Abanye besifazane, behlukana nabesilisa, baziduduza ngokomcabango "Kodwa akeke uhambe, uzobuyela kimi noma kunjalo." Ngicabanga ukuthi bangaki abantu ababuyela emuva ngaphambili nokuthi kungani benza lokho?
Amadoda abuya kaningi kangakanani?
Imibono ihluke kulolu phuzu - akekho owenziwa ucwaningo olusemthethweni. Abanye besifazane bayamangala ukuthi kungani amadoda ephonsa, bese ebuyela njalo. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka kaningi uma owesifazane esivele ejabulela ubudlelwane obusha futhi ukhohliwe esikhathini esidlule. Abanye besifazane bangabaza ukuthi ngabe amadoda angaphambili abuyele, nokuthi ngabe lokhu kwenzeka nhlobo, ngoba nalokhu akuzange kwenzeke. Njengoba sibona, ngokuvamile abameleli bobulili obunamandla babuyela kubesifazane abashiywe, futhi ngokuvamile lokho akukwenzeka. Ngakho-ke ungahlali emnyango bese ulindele ukuba anqume ukubuyela, nakuba ungeke ukhiphe ngokuphelele lelo thuba. Yebo, ukuze uqonde ukuthi ngabe ucingo oluvela esikhathini esidlule luzozwakala endlini yakho, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izimo amadoda abuya ngazo.
Kungani amadoda eyeka bese ebuya?
- Wabuya, ngoba waqaphela ukuthi injabulo yakhe ilapha futhi ayikho ndawo. Yilokho okufisa kakhulu inhliziyo enhlekazi, kodwa, ngeshwa, inguquko yokuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma indoda ishiya ubuhlobo obude, khona-ke ivame ukuya ensimini elungiselelwe, komunye owesifazane. Hhayi, kungani kufanele abuyele kulokhu, kumfazi oyeke ukuthakazelisa ngaye? Ukuthandana kuhle, kodwa kwenzeke kaningi emasikrini e-TV noma emabhukwini amabhuku kunokuphila kwangempela.
- Futhi kwenzeka ukuthi amadoda ashiye umndeni, bese emva kwesikhathi esifushane babuya. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka, bavele baqhathanise abesifazane ababili bese bakhetha umfazi? Futhi akekho. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane besikhathi eside, amadoda aqala ukungabi nalutho, kanti konke okunye kuhambisana nabo. Kulokhu, inkosikazi ihileleka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi amadoda ahamba ayohlala nomunye wesifazane, kodwa ngokushintshwa. Abazange bahlose ukushiya umndeni unomphela, ngakho-ke babuya, ngemuva kwesikhathi esifushane.
- Ukuma eceleni kunezimo lapho umuntu, ehlukanisa ubudlelwane, ebuya, eqala ukubukeka kahle futhi uthembisa izintaba zegolide. Konke kungaba kuhle, uma kungenjalo "kodwa": uyakwenza, lapho owesifazane ephonswa yiyo eguqule impilo yakhe futhi mhlawumbe uzoshada. Kungani amadoda ebuya kuleli cala? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani kubi, kodwa abameleli abanomona abanobudlova obuqinile ngokuvamile baqhutshwa umona. Lo wesilisa wezwa ukuthi owesifazane obeke waphonsa konke kwaba kuhle, ngenkathi impilo yakhe isalokhu inganeliseki, futhi wanquma ukuthi kwakungalungile. "Ulahlekelwe ingcebo enjalo, njengoba ngingacabangi ngisho nokubeka impilo yami isiphambano? Yeka ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani, kubalulekile ukwenza okuthile. " Kodwa indlela yokulungisa isimo kulesi simo? Ingabe ufuna ukukufisa injabulo futhi uzama ukuthola umlingani wakho womphefumulo? Kodwa cha, amadoda anjalo ngesizathu esithile abheka njengesibopho sabo esingcwele sokunqoba impilo yabo yangaphambili. Ngakho konke ukuthandana kunomgomo owodwa kuphela - ukucasula ubudlelwane bamanje besifazane. Uma nje kuvela, futhi uthatha isinqumo sokunikeza ithuba lokubuyela emuva, uzoshabalala - awudingi.
- Futhi nenye enye inketho. Lo mbhangqwana waqhekeka, kusukela kumuntu akekho ucingo noma incwadi, futhi ngokuzumayo ngobusuku obusika ekwindla abubiza (hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngocingo, ngezinye izikhathi emnyango) futhi uqala izingxoxo ezingenasici mayelana nokuthi unesizungu nokuthi uhlangene kanjani. Ucabanga, uqaphele, ubuya futhi manje konke kuzokulungela wena? Yiqiniso, kungenzeka, kodwa empilweni cishe ayike igcwaliseke. Kungenzeka ukuthi, ongenalo injabulo nayo yonke indoda eshiyiwe
nje ngifuna indawo yokukhosela ebusuku noma emibili. Mhlawumbe ubiza wonke amantombazane akhe wangaphambili enethemba lokuthi othile uzothatha isihawu - ungabondli abesifazane ngesinkwa, ake umuntu ezisole. La madoda abuyele isikhathi esingakanani? Futhi masinyane, kudabukisayo kangakanani futhi kunesizungu kubo, okokuqala kungukuhluka okuhle, akusekho isidingo sokuwina, futhi amantombazane kuzodingeka achithe okuningi kumaqembu.
Manje uyazi ukuthi iziphi izimo amadoda abuyela kuzo, futhi ezitatimendeni ze "abanenhliziyo ehlukumezekile", bathi, nakanjani uzobuya, kungcono ukuba neqiniso. Le ndoda ayisabi boomerang, ukubuyela njalo.