Nakuba abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabesifazane akuboleki kunoma iyiphi incazelo, ezinye zezenzo zobulili obuqinile ziyamangala. Abaningi banesithakazelo sokuthi kungani indoda inganaki owesifazane ayithandayo. Ngaphambi kokuba ubheke isizathu, udinga ukuthola ukuthi kukhona yini ukuzwela okuyingxenye yakhe. Abesifazane abaningi bazibheka njengemizwa engekho, futhi ukuzikhohlisa okunjalo kuvame ukuholela ekudumeni.
Kungani umuntu enganaki owesifazane ngokukhethekile?
Ungathola ukuthi kukhona ukuzwelana ngokumane ukhangele lo muntu, ngoba ulimi lomzimba luvame ukunikeza imicabango nezifiso zakhe zangempela. Ukubukeka okungaqondakali, ukuthinta okusheshayo, ingxoxo, konke lokhu kubonisa ukuthi kunemizwa. Naphezu kwalokhu, abanye abameleli bobulili obunamandla bangathathi izinyathelo zokuhlangabezana nazo.
Kungani indoda inganaki owesifazane?
- Ukwesaba ubuhlobo obunzima . Amadoda amaningi abhekene nokungabaza ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi umqondo wokuthi "ukungathí sina" kusho imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi nemiphumela engathandeki, ngokubona kwakhe. Ngokuvamile, amadoda anjalo acabanga ukuthi kuqala udinga ukuhamba ngezinyawo zakho, ukhule bese udala ubuhlobo. Ukuzama ukubenza bakholwe ukungathembeki kwezahlulelo kuwumsebenzi ongathokozi, owezinye izikhathi ophela ekuhlulekeni.
- Isifiso 'sokuzigcwalisa' ngentengo . Esinye isizathu esivamile sokuba indoda iqale ukungamnaki owesifazane. It isetshenziswa abesilisa abawazi ukubaluleka noma ubuqili, ezama ukuheha into yokudumisa. Ukukhathazeka kwamadoda abesifazane abaningi kuqhubekela ezinyathelweni ezengeziwe, ngaleyo ndlela kungena kwinethiwekhi yakhe.
- Isifiso sokunikeza lo wesifazane isinyathelo . Izikhathi lapho abantu beyizinhloko, futhi abesifazane babelinde nje isikhulu ngehhashi elimhlophe, badlulile, futhi namuhla abesifazane abaningi bathatha lesi simo ngezandla zabo, bahole. Isifiso esinjalo sokudlulisela isinyathelo kumuntu wesifazane singasuka ngoba isibonelo esinjalo sokuziphatha siyisimangaliso kubazali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, icala lingase libe umsebenzi owedlulele wesifazane ocindezela umuntu, okwenza ukuba angene.
- Inhliziyo ephukile . Ngezinye izikhathi indoda ayinaki owesifazane omthandayo, ngoba usenenkathazo mayelana nobuhlobo obudlule. Abamele abaningi be-powder eqinile bagcine imizwelo ekujuleni kwezinhliziyo zabo, basekela isithombe ngaphandle. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukunikeza isikhathi esisodwa esikhethiwe ukuzwa idrama. Kunconywa ukuthi umphazamise, isibonelo, ngokumema ukuhamba nabangani noma ngohambo olufushane. Kulesi simo, "umngane wesifazane" weqhinga uzosebenza ngokugcwele.
- Umbono wokuthi akafanelanga owesifazane . Ngokwengqondo, lesi sizathu esenza indoda inganaki owesifazane ngokuyinhloko kubhekiselwa kubantu abamahloni ababhekana nokuhluleka. Lokhu kungenxa yokuzithoba okuphansi futhi uma kukhona ukuzwelana kumuntu onjalo, kufanele uthathe konke ezandleni zakho uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho.
- Ukungaqiniseki ngemizwa noma besifazane . Naphezu kwakho konke ukungathí sina, amadoda, njengabesifazane, ahlaziya isimo sengqondo nemicabango, ngenkathi ehlangabezana nokungabaza okuningi. Uma umuntu enganaki, mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi awuhambisani. Amalungu amaningi e-sex eqina kaningi akakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi azizwa kanjani kowesifazane, mhlawumbe lokhu kungukukhanga okungokwenyama futhi akukho lutho. Ngokungabaza ngezinye izikhathi kuphakama mayelana nowesifazane ongeke ahlangabezane nezimfuneko ezithile. Kulokhu, owesifazane udinga ukuzibonakalisa kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo, ukuze umuntu aqaphele ukuthi angeke aphuthelwe ithuba elinjalo.