Umama, owakhetha ukunikeza indodakazi yakhe emshadweni, akulula: manje akusona isikhathi lapho isifiso sabazali sisisusa esiyinhloko somshado oseduze. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusona isizathu sokubuyela emuva. Uma ulokhu ucabanga ukuthi ungayinika kanjani indodakazi ngokushesha ukushada, ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi yini ekuvimbela ukuba ugcwalise isifiso sakho sokuba umkhwekazi, futhi kamuva, ugogo.
Inkinga yenombolo 1. Indodakazi ayifuni ukushada, nakuba, ngombono wakho, sekuyisikhathi esiphezulu
Ngeziphakamiso ezithweswa iziqu ezisebusuku sezivele zisezintendeni zokuncintisana kwazo, ukuthi emva kweminyaka engu-30 ukuthola umyeni wakhe kuyoba nzima kakhulu, ukuthi ukubeletha kwasekupheleni kungeke kube khona ezweni lethu, indodakazi ayiphenduli, noma ibuye ifinye.
Isixazululo:
- hlaziya isimo emndenini wakho. Ingabe ubuhlobo bakho nomlingani wakho buyisibonelo sendodakazi yakho, engathanda ukuyilwela? Mhlawumbe, akathandwa yilokho akubona ebusweni bomndeni wakho. Futhi-ke kufanelekile ukuqala ngokuthuthukiswa kwesimo sakho sezulu "sezulu". Njengomthetho, izingane ezikhulele emindenini eqinile futhi enobunye abanalo umsebenzi noma isifiso sokuthi "bahambe" kuqala;
- uma wena nomyeni wakho maduzane nigubha ijubili legolide, futhi indodakazi ehlale iyaziqhenya ngomndeni wakho ingasheshe idale yona, mhlawumbe ihlukunyezwa ngothando olungapheli noma luthandana nendoda eshadile. Khona-ke zonke izikhumbuzo zomshado wakho ziyamzwisa ubuhlungu. Khuluma nenhliziyo yengane ngenhliziyo ukuze uthole isizathu sangempela sesithombe se-bachelor.
Inombolo yenkinga 2. Amantombazane ahlukumezekile ngamadoda
Indlela yokukhipha indodakazi emshadweni, uma wonke umuntu oqala ukuthandana naye, uphonsa ingane ethandekayo phakathi kwezinkanuko?
Isixazululo:
- thola i- "rake". Noma kunjalo ngingathanda ukufingqa lesi simo, ukuxilongwa okuthandayo "yibo bonke abalimi bezimbuzi", gwema: umuntu oheha inkinga efanayo yena ngokwakhe ubangelwa ukuhluleka okuphindaphindiwe. Isizathu sithi kungenzeka ukuthi indodakazi izama ngamandla ukuzinikela, futhi ukuziphatha kwayo kuyabethusa abantu abafanelekayo. Kubalulekile ukuthi usekele indodakazi, kodwa hhayi ukwakha amehlo amabili, ukukhanya ngethemba nokuphelelwa ithemba, ekuboneni wonke umuntu ekugcineni;
- mhlawumbe indodakazi kufanele ivakashele isazi sezengqondo noma iqhaza ekuqeqeshweni okuzoyivumela ukuthi ikwenze izakhi ezifanele;
- bhalisela ukubonisana nomenzi womfanekiso. Kuncane lokho okunikeza ukuzethemba, njengenguquko ephumelelayo yesithombe;
- abasebenza ngokuzikhandla bangasabisa indoda, kodwa ukuheha okuthakazelisayo okuhehayo. Ukudansa kwe-Ballroom, imidlalweni yezemidlalo, igalofu - izinto ezinjalo zokuzilibazisa ziyokwenza noma yikuphi intombazane ukuzizethemba, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzosiza ukugcina isimo esihle.
Manje ukuthi ukwazi ukusiza indodakazi yakho ukuba ishade (uma idinga usizo), kubalulekile ukuguqula umyeni wakhe ibe inqubo ethakazelisayo futhi uyeke ukwesaba, ngoba amadoda akhetha hhayi kuphela umkakhe kodwa noninazala. Ngezinye izikhathi, kwanele ukushintsha umqondo "wokuthi ungashada kanjani indodakazi yakho" nokuthi "ungaba kanjani umkhwekazi omuhle", futhi manje awukholelwa amehlo akho: indodakazi ishada ...