Ngokuqinisekile, ngamunye wethu esiteshini esithile sobuhlobo bethu obujabulisayo nomuntu othandekayo ucabanga ukuthi ungabalondoloza kanjani, ukuthi ungamthwali kanjani umfana wakho, amadoda. Ungayithola kanjani kuzo zonke izimo zokuphila, kufaka phakathi kunzima kakhulu - impilo futhi uhlale uthakazelisa futhi ufiseleka? ..
Ngesaba ukumcasula umfana
Naphezu kokuthi bonke abantu bahlukile, nokho bonke banezidingo ezithile ezibalulekile. Ngako-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uphendule umbuzo othi kungani intombazane iboshiwe ngumfana noma kungani umfana ekhathele ubuhlobo, udinga ukwazi lezi zidingo. Sizokutshela ngabo futhi masinyane sinikeze iseluleko kunento ngayinye.
1. Ubulili, uthando kanye ne-rock'n'roll. Kunoma yikuphi ubudlelwane, ngisho noma umuntu ethandana ne-blues, umculo we-classic noma i-R & B, kubalulekile ukuthi wonke umuntu abe nomuzwa wokuthi unothando, uthando nokuthandana. Ngakho-ke:
- zilungiswe kahle, zihle futhi zikhangele, naphezu kwemizwa yakho yesimo sezulu noma yini enye.
- uyintombazane, ukubonakaliswa komuntu wesifazane nowothando, ngakho-ke uthando lolu lube ludumo futhi alukhiphi ekubonakalisweni kobubele nokuthandeka othandekayo wakho.
- unike isikhathi sokukuthuthukisa, njengombhangqwana, ezindabeni ezithandana naye, lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi usondele nakakhulu komunye nomunye, hhayi ngokuphambene nalokho.
2. Weza, wabona, won. Noma yimuphi umuntu ngokwemvelo uyinqobe futhi, naphezu kwenani leminyaka ahlala ndawonye, kumele ahlale ezinzwaneni zakhe, angaphumuli. Kumele uqiniseke ukuthi zonke izifiso zakhe nesifiso sokuzingela nokunqoba zihlobene kuphela nawe.
- Ungabi nomhawu. Uyazi, kunenkulumo enhle kangaka, ungamqapheli lo muntu, kodwa qaphela ngokwakho, khona-ke indoda iyokulandela. Njalo kunjalo.
- ungabi yizidakamizwa. Zinike ilungelo lokungaqiniseki, ube ngumuntu othakazelisayo, yini engamthakazelisa kuye ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthola kuwe izici ezintsha.
- ungacindezeli. Akunakwenzeka ukugcina ubuhlobo, uma umbiza ngeminye imizuzu emihlanu, ubungozi bokumxosha nje.
3. Ukwamukelwa, ukuqashelwa kanye nesidingo. Lapha sikhuluma ngecala lomzwelo nomzwelo womphefumulo womuntu wakho. Ngisho noma umfana wakho engumsikisi, isosha noma umholi weqembu lama-mafia, unesici esingokomzwelo, futhi udinga ukunakwa.
- ungafaki. Thatha ukuthi ungubani futhi ungabhekiseli ubuthakathaka bawo nganoma yini, kuzothuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakhe, kodwa kungani udinga indoda engaqiniseki yona? Uma unezinkinga ezithile, zilungise njengowesifazane.
- hlonipha okhethiweyo wakho, umthokozise futhi umthande, umnike amaphiko futhi ugqozi lokusebenza kwezenzo ezinhle.
- qiniseka ukuthi umnika lo mqondo wokubaluleka kwakhe empilweni yakho, isidingo sokuba khona kwakhe nokubaluleka.
Uma indoda ikhathele owesifazane
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi bonke abantu bahlukile. Ngokuqinisekile, okhethiweyo wakho udinga ubukhona bazo zonke izingxenye ezintathu ebuhlotsheni, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ezinye zazo zingaba zibaluleke kakhulu noma ngaphansi, bonke ngabanye.
Manje, uyaqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho abukwenzeki ngomlingo, ukuthi ukhohlwe kuze kube phakade ngemishwana, njengokuthi "intombazane ikhathele umfana", kuyadingeka ukusebenza usuku nosuku. Futhi akekho, unina, akekho ubaba, akekho umngane ongcono ongakwenza kuwe. Lo msebenzi, umsebenzi onzima, kodwa uma usulungele ukwenza konke ezandleni zakho, uzojabula ekuphileni kwakho ndawonye!