Ubuhlobo phakathi kwentombazane encane nendoda endala akuzange kuvuswe ukugxeka, mhlawumbe kuphela ngalezo zinsuku lapho umyeni ekhethwe ngabazali bomakoti. Kodwa manje umbhangqwana onomthelela omkhulu weminyaka uzokwenza ukuhleba, ukuhleka nokugwema umphakathi. Kodwa izingxoxo zokukhulumisana, kanye nemibhangqwana "indoda endala kanye nentombazane encane" akuyona into engavamile futhi ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhula buba ngumndeni ojabulisayo. Ngakho akudingekile ukuba uphume emizweni yakho, ngokusekelwe emibonweni yomphakathi, uqonde kangcono ukuthi ungathanda kanjani umuntu omdala, owaziyo, mhlawumbe nguye okudingayo?
Ungathanda kanjani umuntu omdala?
Kuthiwani uma ngithandana nomuntu omdala? Kungokwemvelo ukungahlali phansi, kodwa uzame ukunaka. Indlela yokwenza nokuthi yini yokudukisa indoda endala, funda ngezansi.
- Noma yimuphi intombazane onolwazi nomuntu okhulile uyazi ukuthi bakhangwa ukubukeka. Kodwa ngokungafani nabangane bakhe abancane, umuntu omdala angakufuni ukubheka idatha yemvelo, kodwa ngokukwazi ukuwabonisa. Umkhonto ufushane, i-decollete iyajula, futhi imfucuza iyanda futhi umfana uneminyaka engu-18-20 ubudala ezinyaweni zakho. Indoda ene-doll enezintambo ezivelele izothuswa. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukufunda ukuvimbela ukwakheka nokugqoka ngendlela egcizelela isithunzi nokufihla amaphutha.
- Ukuze uhlale ubuhlobo nomuntu omdala isikhathi eside, udinga ukumthakazelisa. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukusekela ngokuphumelelayo ingxoxo bese uzama ukungabi nalutho oluncane. Lalela ngokucophelela kuye, ukusekela izinhlelo zakhe, uma kunjalo, uma kungabangela ukungavumelani okuqinile nawe.
- Indoda ikhulile kunawe, ngisho nangokwengeziwe, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kudingeka "adlulise", ngaphandle uma engumphathi wakho. Zama ukumtshela ukuthi "wena", qinisekisa naye. Uma ungenzi lokhu, umuntu angase acabange ukuthi awunasithakazelo, ukuthi uyamcabanga ukuthi usemdala kakhulu.
- Ucabanga ukuthi ungathandana kanjani nendoda endala, yini okufanele uyenze? Futhi mhlawumbe awudingi lutho olukhethekile? Kumadoda amadala, yini ongayithanda kumantombazane amancane? Ubusha babo kanye nokuzikhethela, okukhethekile, mhlawumbe okuncane okungabonisi, ukubuka kwezwe. Ngakho wabelane ngokukhetha kwakho ngokubuka umhlaba wonke, ungazami ukubheka esekhulile emehlweni akhe.
Yiqiniso, lezi zibonelo nje zokuziphatha ezidinga ukulandelwa, okuthakazelisayo indoda endala kunaye. Emva kwakho konke, bahlukile futhi bathanda izinto ezihlukene, kodwa ngokubheka ngokucophelela, ngokuqinisekile uzoqonda ukuthi yini ongayithinta umuntu othakazelisayo kuwe. Ngendlela, kodwa le nzalo isuka kuphi kumadoda amadala, akunabangane abaningi?
Kungani amantombazane afana namadoda asekhulile?
Ukuthanda indoda endala kumntombazane osemncane kanye nemizwa efanayo yamantombazane kumuntu osekhulile ayikwazi ukuchazwa ngesizathu esisodwa esilula - uthando ngokuyisisekelo luyisimo esingenakuqondakala. Kodwa kungani amantombazane amancane anesithakazelo kumadoda avuthiwe angasho.
- Into yokuqala efika engqondweni yintuthuko yezinto ezibonakalayo. Basalokhu bancike kubazali babo, futhi indoda evuthiwe iyakwazi ukuzondla yena nomfazi wayo, futhi ebusheni bayo kakhulu, uma kungenjalo indaba enhle yezinganekwane, okungenani ungamlondolozi ngobuhlungu into entsha.
- Amadoda amadala avame ukubonakala njengamagugu wangempela okuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila nokuhlakanipha, ngezinga elithile.
Futhi ngemva kokukhuluma neontanga zabo ngesimo sengqondo esingenakuqhathaniswa nokuphila, amantombazane amane nje amangaliswe ukungathí sina nomqondo womuntu ovuthiwe. - Amantombazane afuna ukuzizwa njengowesifazane wangempela, hhayi "izinyane labo," njengoba kwenzeka enkampanini. Amadoda amadala asazi ukuthi yini i-gallantry, indlela yokunakekela owesifazane, ngoba amantombazane amancane azizwa esondelene namakhosikazi anjalo.
- Amanye amantombazane azizwa ethuthukile, engqondweni nangokomzwelo kunabo ontanga. Yingakho bafuna indoda endala engayiqonda futhi iyaziqonda.