Ubudlova abuhlali bulimaza ngokomzimba ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ukulimala komzimba akuyona njalo udlame olubi kakhulu. Udlame lwengqondo lubangela ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo, futhi yena, ekuziphatheni okuzithemba. Ngenxa yalokho, umphakathi uthola ukuxhumana okuphansi, futhi wena (okungukuthi, isixhumanisi) unqatshelwe impilo yomphakathi egcwele.
Umphumela wukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo kungase kube ukucindezeleka , ukucindezeleka, ukwesaba, ukucindezeleka ngemuva kokucindezeleka, futhi mhlawumbe nodlame lomzimba (ngokuvamile kudala omunye). Kunoma yikuphi, khumbulani: abantu abahlukumeza ngokwengqondo, cishe amaphesenti angu-100 ngokwabo abhekana nokuhlukunyezwa komzwelo kwabanye. Lezi zingakhululwa izikhalazo zezingane, izinkimbinkimbi ezincane eziqashwe ngokucophelela, bese ziholela ekuphindiseleleni, ubudlova, ukuhleka usulu, ngisho nezinhlekelele. Embikweni wesibindi somuntu ngamunye (uma ubheka okuhle), ungathola umzuzu lapho umuntu ovame kakhulu ehlambalaza kakhulu, ethembise ngokwakhe, ukuba akhule "enamandla futhi eqinile" ukuze abuyisele kulabo abamthuka.
Izinhlobo zokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo
Udlame lwengqondo lubonakala njalo ngezindlela ezahlukene, ngabanye. Kodwa uma siqoqa wonke amacala ndawonye futhi sithola iziphetho, sithola ukuhlukaniswa okulandelayo kwezinhlobo zobudlova obungokwengqondo:
- ukuhlazeka - ukulahla, ukugxeka, ukuhleka usulu, ukuhlekisa;
- ukubusa - uphathe isisulu njengengane, ukhumbule ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo akumukeleki, ukulawula ukusetshenziswa kwemali, ngokuvamile ukukhumbuza ukulahlekelwa;
- ukubeka phambili izidingo - umhlukumezi uphathwa ngaphandle kwegama, futhi esebenzisa amagama amabizo, umdlwenguli uphawula isisulu ngenxa yokuhluleka nokuhluleka kwakhe;
- ukungazinaki - usebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa njengesijeziso;
- ukuhlunga - isisulu sibe "isitsha".
Uhlobo olwesabekayo kakhulu lobudlova obungokwengqondo nezomzwelo luyaqhwa. Leli gama lisho ukuthi ekhanda umhlukumezi uhlwanyela ukungabaza ngokwengqondo yakhe. Uma umdlwenguli ecasuliwe, futhi uphuthele, uthi uzwela kakhulu. Uma umuntu ephindaphinda into efanayo ngesikhathi esisodwa, uyangabaza ngokufanele ukuqonda kwakhe. Izibonakaliso eziyinhloko ze-glazing:
- uyazibuza ukuthi awunayo yini into ebucayi;
- uyesaba ukwenza ngisho nokukhetha okulula;
- ulokhu uxolisa;
- ubuyekeza umbono wakho.
Ngokuvamile kunalokho, izimpawu zobudlova ezingokwengqondo zibonakala ngokucacile emibhangqweni eshadile, ubuhlobo bomlingani-ngaphansi, phakathi kwabahlobo (umngane "umshini"), futhi nangesilinganiso esikhulu - "amandla nabantu."
Into enzima kunazo zonke ukubhekana nodlame lwengqondo ekhaya, uma kuziwa kumuntu othandekayo kuwe. Into yokugcina okudingeka uyenze ekubhekaneni nobudlova , futhi ukhetho oluhle kakhulu ukugxila hhayi ukuthi umuntu uthatha kanjani impilo yakho, kepha wena (wena ngokwakho) ufuna ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwane bakho.