Mhlawumbe, wonke amantombazane aphupha ubuhlobo obujabulisayo, lapho indoda ithanda futhi igqoke ngempela ezandleni zayo. Ezweni lanamuhla, amadoda ngokuya ngokungafani namaphupho abesifazane, ukucasula, ukukhaphela nokulimala. Amantombazane amaningi angathanda ukwazi ukuthi umfana angakujabulela kanjani ukujabula.
Ngesizathu esithile, isiko sithuthukile ukuthi uma intombazane ivuma ubudlelwane futhi ivuma imizwa, la madoda ayaqonda ukuthi umgomo ufezekile, futhi ungakwazi ukuphumula. Yingakho izazi ze-psychologists zithi kufanele ugcine ukukhathazeka njalo ugcine umuntu enhle.
Indlela yokufundisa umfana ongathokozi?
Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuzikhethela ukuthi indoda kufanele iveze kanjani isimo sayo sengqondo. Isibonelo, abanye abantu bafaka izipho ezihlukahlukene kanye namagugu okubonakalayo kulo mqondo, kanti abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ukubonga kubonakala ngokukhuluma ngamazwi.
Amantombazane amaningi, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, ecabanga ngalokho umfana engakujabuleli futhi engakuhloniphi, azivuselela ngokwabo, efika ngezizathu ezingekho. Abamele abaningi besilisa abanamandla kakhulu bayaqiniseka ukuthi amantombazane enza imisebenzi ehlukeneyo endlini, ngoba ayithandayo, hhayi ukuthi azizwe kahle. Ngenxa yalokhu ukungaboni kahle, ngokuvamile kunomuzwa wokuthi othandekayo akawuthandi futhi akawuthandi.
Indlela yokufundisa umfana ukuba akuqonde:
- Okokuqala, hlaziya ubuhlobo , mhlawumbe ungumuntu oyinkosikazi engapheli kanye nompheki, okusho ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kwabathandekayo kulungile. Ukuze ulungise isimo, udinga nje ukusebenza kuwe.
- Uma kwenzeka ukuthi konke kulungile futhi umfana ushiye ngempela ukuqonda lokho okwenzelwe yena, khona-ke umane umshiye. Isibonelo, uma yena,
ukuza ekhaya njalo kubona isidlo esishisayo etafuleni, bese ukhohlwa nje ngalesi siko. "Isiteleka esilambayo" sizosiza lo mfana ukuba abuke isimo ngokuhlukile. - Ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma umfana engabongi, kubalulekile ukukhumbula indlela ephumelela kakhulu - zizinakekele. Thatha isikhathi hhayi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi nezinguquko zangaphakathi. Yenza i-hairstyle entsha, ubuyekeze ikhabethe yakho, ulahlekelwe isisindo, thola ukuzilibazisa wena, njll. Ebona intombazane ekhangayo futhi ethandekayo eceleni kwayo, lo mfana ngokuqinisekile uyakwazisa ingcebo enjalo.
- Menze abe nomhawu. Thatha ukuthandana kwamanye amadoda, uphendule ekunconyeni, nje ungahambi ngaphezu komugqa, ngoba konke kungaphetha ngokuphuka ebuhlotsheni.