Mhlawumbe, owesifazane ngamunye okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wezwa le nkulumo - "amadoda isithembu." Abanye besifazane baye bakwamukela lokhu futhi bakholelwa, kodwa abesifazane abaningi abahlakaniphile bahleka le nkulumo, abesilisa abasebenzisa ukufakazela ukukhwabanisa kwabo. Zingaki amaforamu ase-Inthanethi, lapho abesifazane besichaza khona izinhlekelele zabo zokuphila ezihlobene nokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe . Ngemuva kokufunda izimpendulo zemibiko enjalo, ungahle uhleke ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakho, ngoba lapho abesifazane abakhohlisayo abakholeka ukuthi ubekezelele futhi uthethelele ukukhashelwa komyeni wakho othandekayo, ngoba isithembu, kodwa awukwazi ukunyathela imvelo.
Lokhu kungalungile
Kungani ukungabi nabulungisa okunjalo, ungase ucabange ukuthi lesi isichazamazwi sabantu besifazane, kodwa umuntu oguqukayo ubizwa ngokuthi isithembu, futhi owesifazane igama elibi kakhulu. Kungani ukuhlukana okunjalo, abaningi bekusho ukuthi kusukela endalweni, kodwa kuyihlazo. Bonke abantu bayalingani efanayo futhi abalulekile, kokubili ngaphandle nangaphakathi akubhekwa. Ngakho-ke, le nkulumo, mhlawumbe yathi indoda engeke ikwazi ukuvela esinye isizathu sokukhohlisa kwakhe.
Umvelo uzame
Njengokuthi, bheka izilwane, owesifazane uthola eyakhe futhi ukhulise inzalo, futhi owesilisa angaya noma kuphi futhi enze noma yini ayifunayo. Kuvela ukuthi le nkulumo - "la madoda" ayazilinganisa nezilwane, phakathi kwalabo abameleli babo abakhona labo abanezimpondo futhi baphala. Futhi ngisho noma siqala ukuqonda izwe lesilwane, kuyadingeka ukuba owesilisa afike kumsikazi, futhi akulula kakhulu ukuza, wathola indlela yakhe futhi washiya. Ikakhulukazi uma ezilwaneni zezilwane ezilodwa isilisa isithembu, khona-ke owesifazane ufana nokuthi ekuphileni komuntu kubonakala kungavamile futhi kungenangqondo. Ngakho-ke, uma kuqhathaniswa nokuziphatha kwamadoda nezilwane, hhayi okungalungile, kodwa okungajwayelekile.
Yini enye abantu abayishoyo?
Abanye abameleli bobulili "obuqinile" babengekho ubuwula kakhulu futhi batholakala, njengokungathi ukulungiswa kwesayensi kwesithembu sabo:
- Indoda icabanga ngocansi nsuku zonke izikhathi ezingu-206. Ngicabanga ukuthi kubalwa kanjani, umfana othile, ngokushesha nje lapho ecabanga ngocansi, abeka uphawu noma ucindezele inkinobho ekhethekile? Kuzwakala kuhle futhi kungamanga.
- Kumuntu, ukungathembeki akusho lutho, kodwa owesifazane akanakuthandana nomunye umlingani wezocansi-amanye amanga angamanga angawacabangi muntu.
- Emzimbeni wesilisa, i-hormone yezocansi ikhiqizwa njalo, futhi owesifazane angakwazi ukwehla. Bonisa umuntu owasungula futhi uvumele ukuthi ibhale amagama ayo.
- Ngokusekelwe kwizibalo, imibhangqwana engu-52% ikholelwa ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okuvamile kuyinto evamile futhi ukukhwabanisa ngenxa yalokhu akudingekile. Bheka, lawa ngamazwi kuphela, futhi uma kuziwa ebhizinisini, kuwo wonke umuntu "umnikazi" ojoyina futhi isimo sengqondo esivamile ukushintsha singakhohlwa.
Yini ngempela?
Ezinye izibalo zinikeza izibalo okufanele zimangaze amadoda, ngoba isithembu abesifazane basemaphesenti angu-30 amakhulu kunabo. Izizathu zokuvela kwesithembu zifana nalokhu:
- intsha;
- ukunakekelwa okwanele nokukhuliswa kabi emntwaneni;
- ukuvumela;
- izici zezwe;
- ukunganeliseki nomlingani, njll.
Ngakho-ke, ukusho ukuthi isithembu sitholakala kuphela kumadoda akulungile.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungakhohlwa ukuthi kungaba yini ukushintsha okungenakuqhathaniswa nokuphindaphindiwe kozakwethu, ngoba izifo ezihlukahlukene nezifo azange zikhanseliwe.
Yonke le nkulumo isungulwa ngamadoda athengisa omkawo, kodwa abesifazane, abangaqiniseki ngokwabo, bayabasekela kulokhu. Ngakho-ke, uma uzwa emuntwini ukuthi wonke umuntu uyithembu futhi lokhu kungokwemvelo, "izingcingo" zemvelo, zibalekele kuye, njengoba ezoguqula owesifazane futhi zibheke njengento evamile.