Khumbula umfundi, uKomsomol futhi, ekugcineni, nje ubuhle, i-heroine yefilimu "Abathunjiwe baseCaucasus"? Kungenxa yokuthi wayenenhlanhla, ukushada ngaphansi kokuphoqelelwa, ngaphandle kwemvume futhi engenalo uthando. Kodwa inhlanhla isahle kakhulu, ikhulule uShurik wayo onesibindi, hhayi lokho ... Nakuba, futhi empeleni kungenzeka yini? Uzobe eshadile, futhi emva kwesikhathi wayezofaka icala enkantolo, ngakho-ke athi, ngakho-ke, ngaphansi kokuphoqeleka kwalesi senzakalo kwenzeka, kufanele kulungiswe ...
Ukuphila - into engalindelekile, nomshado - ngisho nangaphezulu. Omunye ushada ngothando, omunye ngokubala, futhi othile ukhohlisiwe, waphoqeleka, wathi: "Kwakunjalo!". Okokugcina, yebo, ihlaya.
Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze esimeni lapho omunye womshado odingayo ukuze abone umshado njengengavumelekile, ake sibone. Okokuqala, inqubo yokuqaphela ukungabi nalutho ihluke ngokuphelele ekuqedeni komshado (isahlukaniso). Naphezu kokuba lezi zinqubo zithathwa enkantolo, inqubo yokwenza izinqumo zenkantolo nemiphumela yomshado, noma kunalokho, "igebe" layo, izohluka. Okwesibili, kulula ukuhlukanisa nomlingani kunokuba uthole ubufakazi obudingekayo bokungafaneleki komshado, ubhale kahle isitatimende sokumangalelwa, ungakhohlwa ngemali yombuso kanye nemali "ejikelezayo" oyinike ummeli wezindaba zomndeni, ngaphandle kwalokho, .
Ngaphambi kokuqhubeka nale nqubo, kubalulekile ukuzinqumela ukuthi ngabe ufuna lokhu, nokuthi ngabe kuyoba kuhle kuwe. Futhi okunye kuyadingeka ukuthola ukuthi ungayibona kanjani umshado njengengavumelekile.
Futhi kuthiwani, empeleni, isisekelo ..?
Uma usenqume ngalesi sinyathelo, khona-ke izizathu zokuqaphela umshado njengokungavumelekile kuyadingeka. Kunezimo ezithile, ukugcinwa okuphoqelekile ngesikhathi somshado. Ukuqaphela ukuthi akukho lutho kwenziwa ngesinqumo senkantolo uma kwenzeka lezi zimo ziphulwa.
Izimo zokuqaphela umshado njengengavumelekile zingaba kanje:
- umshado ophoqelelwe. Umshado wangena, kodwa kwaba khona ukuthi kwakungekho imvume yokuzithandela ukushada, ngokusobala, uDeveli wayithatha;
- umshado, lapho umlingani omncane engenawo / abe nemvume kahulumeni wasekhaya;
- uma kwenzeka umuntu / abantu bevele bekhona komunye umshado obhalisiwe. Ngingathini, ngikhohlwa, mhlawumbe, ngomshado wabo wokuqala noma ukunambitheka kwangena;
- umshado phakathi kwezihlobo eziseduze;
- umshado phakathi kwabantu abahlala ebuhlotsheni bomuntu otholiwe kanye nommangali;
- ukushada nesakhamuzi esingenakwazi ukukhubazeka kwakhe okuhlonishwa yinkantolo;
- ukushada nomuntu onesifo ezifana nokutheleleka nge-HIV noma isifo esithathelwana ngocansi futhi obambelele komunye umuntu leli qiniso;
- umshado ongamanga, lapho umuntu / abantu abashadile bengenhloso yokudala umndeni. Mhlawumbe i-propiska idinga ngokuphuthumayo noma enye into, inqume ukusiza umngane ...
Into esemqoka ukukhumbula ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukubona umshado wakho njengengavumelekile ngezinhloso ze-mercenary. Umthetho uhlose ukuvimbela imizamo enjalo. Lokhu kujeziswa futhi angeke kukhishwe. Yiqiniso, uma usafuna ngempela, zama - ungahlukumezi, thatha ithuba. Kodwa ungasho kamuva ukuthi awuxwayisiwe ...
Ukufingqa
Uma umshado ubhekwa sengathi awuyize futhi zonke izinkinga zale nqubo seziphelile kakade, sekuyisikhathi sokucabanga ngemiphumela. Ngokungangabazeki, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwemizwa kanye nezitsha eziphukile, kuyoba neminye imiphumela yokuqaphela umshado womshado. Ake sicabangele le miphumela ngokubheka ubuhlobo bomthetho:
- okokuqala, wonke amalungelo nezibopho ezibangelwa umshado ongavumelekile ukuba ziphele, futhi okusha, okubangelwa ukuqedwa kobudlelwane obunjalo, ungavuki;
- Okwesibili, ukungabikho komshado akuthinti amalungelo abantwana abazalwa emshadweni, umphumela walokhu kungaba yimithwalo yemfanelo yokugcinwa kwempahla kanye nokunye;
- okwesithathu, ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla yabashadile ekuqaphelisweni komshado akuvumelekile ngaphandle kwalokho uma kunesahlukaniso. Le ndawo izophathwa njengokulingana. Ngalo mbuzo kuzodingeka uqonde isikhathi eside futhi ubuhlungu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphandle kommeli omuhle, kusobala ukuthi kunesidingo ...
Nakhu, umzuzu osalinde isikhathi eside lapho umshado wakho ususwe ngokuphelele. Ngemuva kokuthi inkantolo ithole ukuthi ayivumelekile, ungaphefumula ngokuthula. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho ugcwalisa noma yimaphi amadokhumenti, kukholomu "isimo somshado", ungabonisa ngokuphepha ukuthi awungashadile. Nalokho esikuhalaliselayo. Futhi yini, awufunanga lokhu?