Kunezimo lapho uthando luvivinywa isikhathi nesikhathi. Abantu abaningi bayesabiswa yi-stereotype enqunywe ukuthi ubudlelwano obude abukwazi ukugcinwa. Kodwa ngomkhuba, konke kuvela ngokuhlukile: umphumela omuhle uncike kuwe kuphela. Phela, ungazizwa unesizungu ngisho uhlala nomuntu edolobheni elifanayo. Lokhu kuqinisekiswa yilokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwemibhangqwana eminingi. Ngokwezibalo, cishe abangaba ngu-700,000 baseMelika bahlala emadolobheni ahlukene, kodwa bangomndeni owodwa futhi balondoloze ubuhlobo obuqinile kakhulu.
Ungalondoloza kanjani ubuhlobo kude?
Isifiso sokugcina uxhumano kumele luvela kubathandi. Uma omunye wabalingani engafuni ukusekela, udinga nje ukuyikhulula, ekufunayo injabulo. Ngempela, cishe, kusho ukuthi akanemizwa futhi akafisi ukulwa nothando.
Ake sibheke indlela yokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo kude. Ngakho-ke, kuyinto efiselekayo ukuvuma ukuthi uzoxhumana kangaki ngesonto ngocingo noma e-mail, ukuthi uzobona kangaki ngesikhathi sangempela, njll. Zama ukuxhumana njalo ngangokunokwenzeka kuze kube yilapho isimo sibonakala. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwemibhangqwana eminingi ephumelelayo isikisela ukuthi ngesifiso esisebenzayo sokubili ukugcina ubudlelwane , bahlale besithola. Kodwa, uma kukhona ukungathembeki, ukungabaza nokungaqondi kahle kulo mbhangqwana, umphumela odabukisayo kungenzeka. Ngelinye igama, kukhona njalo indlela yokuphuma.
Uma ngempela uyingxenye eyodwa yezinxenye ezimbili, ungakwazi ukusekela kunoma yisiphi isimo futhi uxazulule noma iyiphi inkinga, ikakhulukazi uma injabulo yezibili ixhomeke kuyo.
Uma uhlangabezana nobunzima othandweni noma udidekile futhi ungazi ukuthi ungazibekaphi, ngoba uthandwa ngokomzimba kude, sincoma ukuthi ulalele iseluleko esiza ukuphendula umbuzo othi "Ungalondoloza kanjani ubuhlobo kude?":
- Zama ukutshela njalo ngezenzakalo ezenzeka empilweni yakho.
- Uma kukhona ukuhlambalaza noma ukungaqondi, kungcono ukukhuluma ngakho ngokushesha. Othandekayo kumele azi ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho futhi kufanele akwazi ukukuqonda nokukusekela.
- Yabelana nsuku zonke futhi ukhulume ngokuthi uthandeka komunye nomunye.
- Kubathandekayo bakho, akudingeki uzisole amazwi amnandi nesomusa.
Ungasinda kanjani ubuhlobo kude?
- Yiba nokuhlonipha ukuzimela kwakho. Ngaphezu komuntu othandekayo, kufanele ube nezokuzilibazisa, abangane kanye nomsebenzi othakazelisayo.
- Ungaguquli impilo yakho ibe yikamelo lokulinda unomphela.
- Awudingi ukuhlala ekhaya futhi njalo ulinde izindaba ezivela kubathandekayo bakho. Zithuthukise njengomuntu , vula i-entsha futhi utshele isigamu sakho sesibili ngakho.
- Hlala ujabulana nomunye futhi ugcine lo mbhangqwana ube nomoya omuhle.
Uzochitha isikhathi uzuze ngokwakho futhi, ngeso, awunaso isikhathi sokubheka njengoba umhlangano womhlangano osalinde isikhathi eside ufika.
Ungayigcina kanjani ubuhlobo kude?
- Lungisa ubuhlobo bakho. Kungaba izipho ezingalindelekile, incwadi yothando, ucingo, izimbali, njll.
- Ngaphezu kokuxhumana kwansuku zonke, kufanele kube khona into
kungalindelekile futhi kujabulise. - Kumele ukholwe ukuthi konke kuzovela, futhi ungakwazi ukunqoba ibanga.
Imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukana ngenxa yokungathembeki noma ukungazizwa. Ngakho-ke, kholwa naphezu kwakho konke futhi uxhasane. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ungangabaza ngokwakho futhi hhayi nje imizwa yakho siqu. Kulokhu, umbuzo obonakala sengathi awunakuqhathaniswa ungavela: "Ungasindisa kanjani ubuhlobo kude?". Kodwa isixazululo yilesi: esinye isigamu esimweni esinjalo kufanele sikusekele futhi siqiniseke ukuthi konke kuyoba kuhle. Lapha kunamathuba okufika amazwi kaJoseph Brodsky: "Ngubani owazi ukuthanda, uyazi ukuthi angalinda kanjani." Ngempela, uma umthanda ngempela umuntu, ngokuqinisekile uzokwazi ukunqoba umkhawulo onjalo njengengqayizivele.