Ukuthembela othandweni kuwubudlelwane lapho umuntu ehlushwa ngokomzwelo okwenyuka ngokomzimba kwenzeka kumuntu obalulekile kuye. Ukuthembela ekuthandweni kwengqondo kubuye kuthiwa ubuhlobo obuxhomeke eceleni.
Abaningi abancike ekuthandeni uthando nangothando, kodwa banokuhlukana okukhulu:
- Uma abantu bebathanda, bobabili bahlangene futhi behlukana. Endabeni yokulutha kothando, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane ndawonye, kodwa ngaphandle - kabi, kamuva futhi ndawonye futhi ngokwehlukana kabi.
- Uthando luletha imizwelo emihle, isikhathi esiningi umuntu ezwa ukuvumelana, ukuzethemba, ukuzinza. Ukuxhomeka kwemithwalo kunomthelela omubi. Umuntu uphelelwe amandla: ukungavikeleki, umhawu, ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka, ukungezwani kwangaphakathi, ukungabaza.
- Uthando alunaki inkululeko yangaphakathi. Ngothando ekuxhomekeni, isimo sengqondo sincike ezenzweni, ukubukeka, izwi lomuntu omthandayo.
- Ngothando, bobabili abalingani bahlanganyela ngokulinganayo. Ebudlelwaneni bobuhlobo ubudlelwane buyakhelwe esimisweni sokubusa-ukuzithoba.
- Uthando luyakha futhi luholela empumelelweni. Ukuzethemba - kuyingozi, impilo yomuntu, isimo sezezimali kanye nemisebenzi emsebenzini.
- Uthando lweqiniso - ludala, luthande ukuthembela - lubhubhisa.
Ukuxhomekeka kokuthandana kungakhula, kanye nokuhlangana okuhlanganyelwe ngesikhathi esisodwa kwezici ezinjalo:
- umlingani usondelene nenhle yentsha;
- ukudlula amahomoni ocansi emzimbeni;
- umuntu ngokuqaphela uzama ukuthanda nokuthandwa.
Ukuthembela othandweni kubangela:
- ukungathandi ukukhulumisana ubudlelwane;
- Esinye sezizathu zokuthembela othandweni kwabesifazane "ukungabi nothando" ebuntwaneni;
- ukungathandi noma ukungakwazi ukwenza izinqumo;
- ukwesaba isizungu;
- ukwesaba ukunqatshwa;
- ukuzethemba okuphansi;
- ukungabi nokufudumala komzali noma ukulawulwa komzali okunzima;
- ukuzimisela ukulalela;
- ukukhathazeka ngokushiyeka;
- ukuthambekela kokunciphisa isithunzi;
- ukuba khona komunye, ukuthembela okunye;
- ukungabi nomuzwa wokulondeka.
Ukuthembela othandweni - izimpawu
- Isibonakaliso esiyinhloko sokwethembela kothando ngukuzwa okuqhubekayo kokuhlupheka nobuhlungu, ngisho nalapho othandekayo esiseduze.
- Khumbula ngaso sonke isikhathi into yothando, futhi iyanqanda. Imicabango ingalawuleki ingena ebuchosheni bakho.
- Yenza umlingani wakho ubuhle, unethemba eliphakeme kuye.
- Uhlala umtholela isizathu sokuba angenzi, ngisho nalapho icala lakhe lingenakuphikwa, wena uzizwa unecala.
- Ngenxa yokuzizwa unecala njalo, awukwazi ukuhlola ngobuhlobo ubuhlobo bakho.
- Uyakhathalela kabanzi mayelana nokuhlangabezana nezidingo zomlingani wakho kunokwakho.
- Ukwesaba ukuthi awufanelanga othandekayo, ukuthi ungcono kunakho.
- Uyesaba, ukuziphatha ngokwemvelo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi lo mlingani uzokushiya ngokushesha, ngoba ngeke ubekezelele ama-antics akho.
Uma omunye wabalingani ethanda ukuzondla, uzothola umlingani ozobe enokwethenjelwa, kodwa uhlelo oluhlukile - ukuxhomeka kokugwema, kubonakala kulokhu okulandelayo:
- Uma uqaphela ukuthi lo mlingani ufuna ukwenza ubuhlobo obuseduze no-franker, uqala ukuzihlukanisa futhi uqondise imizamo yokuqukatha ingcindezi yomlingani wokuvimbela ukuxhuma.
- Ebudlelwaneni, wesaba ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yakho.
- Ucabanga ukuthi umshado uzothatha yonke into, ukuthi uthando lwangempela lungaba kude kwamanye abalingani.
- Uchitha isikhathi esiningi kubangani, izinto zokuzilibazisa kanye nomsebenzi, kunomuntu othandekayo.
- Siyaqiniseka ukuthi awufanelekile umlingani wakho, futhi ngokuqinisekile uzokushiya, yingakho wesaba ukuthandana, ukugwema ubuhlungu lapho uhlukanisa.
Abantu abakha imibhangqwana ngohlobo lobudlelwane bokuthandana banezici ezifanayo zengqondo, kuboniswe ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kodwa-ke, bobabili abalingani banezinkathazo ezihambelanayo zokusondelana nezinkinga ngokubonisa ngobuqotho imizwa, okuvimbela ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle.
Qaphela ukuthi ukuthembela kuyisimo esiyinhloko sokususa. Ukwazi ukuthi ungahlukanisa kanjani ukuziphatha okuthembekile kusuka enempilo, ekugcineni uzofunda ukwakha ubudlelwane.