Abesifazane abaningi baphila ngesimiso "esingaphansi owaziyo - ukulala kangcono, nje kuphela ukuthi ungaboni futhi ulethe imali yasekhaya", kodwa iningi labesifazane ngokuqinisekile liyofuna ukuthola umkhohlisi. Ngendlela, izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi kungcono ukuqaphela ukukhwabanisa besilisa ekuqaleni kwesigaba, ngoba kulokhu kuzoba lula ukuyivuselela kabusha. Phakathi kwezibonakaliso ezicacile zokungathembeki kukhona iphunga leminye imimoya yabesifazane, ukutholakala kwamakhondomu emaphaketheni, uma usuvele ubalahlile kanye nemiphumela yomlomo womunye umuntu. Yiqiniso, iningi lamadoda lifunde ukulandela izikhathi ezinjalo ezicacile, futhi zilahlwe ngokucophelela, kodwa kukhona nezinye izimpawu zokungathengi.
Indlela yokubona ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe?
- Ngokuvamile abantu baqala ukuzibuka, kuphela lapho owesifazane othakazelisayo ebonakala khona. Ngakho-ke, ukuze uqaphele ukukhonjwa komfana noma umyeni, qaphela ukubukeka, ngoba uma uhlale ndawonye isikhathi eside, khona-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi wayeke ukugqoka, uzomamukela nganoma iyiphi indlela. Futhi uma, ngemuva kwalokho, umthandi wakho uqala ukuzilandela, lokhu kungabangelwa yisifiso sokukujabulisa.
- Uma othandekayo ngaphambili evilapha futhi ezama ukuhlukana nomsebenzi ngaphansi kwanoma yikuphi ukucabanga, futhi ngokuzumayo wayelayishwe umsebenzi ophuthumayo kusihlwa noma kwakudingeka ahambe kaningi ekuhambeni kwebhizinisi, lokhu kuyisizathu sokuba uqaphile. Ikakhulukazi uma engalokothi athole isikhathi sokuphendula izingcingo zakho, ebhekisela emsebenzini omkhulu, futhi imali emndenini ayikho.
- Yazi ukuthi ukukhwabaniswa kwalowo mfana kuzosiza nendlela aqala ukuyisebenzisa ngayo imali. Isibonelo, waqala ukuthenga okuthile ngemoto (computer) ngaso sonke isikhathi, ethi ukuhlaselwa okuphakade, kodwa asikho isizathu esikhethekile salokho - imoto ithengwe ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule futhi othandekayo uyisebenzisela kuphela ukuhamba nokuya emsebenzini.
- Uma ngaphambilini ikhompiyutha yakho ehloniphayo isetshenziselwa ukubheka i-imeyili namabhayisikobho kuphela, futhi manje amahora amaningi aqala ukuhambisana nomuntu engxoxweni, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokucophelela nangokucophelela ukufihla kuwe izincwadi, nalokhu kungaba uphawu lwekosikazi ebonakalayo. Okufanayo kusebenza nezingxoxo zocingo, nokuxhumana kwe-SMS. Nakuba abaculi be-wizened ngokuvamile basusa yonke imininingwana yobuningi besifazane efonini (ukubhala phansi ngaphansi kwamagama abantu noma amagama opharetha eselula).
- Ukuze uqaphele ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe, bheka ukuthi waqala kanjani ukuziphatha ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ngokuvamile indoda, lapho isebenzelana nowesifazane, izuza imikhuba emisha ngokuzibandakanya: isibonelo, ngokuzumayo waba nomdlandla, wathola izintandokazi ezintsha ze-culinary noma wayishintsha umbono wakhe mayelana nomculo noma ifilimu. Izinguquko empilweni esondelene nazo zibalulekile - ukulahla njalo ukusondelana noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuqhuma kocabango lwezocansi nakho kungakhuluma ngokukhona komunye owesifazane.
- Uyeke ukukhuluma, ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi umyeni wakho ajabule ukwabelana ngamacala emsebenzini, usekela ingxoxo ngezihlobo nabangane abajwayele. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, angenza ukubhuka, akhumbule izingxoxo ezazingekho, futhi aqaphele iphutha lakhe, ukufakazela ukuthi konke ukukhohliwe lokhu. Futhi wayengenandaba nokuthi uhlala kuphi futhi uchitha isikhathi, ungakhuluma nabangani bakho njengoba uthanda, uchithe ngempelasonto ngaphandle kwendlu, akukhathazi.
- Ngisho nabathengisi abadume kakhulu ngezikhathi ezithile abahlukunyezwa unembeza, futhi uma ukuhlukumezeka kwenzeka kuqala, khona-ke icala alinakubalekela. Kule ndaba, lo muntu uyacasuka kakhulu, ehlale egxeka kuwe, ngezinye izikhathi aphikisana ngokushisa.
- Ngokushesha waqala ukukhuluma njalo ngabanye besifazane, osebenza nabo emsebenzini noma umka-boss. Mhlawumbe uphawula imikhuba yakhe, noma uthi akayikukhuthazelela, kodwa kufanele akhulume.
Ngendlela enjalo indoda ihlanganisa umsebenzi wakhe wokuzilibazisa, yenza ube nomqondo wokuthi uhlale exhumana nomunye wesifazane, kodwa lokhu kuwukusebenzisana kuphela.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi zonke izibonakaliso ezingenhla zingakwazi, ukuthi zingasiza kanjani ukuqaphela ukukhishwa komuntu, futhi ziholele eziphethweni ezingalungile ngokuphelele. Isibonelo, indoda ingaqala ngempela imali eningi ukuyichitha emotweni, kahle, kwenzeka, khona-ke umbane ugesi, bese ugijimela uqala ukusebenza, njengokungathi othile uchitha ihhashi lensimbi. Noma ungathola imali encane kakhulu, ngoba uthathe isikweletu, futhi uthandwe kuze kube sebusuku emsebenzini - ukuthola ngandlela-thile kuyadingeka. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile kuphela ngenxa yokuba khona kwesinye isibonakaliso sokuhlambalaza umyeni wakho ngokungathembeki, bheka okungenani izimpawu ezingu-2-3.