Ukuqala kokuqala kubaluleke kakhulu, ngakho-ke udinga ukwazi ukuthi uziphathe kanjani kahle nomfana ukuze athande. Naphezu kokuthi wonke amalungu e-sex strong anakho okuthandayo, ngokujwayelekile, kunezinto eziningana eziyisisekelo ezisebenza ngokusobala.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomfana?
Inqubo yokuheha abamele abesilisa kubalulekile ukwazi isilinganiso futhi hhayi ukuyiqeda, ngoba izenzo zokuzikhukhumeza ziyadumaza. Amathiphu awusizo, indlela yokuziphatha, ukuze umfana athande:
- Amadoda ayenabazingeli futhi abathanda ukuxazulula izigqoko, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukuthatha lo mdlalo futhi uzibonise "umuthi onzima". Ungavumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi kubo bonke futhi uvumele kuye kunoma yisiphi isifiso. Namathela enhlosweni yegolide, uma kufanele wenqabe isiphakamiso, khona-ke kufanele uyenze ngokumomotheka nokuphazima emehlweni akho.
- Kuphawula ukuthi inqwaba yamadoda ikhetha ukungahambisani nemithetho futhi yamukele ngenjabulo inselele. Isibonelo, ungasho engxoxweni ongakaze uyithandane namadoda. Ezimweni eziningi kubangela isifiso sokufakazela ukuthi akafani nabanye abantu.
- Esinye iseluleko esibalulekile, indlela yokuziphatha nomfana, ukuze athande - bonisa ubufazi bakho. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ezweni lanamuhla ngokuphindaphindiwe kukhona abesifazane abanamandla, abameleli abaningi besilisa bafuna ukuba yizibili eziyinhloko.
- Kubalulekile hhayi kuphela ukukhuluma, kodwa futhi ukulalela. Kubantu kubalulekile ukuthi intombazane inesithakazelo empilweni yakhe futhi ibeke amazwana emazwini akhulunywe. Lona ukubonakaliswa okuyinhloko kwenhlonipho.
- Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana kwamehlo, ngoba kubhekwa ukuthi uma umuntu engaboni emehlweni, khona-ke kufihla okuthile futhi akusizi. Vele ungayishisi ngamehlo akho, ngoba nakho kuyamangalisa ngokwanele.
- Kunzima ukuthola umfana ongafuni ukuthandwa. Kubalulekile ukukwazi ukubona isithunzi bese ulahlekelwa isici ngesikhathi. Kule ndaba kubalulekile ukuthi ungayithinti futhi wenze konke ngobuqotho.
- Bheka amaphuzu avamile othintana naye. Uma uneminyaka efanayo, lokhu kuzoba lula kakhulu, ngoba ungakhuluma ngezinto zokuzilibazisa zezingane, khumbula ukuthi kwakunemfashini eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule. Iphuzu elivamile lokuxhumana kungaba ukuhamba.
- Indlela ephumelelayo yokuheha ukunxusa usizo. Abamele ubulili obunamandla, bafuna ukuba ama-knights, ngakho-ke ezimweni eziningi bavuma ukusiza.
- Akudingekile ukuthi ukhulume nomfana ngomuntu othile futhi uhlakaze amahemuhemu, njengoba lokhu kuzohlukanisa i-interlocutor, futhi uzophetha ngokuthi ngaphambi kwakhe
intombazane enobungozi engalungile. - Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana kwangokwenyama, kodwa konke kufanele kube njengokungathi kungenasisekelo ngangokunokwenzeka, isibonelo, i-push elula ephendula ihlaya elingaphumelelanga, amadolo, njll. Kubalulekile ukubona ukuthi umfana uphendula kanjani lokhu, uma engakhululekile, ke ungaqhubeki ukuzama.
Indlela yokuziphatha ngemva kokulwa nomfana?
Into yokuqala okudingeka ukwenze ukuzola phansi futhi okwesikhashana ukusabalalisa ukuze ubuyekeze konke. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ingxabano yenzeka futhi ubani okufanele abekwe icala. Izazi zengqondo zincoma ngokukhululekile ukukhuluma nokuveza konke ukunganaki, kodwa ukwenza konke kunokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwemizwa. Omunye wabahlanganyeli empikiswaneni kufanele avume amaphutha abo futhi axolise.