Ubuhlobo phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane buyinkimbinkimbi, njenge-vase yeglasi kanye nokunyakaza okuyi-sloppy, inkulumo ehlambalaza noma isenzo esingalungile, futhi bangakwazi ukuhamba ngezicucu ngokushesha. Kodwa uma ushada, abantu bayakhohlwa ngakho bese ukhumbule kuphela lapho indoda ishiya, futhi inkinga iphakamisa ukuthi ingambuyisela kanjani. Ungalindeli ukuthi uzokwazi ukubuyisela umyeni ngokushesha ngoba le nqubo ihamba kancane - lokhu akukwenziwa ngosuku, awukwazi ukuhlaziya ngokushesha isimo, ukushintsha ngaphakathi nokubuyisela imizwa yakhe.
Kukhona amathiphu ahlukene mayelana nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni, phakathi kwazo zonke izinhlobo zezinhlamvu. Zithandwa kakhulu manje, kodwa abaningi abazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukubuyisela umuntu kuphela ngenxa yokuxhomeka kwengqondo, akukho mbuzo wokubuyisa imizwa lapha. Futhi izindlela zokubhula zibhubhisa kuphela ubudlelwane bomlingani.
Uma ufuna ukubuyisela umyeni wakho uqobo, khona-ke ezinye izimfihlo ezingokwengqondo zingakusiza ukubuyisela umyeni wakho emndenini.
Indlela yokubuyisela umyeni - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Izazi zengqondo zinezizathu zaso ngendlela yokubuyisela kahle umyeni futhi ziqinisekisa ukuthi kungenzeka ngempela.
1. Okokuqala, cabanga ukuthi unesidingo esingakanani umuntu owaniklolodela. Akufanele uqhudelane nawo uma:
- unemigomo ehlukene empilweni;
- ungumuntu othembekile kuphela kuye;
- uyesaba ukuhlekwa usulu ngabanye.
Kuyafaneleka ukuzama, lapho:
- usalithanda futhi uyamkhumbula kakhulu;
- usukulungele ukushintsha;
- uyavuma amaphutha akho.
2. Uma, ngokuhamba komyeni wakho, izwe lakho lingenalutho futhi ucabanga ukuthi wenzeni ukuze ubuyisele umyeni, okokuqala kufanele ube nesineke. Endabeni lapho umyeni ethandana nomunye, lungele ukuthi angeke abone lutho okwesikhashana, ngaphandle komthandi wakhe omusha. Ungesabi, naye waphinde wadlula lokhu nawe. Khona-ke uzoqaphela ukwehluleka kowesifazane omusha.
3. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi akufanele ubuyele ubuhlobo obudala, udinga ukudala ubuhlobo obusha ngokuphelele nomlingani omdala. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele ubuyekeze impilo yakho ndawonye, ukhohlwe izikhalazo ezedlule, uhlaziye amaphutha bese uwalungisa. Futhi uma ufuna ukwazi ukubuyisela umyeni wakho othandekayo - shintsha wena.
3. Thatha iqabunga, lihlukanise libe izingxenye ezimbili, bhala phansi ohlangothini olulodwa, njengoba kubonakala kuwe, yiziphi izimfanelo ezikuheha kumyeni kakhulu, futhi okwesibili - ezingamhlukanisa. Manje lezinhlu zizoba isikhumbuzo kuwe, ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze nokuthi yini okufanele uyigweme uma uxhumana nayo.
4. Ngokwengqondo, kunesinye iseluleko esibalulekile sokubuyisela umyeni wakho - akudingeki ulahlekelwe ukuxhumana naye, ikakhulukazi uma unezingane. Ukumvumela ukuba ahlangane nezingane ekhaya noma abuyele ekuphileni okuvamile (ungamcela ukuba asize ukulungisa into endlini, noma ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane eholidini), ungakwazi ukulalela umyeni wakhe njalo. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile ngeke agweme ukuxhumana nezihlobo zomyeni wakhe nabangani bakhe, abanamasu alungile, abangamsiza ukumubuyisela emuva. Abacansi be-sexologists bakholelwa ukuthi ngisho nangemva kokuhlukanisa ngokomthetho, ngenkathi umyeni engabhalisi ngokusemthethweni ubudlelwane obusha, kubalulekile ukugcina okungenani ubuhlobo obuseduze naye, futhi njengesilinganiso esiningi - ubulili (uma ulala embhedeni).
5. Lapho uhlangana naye, ungenzi sengathi uyisisulu, ungabonakali ukudabuka kwakho - ujabule futhi ungakhathazeki. Ngakho udangalisa indoda, wayelindele ukuba ukhale, uchaze ubuhlobo ozoyicela ukuba abuyele, futhi wena futhi ngaphandle kwayo akukubi.
6. Thatha isikhathi: shintsha izinwele zakho, ubuyekeze ikhabethe lakho, vakashela ubuhle be-salon, ukuzijabulisa okusha.
Hamba kuma-discos, uhlangane namadoda. Yebo, uma ezwa ngalokhu, futhi ungavusa kuye umkhuba womnikazi.
Into esemqoka akukona ukuphinda amaphutha afanayo futhi emva kokubuya komyeni.