Ukuphula i-idyll phakathi kwabashadile kungenza noma yini. Ukuphila komndeni okujabulisayo kungagqunywa ngxabano, ukungaqondani, umhawu nokukhwabanisa. Lesi samuva "sibuhlungu kakhulu". Sizokhuluma ngezibonakaliso zokungathembeki kwamadoda namuhla.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Ukuphinga kungukukhohlisa. Ukwehliswa ngesenzo esinjalo kumuntu othandekayo kuhlale kungalindelekile futhi kubuhlungu. Ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngezici zokungathembeki komyeni wakhe, sidinga ukuqonda izizathu zalokhu kuziphatha.
Kungani amadoda ashintsha? Akunakwenzeka ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokungaqondile:
- Isizathu singowesifazane. Lapho umshado - kunezingane. Ukulala ebusuku, ukungabi nesikhathi isikhathi esibi, ukupheka okuqhubekayo, ukuhlanza, ukufaka izinsimbi - lapho uzithola khona isikhathi? Umshado "ukuhlolwa kwamandla" kwangempela. Indoda, naye, ifuna ukubona owesifazane omuhle, ehlelekile futhi ejabule ekhaya. Kodwa iqiniso alithandi kakhulu. Ekukhathaleleni kwansuku zonke, owesifazane ulahlekelwa ukuhlakanipha kwakhe, aqede ngokuphelele ezinganeni futhi anakekele indlu. Ungaba kanjani kulokhu? Okokuqala, indoda kufanele iqonde ukuthi le nkathi idinga ukuba nakho. Kodwa iningi lomsebenzi, futhi, kuzodingeka lenziwe ngumkami. Cela ukusiza unina, udade noma intombi yakho. Vumela abanye babo bahlale nengane isikhashana. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, thatha ithuba lokuzinakekela: ukugeza, ukwenza imaski yokuzithokozisa, ukugcoba umzimba, i-pedicure. Hlangana nomngane wakho othandekayo njengokungathi uhamba naye usuku. Zithobisa wena naye.
- Kuphathelene nokuziphatha. Ukukhangisa kwangaphandle akukwazi ukubuyisela ukwesaba ekuziphatheni nasezintweni ezihlala njalo. Amadoda awakwazi ukumemeza nokushaya izitsha. Zama ukulawula imizwelo nemizwa yakho. Musa "ukucindezela" othandekayo wakho ngeze, uhlale uthola ubuhlobo futhi wenze isimangalo. Umshado ngumsebenzi omkhulu lapho udinga ukunamathela ndawonye.
- Isizathu sisendoda. Kubonakala sengathi washada "eyedwa," futhi amehlo akhe ahlakazekile. Akukho okumele kwenziwe, amadoda ahlukile. Omunye ujwayele ukugeza ukunakekelwa kwabesifazane, uthando nokuthandana, futhi akalungele ukuhlanganyela nezinjabulo zokuphila okunjalo. Womanizer, uDon Juan, noma uCasanova - akubaluleke kakhulu, la madoda angabonakala ngokushesha. Umuntu wesifazane akafundi futhi, futhi ngeke ukwazi ukuthatha isikhundla sabesifazane bakhe bonke. Uyazi ukuthi ushade nobani, ngakho-ke kuzodingeka ubekezelele.
Kusukela ekugcineni kwesikhashana kwengqondo, akekho umuntu ophephile. Indoda ingashiya umndeni, kodwa ezimweni eziningi amadoda abuya. Njengoba bethi, izinsipho zishaya umsila, noma uDeveli ukhohlisiwe. Noma mhlawumbe inkinga yobudala obuphakathi kuyisola.
Ukudalula
Izimpawu zokuqala zokukhaphela komuntu zibonakala ngokushesha:
- unomuzwa wokuthi indoda iyahamba "ishiya". Intuition izama ukukunika isignali, mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukulalela;
- oshade naye uyakunqaba embhedeni. Ngaphambilini, lokhu kwakungekho, futhi maduzane sekubandayo;
- okungavamile ukuncoma, akahlambi nawe, akubonisi isithakazelo esikhethekile ekuziphatheni kwesikhathi.
Mayelana nokuthi yiziphi ezinye izimpawu zokungathembeki komyeni wakhe kungashiwo isikhathi eside. Esikhathini ngasinye kukhona amacala akhethekile. Ukukhathazeka ekuziphatheni komlingani kunzima ukungaqapheli. Kufanele uqaphelwe kulokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuhlukunyezwa okungahambisani nomuntu;
- ukucasula nganoma yisiphi isizathu futhi ngaphandle;
- ukungaqiniseki engxoxweni;
- ukucabangela ngokweqile;
- izizathu ezingenangqondo zezenzo nokuziphatha kwabo;
- ukupha okukhulu.
Izimpawu ezinjalo zokuphinga, njengezintambo ezisezintanyeni emgodini nasezintweni zamakhosikazi ephaketheni lejackethi - lokhu kuyisihloko se-hackneyed yama-anecdotes. Ekuphileni, amadoda ahlakaniphile futhi ahlakaniphile. Uma umuntu eke "eshiya", awunakwenzeka ukuthola ngakho. Yena, njengoba bekusho, wenza ibhizinisi futhi uhamba ngesibindi, ngokuqondile, washintsha ingqondo yakhe wagxila. Uma ukuthengiswa sekuvame ukwanda, umyeni uthathe inkosikazi, kulokhu udinga ukunquma: kungaba naye noma ngaphandle kwakhe. Ungalinda, okwamanje, okwesikhashana, kodwa kufanele unqume okuthile okufanayo. Zihloniphe wena futhi unakekele indawo yakho yomndeni.