Uma emakhulwini eminyaka adlule isici esiyinhloko sesifazane sasibhekwa njengesihlukumezi, abameli bezocansi namuhla banzima kakhulu ukubiza abagulayo. Thina ngokwethu sihamba ngemoto, ama-yachts nezindiza, sithola imali, sithatha isikhundla sobuholi, sidlala ibhola kanye nokugembula. Kodwa konke lokhu, cishe wonke amaphupho ethu ngasese ukuhlangana nomkhonto onamandla nesibindi oyosivikela ezinkingeni zonke zokuphila, unike izimbali futhi ngokujwayelekile - ukuthanda ukungabi nalutho. Ngakho-ke, eminyakeni eminingi edlule, umbuzo othi "Indlela yokunciphisa indoda engqondweni futhi ibe yinto eyingqayizivele futhi engenakulinganiswa?" Isalokhu ihlala ohlelweni.
"Kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane anganqoba ngokumane amnike ukuncoma okuncane. Futhi kuthiwani ngabamele abesilisa abanesibindi esinamandla? Ingabe othile uyazi izinkulumo ezimbalwa ezithandekayo ngemva kwalokho isikhulu sakho siyobe sesikulungele ukuphunyuka nawe kuze kube sekupheleni kwezwe? "
Amagama angu-5 aphezulu aqhuba amadoda ahlukumeze:
- "Angikaze ngizizwe nginhle ngaphambili." Ngaphezu kwalokho, le nkulumo ingabizwa kuphela emva kokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, kodwa futhi ngemuva nje kokuhlwa okuphelele ku-cafe noma ukuhamba epaki.
- "Ungumuntu omangalisayo kunazo zonke engake ngahlangana nazo." Emva kwalokho, zama ukuqinisekisa amagama akho ngezibonelo ezithile ezikhonkolo, ukuze umxhumanisi wakho angacabangi ukuthi uyamthokozisa.
- "Nginawe ngilungele noma yikuphi ukuhlanya!". Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kubalulekile ukubheka kakhulu okhethiweyo wakho futhi ukumomotheka ngokumangalisayo. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kudingeke ukuthi uthi uma uthembela ngempela umuntu futhi awuphikisi ukusondela kuye.
- "Mhlawumbe uzokwehlisa ikhofi?" Kuyinto ecacile, kodwa ngokulinganisa izindlela zokunciphisa ingqondo yomuntu le nkulumo isaqhubeka. Kodwa-ke, kusebenza kuphela uma kunokunye okunye ohlelweni lwakho lokuzijabulisa ngamasiko, ngaphandle kwekhofi.
- "Ngiyakuthanda." Ama-Classics of the genre. Kungakwenza ube buhlungu, uma nje bobabili uhambisana nobuhlobo obunzima, kunoma yikuphi okunye, ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa okunjalo kungase kusabise.
Kodwa yilokho konke lokhu okukhethwa kukho, okuyiqiniso, kuhle njengempendulo yombuzo othi: "Indlela yokushayela umthandi wezidakamizwa?" Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze uma lo muntu uhlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingana futhi wazi konke ngomunye nomunye, nokunye okuningi. Kunokumangala kulokho cala?
"Sishadile iminyaka eyisishiyagalombili. Muva nje, ngaqala ukubona ukuthi ubuhlobo bethu nomyeni wakhe bube buthaka - ububele, uthando lwanyamalala, konke kwaba into evamile. Kodwa konke lokhu ngiyazi ukuthi sithandana. Siphindela kanjani ukushayela umyeni oshaqisayo futhi sivuselele imizwa yethu? "
Eqinisweni, ngisho nangemva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye sinokuthile okumangazayo umlingani wethu womphefumulo, ngenxa yalokhu sidinga ukuba nesifiso sokuhamba ngendlela engavamile yokuphila nokufuna ukwenza into engavamile. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ukuthi, ngokusho kwabesifazane abaningi, baphumelela kakhulu ezimweni ezinjalo.
- Mshayela ehlathini embhedeni ... Thola isethi sezingubo zangaphansi ezinesibindi nesibindi, upheke okuthile okumnandi ukuze uthole isidlo sakusihlwa, uthenge i-CD enefilimu ethandekayo, shayela umyeni wakho emsebenzini futhi ... simemele ngosuku.
- Sebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe nomunye nomunye. Yiya ku-cinema noma ku-nightclub ndawonye, thatha usuku emsebenzini futhi uhlele ukuhamba othandweni uye epaki eliseduze noma e-ice rink.
Into esemqoka ukukhumbula njalo ukuthi ubudlelwane bomsebenzi onzima nsuku zonke, ngakho-ke ngeke bakwazi ukushintsha kalula
Emva kwakho konke, ekuphenduleni umbuzo: "Yimaphi abesifazane abanobuqili kakhulu?" Abaningi be-interlocutors besilisa abanqikazi ukuphendula: "Lowo okuthakazelisayo ukuxoxa naye hhayi ukuthukuthela embhedeni." Isiphetho: ngokuhambisana nalezi zidingo ezilula, ungaba unkulunkulukazi ohlala njalo, omuhle futhi ongatholakali kumuntu wakho.