abathinta kakhulu. Umfana onjalo akakwazi ukuthatha ithubhu. Ungabe uxolisa kanjani kumfana?

Bhala umyalezo wombhalo. Yebo, sms nje. Kodwa lapha beka konke okusebenzayo nokucabanga kwakho. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi futhi uthole nje ku-inthanethi inkondlo noma isithombe esifanele bese uyithumela kumakheli. Kodwa lokhu kuyi-banal kakhulu. Uphi isiqinisekiso sokuthi yena, ngenkathi enecala lokugcina, akazange abheke ngokucophelela endaweni efanayo. Ngeke kube ukuxolisa okuqala kakhulu. Futhi sinesithakazelo sokuthi uxolise kanjani kumfana ngendlela yokuqala. Vula i-fantasy bese uphonsa ifoni yakhe noma imilayezo ye-imeyli. Ngezinkondlo noma i-prose, tshela ukuthi uhlangabezana kanjani nokuzisola ukungezwani okwenzekile. Ungangeza lapha izici ezimbalwa zento owaziyo kuphela. Khona-ke lo mfana, uma ngokuqinisekile ungamkhathaleli, futhi ukufutheka kwakhe akuyona nje isizathu sokuqeda ubuhlobo bakho naye, ngokuqinisekile uzokuthethelela futhi maduzane uzoza egijima kuwe.

Indlela yokuxolisa kumfana ngokuthuka okungathí sina?

Nokho, kwenzeka ukuthi ukuxolisa okunjalo kuphela okwanele. Yini okufanele uyenze uma ubangele ubuhlungu bakho obathandekayo? Njengalokhu kulesi simo, kuhle, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kulungile, ukuxolisa kumfana? Zama ukumenza lokho akutshele khona isikhathi eside. Isibonelo, hamba kumdlalo wethimba lakhe elithandayo, noma ikhonsathi yeqembu elidumile. Kulokhu, ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukugwema ukuchaza. Ngaphambi kokuhlela i-exit for ukunambitheka kwakhe, lungiselela inkulumo ekholisayo, futhi, ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kungani kufanele wenze lokhu. Ungakwazi futhi ukuyivuselela phambi kwesibuko. Okungenani ukwazi ukuthi ubuso bakho bubukeka bunjani uma ubiza enye noma enye inkulumo. Kubukeka kanjani okukholisayo.

Enye indlela yokuxolisa kumfana ukumnika isidlo sothando. Mema ngosuku. Lungiselela izitsha zakhe ezizithandayo, amakhandlela akhanyayo, udale isizinda ngolunye uhlobo lwezingoma zomculo, i-champagne epholile noma iwayini. Ngaphandle, thina, besifazane, sikholelwa ukuthi ukuthandana kubalulekile kuphela kithi. Abamele abaningi bezocansi eziqinele kuphela bazama ukubheka ubuqili (bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuqinisa isibindi kubo), kodwa empeleni bayothokozwa ngesipho sokubamba ngalobo busuku, ikakhulukazi enkampanini yabo ethandekayo. Yiqiniso, futhi esimweni esinjalo, umfana angakwazi, futhi mhlawumbe uzodinga izincazelo. Kodwa umuntu angathemba ukuthi isimo esinjalo ngeke simise isikhathi eside ukucacisa ubuhlobo. Futhi uma kwenzeka kungazelelwe? Khona-ke, ngokusobala, uye wamlimaza kakhulu, futhi kuyodingeka ukhuthazelele ngenkani. Futhi, zama ukumqinisekisa ukuthi uphenduke ngobuqotho.

Akukho myalelo wokuxolisa ngendlela efanele kumfana. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukuxolisa kwabaqotho futhi kwavela enhliziyweni. Kunzima ukumelana nezicelo ezinjalo zokuthethelelwa. Futhi kulokhu kuphela ungalindela impumelelo engu-100%.