Bonke abantu bafuna ukuba nomunye umndeni nomndeni ojabulayo. Kodwa abantu abathile kuphela abakwazi ukuqaphela lokhu ngokusebenza. Ukuze ube nobuhlobo beqiniso nokuthembela, udinga ukubona umehluko phakathi kwengqondo yothando, i-psychology yobungane kanye ne-psychology yezocansi, futhi ukwazi ukuhlanganisa ngobuhlakani zonke izingxenye ezintathu ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, uthando luthinta ubuhlobo obuvulekile obusekelwe ekuthembekeni kokubili nokuthokoza komunye. Ezingqondweni, umqondo wothando uhlanganisa izici ezintathu:
- Ukuzibophezela. Isici sokuziphatha sothando. Kusho ukuzimisela ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokuhlanganyela. Lesi sici sisekelwe ekuhloneni imizwa nemicabango yamakhono abathandekayo, amakhono kanye nezimfanelo zokuziphatha, igunya lakhe nesithunzi. Lapho abantu bethanda ngobuqotho, umuda phakathi kwenhlonipho nokumxila ususiwe. Kumagama omlingani abalalelayo, futhi umbono wabathandekayo uba yinto eqondile. Zonke izinqumo zithathwa ndawonye. Inhlonipho yimbumbano yokwethembeka nokwethemba kulo mbhangqwana.
- Ukuqhathaniswa. Ingxenye yomzwelo yothando yukusondelana, ukufudumala kobungane, ubunye. Uthando luhlobene kakhulu nobungane, ngokusekelwe emigomweni ejwayelekile, imibono, okuthandayo. Ezithandweni, ubungane bungakwazi ukufinyeleleka ngaphezu kokubambisana nobunye, lapho umuntu eba ngumuntu jikelele futhi ngokufanayo. Lolu bubele nenjabulo kubathandekayo, injabulo yalokho okubonayo nokuzwa into yokudumisa, uzizwa iphunga layo futhi uthinte. Ukuthinta kuzothatha isikhundla samagama, ukuveza imizwa efihliwe kwabanye. Ngobudlelwane obuvamile akusikho ukusondelana okunjalo, kungenzeka kuphela lapho kunokukhangwa ngokocansi ngaphandle kwezintshisekelo ezivamile.
- Ukukhathazeka. Ingxenye yomzimba yothando, esekelwe ekuziphatheni ngokobulili, injabulo nokukhanga. Ukukhathazeka kwamandla anjalo lapho othandekayo engumthombo owodwa wokwaneliseka ngokocansi. Into ethandwayo iba yinhle kunazo zonke futhi iyathandeka, abanye abalingani abasakhanga.
Zonke izici ze-psychology yothando zibaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni nasekuthuthukiseni ubuhlobo. Kukhona inhlanganisela ehlukene yalabo abathinta izinhlobo ezahlukene zothando. Kodwa uthando lwangempela oluhle luhlanganisa zonke izingxenye ezintathu cishe ezilinganisweni ezifanayo.
Ukuze uthole uthando lwangempela futhi ukwazi ukuhlukanisa nokuwa othandweni udinga ukwazi i-psychology yobuhlobo. Izibonakaliso ezihlukile zothando nothando ngokusebenza kwengqondo:
- ngoba uthando lubalulekile ngothando, ngoba uthando akuyona into ephambili;
- Ngothando abantu bahlangana omunye komunye, ukuze bangabi nesizungu, othandweni, izwe elingokomoya
ozimele komlingani; - isimo somdlandla somthandi kungenzeka kuphela lapho kukhona khona into, enkundleni yothando lugcina;
- uthando uyisipho, uthando luyimpahla;
- uthando lufana ne-psychology yengane, uthando luyinqwaba yabantu abadala;
- ngothando akukho mqondo, othandweni - indima yawo ibalulekile;
- uthando - ukuthandwa, uthando-lugcwalisa;
- ngoba uthando lwezimfanelo zangaphandle kubalulekile, uthando luyisifiso sokuhamba ngendlela eyodwa.
Sebenzisa i-psychology yothando ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinile.