Isihloko sokuxoxisana ngokubaluleka kwemibono enjengothando kanye nesifiso sithandwa kakhulu. Ngokudideka la mazwi, abantu bavame ukungena ebuhlotsheni obufushane, balahlekelwa ngokwabo kanye nabathandekayo babo, futhi baze baphuke.
Mhlawumbe, ukuhumusha kwala magama esichazamazwi sika-Ozhegov kuzosisiza ukuthi sinikeze iphuzu lokuqala ukuthi uthanda kanjani umahluko ovela ekutheni.
- uthando - inamandla, emangalisa wonke umuzwa womzimba ojulile, uthando oluqotho nokuzidela;
- isifiso - isifiso esivuthayo, iningi lempahla yalo yobulili.
Isisekelo sothando sisondelene phakathi kwabantu, ukuqonda okufanayo nokuhlonipha amandla kanye nobuthakathaka bomunye nomunye. Ukukhathazeka kuyisithakazelo, isifiso sokudla. Ngokuvamile le miqondo ihlangene. Njengoba uthando lungaba khona ngokwalo, ngakho-ke yibani othandweni.
Indlela yokuhlukanisa uthando kusuka ngothando?
Uma kukhona uthando phakathi kwabantu ababili, isenzo naso sonke igama lihlolwe ngokuphathelene nomzwelo womunye nomunye. Uthando lunikeza ithuba lokuba nobuhlobo obuhlala njalo. Ikuvumela ukuba udlule ubunzima nezinkathazo, thola ukuyekethisa kanye nezixazululo ezizokwanelisa kokubili. Ukukhathazeka akuwona umuzwa omubi noma omubi. Nalapha futhi, kukhona ukuhlonipha izifiso zomlingani. Kodwa-ke, isisekelo sokubumbana kusekhona ubugovu. Ubudlelwano obusekelwe othandweni akuvamile kakhulu. Isifiso sokuzijabulisa ngokwakho kunokuba umlingani ekugcineni asithinte isithombe esihle kakhulu.
Umehluko phakathi kothando nothando lukhulu, kodwa akwanele ukuvimbela imizwa emibili komunye nomunye. Ngothando, ukukhathazeka kubonakala sengathi kuyisifiso sokuba nesisondelene kakhulu nomlingani. Futhi ngenkathi uthando lulawula ukwanda, ubudlelwane buyoba namandla futhi bungenakunyakaziswa. Ngesifiso sothando akukho ndawo. It is replaced by ukunganaki, ukunganakwa kanye nobugovu.
Mhlawumbe wonke umuntu uyayazi ukuzwa okukhathazayo enhliziyweni, isidingo esiphuthumayo siseduze nomuntu othize, ukuzimisela ukwenza konke ukufezekisa ukuhamba kwakhe. Futhi emva kwesikhashana ngemuva kokufeza umgomo walo, kuhlale kungavumelani lapho yonke imizwa ephakanyisiwe ihambile. Lapho uthando lomusa kanye nesisa sothando lanyamalala. Kuhlala nje ukuqonda ukuthi lo akuyona umuntu ongathanda ukuchitha lonke izinsuku zakho. Konke lokhu kungumphumela weqiniso lokuthi emphefumulweni wakho ukuqonda kothando nothando kudidekile.
Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwesithando nothando:
- Uthando luvuka masinyane - uthando lufanele lufaneleke;
- ukufutheka kuyashesha futhi kudlula ngokushesha - uthando alusheshi noma kuphi futhi lushiya kuphela uma luqhutshwa;
- Uthando luyingozi - uthando luyiqiniso, ludala futhi ludale;
- Uthando luya emgwaqweni, luphonsa ngaphandle kweqiniso - uthando luthinta impilo.
Umehluko phakathi kothando nothando lukhulu, kodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwane le mizwa kunzima kakhulu ukwehlukana komunye nomunye. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwenza ngesikhathi. Phela, hhayi njalo ukukhathazeka kufika kubantu abakhulu abangenazo izibopho. Ngenxa yokungaqondi kahle kwale mibono emibili, imindeni iwa, i-psyche yezingane kanye nabantu abadala bahlupheka, futhi ngisho nobugebengu bubophekile, kuhlanganise nokubulala.
Ukuqonda kanjani uthando noma ukufutheka kukuphefumulele ngomzwelo wokukhanga komunye umuntu? Vele uhlaziye imizwa yakho, uphonsa eceleni konke okungenakuqhathaniswa. Uthando luhilela okungenani izinto ezintathu ezikhangayo: emzimbeni, engqondweni nasemphefumulweni womlingani wakho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, njengoba isifiso esikhulu kakhulu sisekelwe ekuthandweni komzimba.
Ukuqhubeka kusukela ngenhla, akunzima ukuphendula lo mbuzo, yini enamandla uthando noma ugqozi. Impendulo yokuzihlambalaza ilula, yebo uthando. Ihlolwe yisikhathi novivinyo. Ngenkathi isifiso esisekelwe esimweni sengqondo sabathengi, sishabalalala ngokushesha, njengokuthi, ukuzwa indlala.