Umbuzo wobungane phakathi kwabantu ababili bobulili obuhlukile bubucayi kakhulu. Konke kuncike kubantu kanye nemizwa yabo komunye nomunye. Ngokuvamile, ubungane bezingane phakathi komfana nentombazane kuvamile. Phela, izingane azikhathaleli umehluko yobudala, ubulili noma ubuzwe. Kodwa izingane ezindala ziba njalo, ukushintsha kwemizwa yabo. Ngakho-ke ubungane phakathi komfana nentombazane noma ukufisa komunye nomunye ekugcineni konke kuchitha njalo, lesi sihloko sizokutshela.
Ingabe ubungane bukhona phakathi komfana nentombazane?
- Imizwa engezona eyamukelekile . Mhlawumbe, ngokuvamile ingane noma ubungane besilisa phakathi kwentombazane nentombazane ikhula ibe uthando olulodwa ngaphandle kokuthokoza. Ngokuvamile umuntu uyayithanda eyodwa, kanti enye ayiboni izinguquko ebuhlotsheni, eqhubeka nokucabangela ukuthi nje ubungane obuseduze. Ubuhlobo obunjalo, yiqiniso, buzohluleka. Esikhathini esizayo, ubuhlobo buyobe buya esinqeni esisha bese luba nesisondelene kakhulu, noma ngabe luzokwehlisa.
- Ukukhanga okufanayo . Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abantu abahlotshaniswa nobungane, baqala ukuqaphela ukuthi akuzona nje othandekayo komunye nomunye, kodwa bafuna okungaphezulu. Kuyinto yokukhanga kobulili obuhlukile komunye nomunye futhi kuyisizathu sokuqala sokungabikho ubungane phakathi komfana nentombazane. Kulokhu, ubungane buba nobuhlobo obugcwele. Futhi ngokuvamile ubudlelwane obunjalo buba namandla futhi buyiqiniso, ngoba abantu abaye bazana kakade kuzo zonke izinhlangothi ngaphambi kokuba bangeke kuqala, bangaboni nje kuphela ubuhlobo babo bobulili ebuhlotsheni.
- Ubungane bangempela . Noma kunjalo, ubuhlobo phakathi komfana nentombazane kwenzeka, ngisho noma "isilo" esinjalo singavamile kakhulu. Ubungane ubuhlobo obuseduze kakhulu, kodwa ayikho indawo yobuhlobo bobulili nokuheha. Njengoba ukukhulumisana isikhathi eside nommeleli wobulili obuhlukile, oyithandayo, cishe akunakwenzeka, khona-ke lobu buhlobo abuyinto engavamile. Kodwa noma kunjalo amantombazane namantombazane bangenza abangane futhi bathandane nomndeni, uthando lobuzalwane. Futhi uthando olunjalo luvame kakhulu kunomdlandla.