Yiziphi izimfanelo okufanele owesifazane ongcono abe nazo? Ake sizame ukwakha isithombe sayo. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu unemibono yakhe ngalokhu, kodwa izimfanelo ezithile ezenza ummeleli ozocabangela ubulili obukhangayo, noma kunjalo, zingahlukaniswa.
Yini okufanele ibe ngowesifazane weqiniso?
Kulesi sihloko, ungakwazi ukuphikisana kuze kube nini nanini, kodwa ugcizelela izici ezibaluleke kakhulu, kufanele kuthiwa owesifazane ofanele kufanele abe:
- Kuyavumelana . Ikhono lokulinganisela wena kanye nemvelo yakho kubalulekile kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Kulo mhlaba, uqala ukuthwala amandla enhle futhi uba isikhungo somhlaba wonke.
- Ehloniphekile . Ukuziphatha kunoma yiliphi icala akufanele kube yinto engcolile. Ngisho nangesikhathi sokuhlukumezeka nezimo eziphikisanayo, owesifazane kufanele abe owesifazane.
- Ukunakekela nokuhawukela . Owesifazane wangempela kufanele amnike ukufudumala nomusa ukuvala abantu. Akekho ngaphandle kwakhe ongadala induduzo nemfudumalo emndenini. Ukubeletha kubambe iqhaza elikhulu ekwakheni insikazi ethi "I". Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ngowesifazane onomthwalo womndeni wonke, kanye "nesimo sezulu endlini."
- Izindleko futhi zisebenzayo . Intombazane enhle futhi ehlelwe kahle ayikwazi ukunqoba inhliziyo yomuntu, uma ingenzi lutho. Ubuvila yisitha esikhulu sowesifazane.
- Umnotho . Lungiselela isidlo esiphundu, ukuhlanzwa kwesibuko endlini, udale ubuchopho futhi uhlanganise inkinobho egqokeni - yilokho konke intombazane okufanele ifunde ebuntwaneni. Ikhono lokuphatha ibhizinisi lomuntu liyabonga kakhulu, ngoba wonke umuntu uyajabula lapho owesifazane wakhe engumnikazi wendlu yangempela.
- Ukuhlanganiswa nokugcina isikhathi . Lezi zimfanelo ziyadingeka kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukuhlela usuku lwakho ngokufanele futhi ulahle isikhathi.
- I-savvy yezomnotho . Njengomthetho, ngabesifazane abaphatha isabelomali semindeni, ngakho kubalulekile ukufunda ukuthi kufanele uhlele kanjani izindleko futhi ukwazi ukusabalalisa imali ngendlela efanele.
- Kuvinjelwe . Owesifazane uyisibonelo kwabanye, ikakhulukazi ezinganeni. Kunoma yisiphi isimo, kufanele sikwazi ukuzilawula kanye nezenzo zayo futhi kungabangeli izingxabano.
Ekhuluma ngalokho owesifazane wanamuhla okufanele abe khona, kubalulekile ukukhuluma iphuzu elithi "ukuzithuthukisa". Kuphila kwanamuhla, ngesikhathi se-nanotechnology, kubalulekile ukuba owesifazane akwazi ukuqonda lolu lwazi lokugeleza futhi alwele ukuphelela nokuzikhandla. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi owesifazane azi amancane amancane azosiza ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba abe mnandi futhi akhangele okhethiwe.
Yini okufanele owesifazane ohlakaniphile abe?
Ungalokothi uvumele umuntu aqonde ukuthi uhlakaniphile, ufunde kakhulu, noma unamandla kunokuba yena. Lokhu kuthinta kakhulu ukuzethemba kobulili obunamandla. Kuye, kumele ube intombazane, owesifazane, obuthakathaka futhi obuthakathaka, ofuna ukumnakekela futhi amsize. Lapho umuntu ezwa ukuthi bayamdinga, uyaqaphela ukubaluleka kwakhe, futhi lokhu kuyamkhuthaza ukuba enze izinto ezintsha. Uma ungafuni ukuthi umvikeli wakho abe ngumuntu okhukhumezekile, ungamvimbeli ukuba azibonakalise njengomuntu wangempela - onamandla, onokwethenjelwa futhi onokwethenjelwa. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi ngalezo zikhathi lapho kudingekile, kumele ubonise amandla akho futhi ukwazi ukusekela umuntu obiza.
Uma udinga iseluleko esihle sokuma, xhumana nomuntu wakho, hhayi umngane wakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi uyomangala impendulo yakhe, ngoba abantu bacabanga ngendlela ehluke kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile, qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nomuntu okhethiweyo, ngokuqinisekile uzothola iseluleko esihle, futhi lowo muntu uyazi ukuthi umbono wakhe ubalulekile kuwe.
Unayo ubuhlobo nendoda? Khumbula ukuthi okokuqala ungowesifazane. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungabi nje umgcini wendlu. Kumele ukwazi ukuveza imizwa kuye, ube yi-interlocutor ethandekayo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - umnakekele.
Ukulandela lawa macebiso alula, ngokuqinisekile uyozizwa ushintsho lwezikhadini empilweni yakho, futhi ungikholelwe, kuzoba ngcono.