Ukuze uqonde. Ngithole umfana noma intombazane eFrenchzone noma cha, okokuqala kudingeka uziqonde wena ukuthi yini i-Friendzone.
Kuyini i-Frenchzone?
I-Frenchzone ekuhunyushweni kwangempela kusho indawo yezingani noma indawo yomngane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umfana noma intombazane ifakwe embuthanweni wabangane noma izintombi zentombazane ethile noma isoka. Ngakho-ke, konke ukuxhumana nomngani waseFrancezone kuvame ukunciphisa ukukhuluma efonini, bakhokhele ukuphila, ukuboleka imali kuze kube izikhathi ezingcono, noma, njengabanye, ukuphazamisa intukuthelo yakho noma intukuthelo yakho. Kwakungakaze kube khona ubudlelwane bokuthandana kuFrenchzone, futhi ngeke kube khona. Ngakho-ke le ndoda ayikwazi ukucabanga ngemicabango yakhe ukuthi manje intombazane ingumngane wakhe, kodwa-ke isimangaliso sizokwenzeka, futhi uzobona ukuthi uhle kangakanani futhi amthandane naye ngaphandle kokukhumbula. Lokhu ngeke kwenzeke.
Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi useFrancezone?
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ngabe umfana ungowama frendzone yentombazane noma cha, akudingeki ukuba ube nezikhala eziyisikhombisa ebunzini. Uma intombazane ingafuni ukuhlangana nomfana ophilayo, kodwa ikhetha ukuxoxa naye efonini, ikakhulukazi lapho ixoxa ngezinkinga zabo nezinkinga zezintombi, kusho into eyodwa, lo mfana wayeseFrancezone.
Futhi, uma umfana ehola kahle noma enokwenza kahle abazali, khona-ke kusukela ohlangothini lwentombazane kungase kube nezicelo ezinjengokuthi "ngithenge lokhu, bese ngizokunika imali." Imali evamile ayibuyanga, kodwa umfana ulindele futhi enethemba lokubonakaliswa kwemizwa evela othandekayo wakhe.
Ukuphuma kanjani kwamakhondomu?
Ukuze uphume endaweni yobungane kunezinketho eziningana. Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kunazo zonke ukuzama ukuguqula ngokwakho, ngoba uma intombazane ingenasithakazelo kumfana njengento yokudumisa, khona-ke le nsizwa ayinandaba nayo. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukulungisa lesi simo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kule nkinga ukugxila kwenye into: kufanele ungenele emidlalweni noma uhambe, uzitholele ukuzilibazisa. Ungagxila kule ntombazane bese-ke, lapho eqala ukuqonda ukuthi umfana owayengumngane nje wayengumuntu othakazelisayo futhi okhangayo kunalokho ayecabanga, futhi uzoqala ukubuka imihlangano naye.
Inketho yesibili ngokushiya iFrenchzone yilasha elivela ezweni lakhe. Okungukuthi, ungaphenduli izingcingo, ungahambi kumanethiwekhi omphakathi, ukuze intombazane ibe nomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle futhi uzoqala ukufuna umngane wakhe, noma ngabe uvele enesithukuthezi, kuyoba yinto ecacile. Sekuyisikhathi eside, umfana akakwazi ukulahleka uma engafuni intombazane imkhohlwe ngokuphelele. Cishe izinsuku ezinhlanu. Lezi zikhetho ezimbili zingcono kakhulu ukuphuma entombazaneni yentombazane.
Ungayithola kanjani intombazane evela ku-friendlyzone?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu intombazane ukuba ayeke ukuba umngane kumfana yindlela yokuvusa umhawu wakhe. Umhawu umuzwa oqinile, uma umvusa kumfana, uzokwenza izintaba zibe nenjongo yokudumisa.
Futhi kuyafaneleka ukuzama ukushintsha isithombe sakho. Shintsha i-hairstyle, yenza-up, yenza umuthi omusha, ushintshe isitayela sezingubo. Kudingeka ukuguqula isithombe sakho ngendlela yokubonisa konke okwesifazane ukuthi imvelo inike intombazane. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukwenza konke ukuze angaboni intombazane enentombazane ongayenza ngokungazenzeki ngokuphila. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzizwe njengomvikeli ongasindisa intombazane kuzo zonke izinhlekelele. Leyo yinkimbinkimbi, ithenda futhi isengozini. Kodwa into eyinhloko kulo msebenzi akufanele iwudlulele.