Abahlukumezi bamadoda - lokhu kuyinto evamile kakhulu. Owesifazane uvame ukufihla ukuthi umyeni wakhe ungumashiqela, kodwa udinga iseluleko sengqondo sokukwazi ukuziphatha naye.
Ungamelana kanjani nomyeni - umshicileli nomuntu ophethe i-manipulator?
Uhlukumezi uyisifo esibucayi, esinobunzima obunzima nokuqinisa abanye abantu. Akakwazi ukubeka kuqala kunoma yisiphi isimo, kodwa uma uvala ukoma kwamandla emsebenzini, akusebenzi, uqala 'ukwakha' indlu. Noma yimuphi owesifazane ophetha ngokuthi umyeni wakhe ungumashiqela , umuntu kufanele athole impendulo yombuzo wokuthi ungaphila naye.
Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi zilandele imithetho ethile ezosiza ukumelana nomyeni wesibindi:
- umuntu kufanele amukele iqiniso lokuthi umyeni uyisidlingozi nomuntu ophethe imishini, akusizi ngalutho ukuyilungisa kabusha, kuyobangela ukufutheka nokuhlukunyezwa;
- umuntu akufanele amthethelele ukungahloniphi komyeni wakhe nobudlova, kufanele ahlaselwe, aphoqelelwe ukuba azibonele yena, futhi uma impendulo ihlaselwa - kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa nomyeni onjalo;
- udinga ukugcina umbuthano wakho womphakathi, ngisho noma izihlobo nabangane bomlingani bengathandi umyeni wakho, yibo laba bantu esimweni esinzima esingase sisekele futhi sisekele;
- kudingekile ukwazi inombolo yocingo yenkonzo yomphakathi ukuze uthole ngokushesha iseluleko sabacwaningi bezokwelapha ukukhipha imizwelo emibi nokuxazulula izingxabano.
Ingabe umyeni oyisiyaluyalu ubekezelele noma ulahlekelwe?
Ngokushesha noma yikuphi, noma yikuphi umfazi womashiqela ozibuza ukuthi uyazibekezelela yini noma ahlukane naye. Umkhandlu wendawo yonke kuleli cala awukwazi, ngoba ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi, naphezu kokunyanyeka komyeni wakhe, kunemizwa efudumele nezinkumbulo phakathi kwalabo abashadile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunezinye izizathu zokulondoloza umndeni, okumele ucatshangelwe. Okokuqala, kuba khona kwezingane. Cishe noma ngabe yikuphi, ubaba uzokwazi kangcono ukuhlinzeka umndeni kunomama oyedwa. Esinye isici esibalulekile yilona wesifazane oshadile, ongekho wonke owesifazane onquma ukuthi ayingxenye.
Ungasusa kanjani umshiqela wendoda yakhe?
Uma ukuphila nomshayeli wesibindi kanye nomphathi wezandla kungabheki, kuyadingeka ukuba ushiye kuwo. Njengoba umyeni onjalo, cishe, engavumeli umkakhe ukuba ahambe ngokuthula, owesifazane udinga ukulungiswa.
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka
Ngokuvamile, emva kwesikhathi esithile, umyeni wesibindi uqala ukuqonda amaphutha akhe futhi ufuna ukusungula ubuhlobo futhi abuyisele umkakhe. Owesifazane kuleli cala kufanele athembele ekuqondeni kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuvamile. Mhlawumbe lo muntu ufunde ukuthi umkakhe ngeke avumele ukulimala futhi anganikeza ithuba lesibili.