Izinsana zamama zibheke phambili lapho umntwana eqala ukuhamba , ehlezi futhi ekhuluma. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo abazali abaneminyaka emine bayathinteka futhi bathi ngenkathi ingane isathulile futhi i-agout, kulula kakhulu kuye. Ubudala beziguli buhlala isikhathi seminyaka engu-3.5-4. Ngalesi sikhathi, bonke abazali bazizwa bengenasici, ngoba ingane iqala ukubuza imibuzo eminingi ngesikhathi ngasinye kanye nezikhathi eziningi ngosuku.
Abantu abadala babhekana nani?
Njengomthetho, ukuqala kwalesi sikhathi esimangalisayo empilweni yengane ngayinye cishe kufana. Uqala ukubuza leyo mibuzo ozilungiselela yona ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Into yokuqala umfana omncane ayifunayo yimpendulo yombuzo obaluleke kakhulu kuye: ukuthi waba kanjani. Yiqiniso, izindaba nge-storks kanye neklabishi namuhla azithandwa kakhulu kunalokho esikushoyo eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule. Kodwa izingane zakamuva zenqaba le nketho, ngoba isikhathi sokuqwashisa nokukhula sikhulu kakhulu.
Ngemuva kwemibuzo ebaluleke kakhulu ingane iqala ukujwayelana nezwe ngenkuthalo futhi inesithakazelo kukho konke okungavunyelwe, hhayi ukuxoxwa noma ukuphakanyiswa. Kusho ukuthini ngempela? Singaqapheli ukuthi izingane zikhumbula kanjani masinyane amagama angajwayelekile azwile emigwaqweni, enkulisa noma ezinkathini zethelevishini. Ngakho-ke, akumangazi ukuthi maduzane uzocelwa ukuba uchaze incazelo yamagama afana ne "killer", "gay".
Ngemva kwesikhashana ingane ishaqeka nakakhulu ngezinhloso zakhe zokwazi. Kufika isikhathi semibono yefilosofi. Uzothola imibuzo mayelana nokufa, ukukhula, okubi nokuhle. Lokhu kuvivinywa kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhudlwana, ngoba kufanele utshele kalula futhi kalula ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma kungenjalo, ngesimiso se-matryoshka uzocelwa imibuzo eningi.
Uma konke lokhu kungesabisanga futhi kukubamba, ngakho isigaba sokugcina asikafiki. Ngesikhathi esivuthiwe ngokwengeziwe, kuzodingeka ufunde umhlaba futhi. Imibuzo ehlakaniphile: izici zokuphila kwezilwane ezahlukene, izenzakalo zemvelo. Lapha awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwe-encyclopedia yezingane.
Imithetho yokuziphatha yabazali
Ezimpendulo ezintathu ezimbalwa kwimibono ekhohlisayo yengane noma yimuphi umzali ozoqala ukwesaba futhi avimbele ingxoxo. Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi akufanelekile isikhathi sokuphendula izinkinga zabantu abadala. Izazi zengqondo ziqaphela ukuthi ukuziphatha kwamama nobaba kubathinta ngokuqondile ukuqonda komntwana okuqhubekayo kwezwe: ukuthi uzoba nobani kangakanani, izinga lokuthembela kwakhe kubazali, isifiso sokufunda. Nanka amathiphu asemqoka abachwepheshe abanikezayo.
- Kumbuzo "omdala" kufanele kwenziwe ngendlela efanayo, nakubo bonke abanye. Ngomntwana, nje ukwazi umhlaba futhi akaqapheli konke okwenzekayo. Kodwa uma uyazi ukuthi uyaluvimbela izihloko ezinjalo noma uqalekise, ungakha ngendlela engalungile ukuhlobana phakathi kobulili.
- Njalo cabangela izinga lokuthuthukiswa kwengane. Ngezinye izikhathi abadala banikeza ulwazi oluthe xaxa nolwazi olucacile. Isibonelo, kuyinto efiselekayo ukumboza imibuzo mayelana nokufa noma ukulungisa kuqala: konke kusenesikhathi
noma amaqabunga asekupheleni, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uhlala impilo ebomvu futhi impilo ende kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakho ukuphendula futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukugcizelela okuhle. - Uma ungazi impendulo, ungalokothi unganqikazi ukubheka imvuthuluka kule ncwadi ndawonye. Umzali uyoba njalo isithombe uma eba yinye izinga emntwaneni wakhe futhi eqala ukumfundisa, futhi angafundisi.
- Ngezinye izikhathi i-crumb ingabuza umbuzo ofanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe ngokulandelana. Ngokuvame ukudinga ukuqinisekiswa nje. Uma ubona ukuthi ingane ikulinga amandla, zama ukuphendula okunye. Kungenzeka ukuthi kodwa uzocasuka futhi uzophendula ngokufanele.