Ubudlelwano phakathi kwazo zonke ukuthuthukisa ngokuhlukile: umuntu ngokushesha uba umfazi, bese umama, futhi omunye iminyaka ulinde umlingani isinyathelo esiqine. Kwenzeka ukuthi umphefumulo wesifazane uphuthuka ukungabaza ngemizwa yomlingani bese efuna ukwazi ukuthi ungubani uma umuntu ethanda wena.
Indlela yokunquma lokho umuntu akuthandayo?
Eqinisweni, umuntu othandweni kulula ukubona. Uhamba ngezinyawo futhi uhlose ukuba eceleni kwesakhethiwe amahora angu-24 ngosuku. Uphatha abahlukumezi ngokuthula, usekulungele ukuhamba naye othandekayo wakhe ukuyothenga futhi axhase zonke izifiso zakhe. Ungangeni empini futhi ulungele ukubulala noma ubani ogcina owesifazane wakhe. Njengoba uyazi, amehlo - isibuko somphefumulo kanye nabo ungathola ukuthi umuntu uthanda yini, futhi kanjani, uzoqonda, ngokusekelwe kulokhu okulandelayo. Uthando olunothando lufudumala, njengokungathi lukhuni. Yiqiniso, ngesikhathi sobudlelwane obuseduze uyashintsha, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kufana ncamashi, futhi isibonakaliso sangempela sothando sibheka ukuhlonipha, lapho umuntu ebuka kancane kancane owesifazane wakhe, ngoba abamele isigamu esinamandla sesintu bathanda amehlo abo.
Labo abanesithakazelo sokuthi enye indlela yokunquma ukuthi umuntu othandweni kufanele aqaphele izenzo zakhe, hhayi amagama. Umlingisi omuhle noma nje umuntu ofuna ukuthola okuthile kumfazi uyohlala ethola amagama amahle, kodwa umuntu ohlonipha ubuhlobo uzozibonakalisa ezenzweni. Ngeke abe khona lapho ngesikhathi esijabulisayo, kodwa futhi lapho kukhona izinkinga noma usizi. Futhi ngeke kusize izeluleko kuphela, kodwa futhi ngemali, ukuxhumana. Umlingani onothando wenza izinhlelo zokuphila kanye nowesifazane wakhe futhi uyambona njengomkakhe, unina wezingane kanye nenkosikazi yendlu. Eqinisweni, konke okukhona lapha kulula, futhi ukungabaza empilweni yakhe kakade kungabonakali ngokuqondile ukuthi indoda ayithathi owesifazane ngokungathí sina futhi ayithandi ngempela.