Kunzima ukuthola indawo ephakathi embuzweni wokuthi ungalala nini. Emva kwakho konke, awufuni ukufana nentombazane ye-puritan "ngaphambi komshado cha no-no", kodwa futhi nentombazane enengqondo enomoya onhloko, naye, ayifuni ukuba.
Ngakho-ke, wazi kanjani lokhu kusho igolide eliyigugu? Kuyinto inkohliso yokuthi intuition, ingqondo enganaki ukukwazi ukutshela ngamunye wethu le mpendulo. Yiqiniso, akuwona wonke umuntu ongazwa izwi lakhe langaphakathi, ngakho-ke kungenxa yabo ukuthi izazi zengqondo ezihola emkhakheni wezobudlelwano zanquma ukwabelana ngolwazi lwabo.
Ngosuku luni ongalala nendoda?
Ucwaningo lwezenhlalakahle phakathi kwabameleli besigamu esiphezulu sobuntu lubonise ukuthi akubalulekile kubafana, emva kokuvakashelwa okungenani umuntu angalala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwavela abantu abaningi ukuthi lo mfokazi, owayehlala naye ubusuku obuhle, ngemva kweminyaka embalwa waba umfazi othandekayo. Ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukusho ukuthi abantu abancane bafinyelele esiphethweni: ubulili ngosuku lokuqala lukhuluma ngedumela elibi lentombazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi sigaba samadoda sikholelwa ukuthi singakwazi futhi kufanele sihlukunyezwe, ngakho-ke ukushiya kakade ezinkathini zokuqala zobudlelwane - kungenalutho nokungenangqondo.
Lolu cwaningo lwengqondo aluqediwe. Abachwepheshe banquma "ukumba" ngokujulile futhi bathole ukuthi bangaki abantu abaphuma isikhathi abazimisele ukulindela ubulili obulinde isikhathi eside. Imiphumela iyadabukisa. Ngosuku lokuqala bangakulungele ukulala. Ngokombono wabo, owesifazane ufuna ubulili emhlanganweni wesithathu futhi kuthiwa uzwa lokhu.
Ukuphikisana ngokuthi yiliphi usuku ongalala ngalo, kufanelekile ukuphawula nokuthi uma ukuhlangana kothando kungukuvakasha okulodwa ngenyanga, amadoda alungele ukulinda amasonto, izinyanga. Uma kwenzeka umfana nomfana bebonakala nsuku zonke, kuncane amathuba okuthi ubudlelwano obunjalo buzohlala ngaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha.
Into ethakazelisayo kakhulu ukuthi lapho ekugcineni ekhetha ngesondo, kodwa isifiso somlingani salokhu sinyamalale, kukholelwa ukuthi kufanele aphinde azame ukuvuselela ukufutheka phakathi kwalababili. Ngeshwa, akwanele ukuthi yiliphi ilanga elinethuba lesibili.