Ngokwezibalo, wonke umuntu wesithathu ushintsho. Kodwa wazi kanjani uma ushintsha ukuthi uzomkhaphela indoda yomthengisi? Eqinisweni, azikho izindlela eziningi kakhulu zokufunda ngokuphinga, njengoba kungase kubonakale. Ngokubanzi, kunezinkampani ezimbili kuphela - ukuqaphela ukuziphatha komuntu ekhaya futhi kumbuke ngaphandle kwezindonga zakhe. Uphenyo oluphelele ngokulandela wonke othintana naye othandekayo alwanele wonke umuntu, kodwa ukugcina umyeni wakhe, ukulalela izinguquko ekuziphatheni kwakhe kungenzeka yibo bonke.
Ngakho-ke, ukuthi ungayithola kanjani ukuthi umyeni uyashintsha, yini okufanele uyiqaphele?
- Ngaphambili umyeni wakhuluma ngesibindi efonini nawe, akadingi ikamelo elihlukile, futhi manje, ngokushesha nje lapho ifoni ikhala, cishe iqhuma ukufika. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, emva kokumbuza ukuthi ucingo luvelaphi, awuzwa incazelo ecacile. Futhi ngaphandle kwamakholi wefoni, indoda yahlushwa ngothando ngama-sms, othile uhlale ebhala okuthile. Uma kungenaso isifiso sokungena efonini yakhe noma ungacabangi ukuthi kuyokunika ulwazi - inkosikazi ibhaliwe ngaphansi kwegama lomuntu noma, njengomphathi wefoni yeselula, nayo yonke imilayezo ekhonjisiwe isuliwe - zama ukuthola imininingwane ye-akhawunti. Lapho uzobona inombolo ye-interlocutor, futhi uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi baxhumana kaningi kangakanani.
- Okufanayo nekhompyutheni - umyeni wonke kusihlwa into into ethayipha ikhibhodi, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba ufike, ngokushesha iyeka ukunyathelisa futhi wonke amafasitela avaliwe. Buza ukuthi ngubani okhulumisana naye, cishe, uzophendula ukuthi lo mngane wasesikoleni esidala angalindelekile kuye ngezenhlalakahle. inethiwekhi itholiwe.
- Indoda ezuze uthando olusha, iqala ukuthatha isimo sengqondo esihlukile ekubukeni kwayo. Ukhetha ngokucophelela izibopho namahembe, ashintsha amafutha futhi waqala ukulandela izinwele eduze. Futhi mhlawumbe ngisho namanoni amaningi kunquma ukulahla futhi waqala ukuvakashela i-gym. Buza ukuthi lokhu kuzosiza kanjani ukuthi ufunde ngokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe? Yebo, izimpawu ngokwazo azizona ezesabekayo, kubi uma kwenzeka ngokuzumayo, ngisho nangemuva kokupholisa kuwe.
- Uyazi kanjani ukuthi umyeni uyakhohlisa? Bheka ukuthi isimo sakhe sengqondo sishintshile. Ngokuvamile abantu, ukuthola ukufutheka okusha, bakhohlwe ngomkayo wabo, abakwazi ukulalela kokubili. Yiqiniso, amanye amadoda, ashintshile, azizwa enecala futhi azama ukwenza izilungiso zomkakhe - anika izimbali, aqhubekele ekudleni.
- Ukuqaphela okukhethekile kufanele kukhokhwe ezishintsheni ekuphileni kwakho kocansi. Indoda yangaphambili eyayingenakunqotshwa yabanda, futhi izinkinga zempilo azitholakali? Cishe, umyeni wakhe ufuna ukwanelisa izifiso nezidingo zakhe ngomunye owesifazane.
- Ungafunda kanjani ngokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe? Uma bekuyisiphambeko sesikhathi esisodwa kuleso sigaba, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi awusoze uthola ngaye. Kodwa uma umhlangano nenkosikazi yakhe yaba unomphela, ngabe bekungeke kube nzima ukubala oshade naye. Ukuba nenkosikazi yakhe kuthatha isikhathi. Ngakho-ke uma eqala ukulala kaningi, eze nezizathu zokungasisebenzisi ngempelasonto nawe, mhlawumbe uchitha isikhathi sakhe kwenye.
- Indoda yakho yaqala ukudala izinto eziyinqaba ngemimoya - uhlala ecabangela njalo, futhi ngokushesha nje lapho uzama ukukhuluma naye, uyathukuthela futhi ahlukane nawe.
- Futhi-ke, wonke owesifazane uyakwazi ukuthola ukuthi umyeni wakhe uyashintsha yini - ukubheka umkhondo womunye owesifazane.
Lokhu kungaba ukulandelana kwezinwele zomlomo, izinwele ezinde ezingaphandle zangaphandle izingubo, futhi izinhlanzi ezingabonakali zingabonakala ezingxenyeni zezinwele zezinwele zeglovu kanye nezingubo zangaphansi. Ungase futhi uqaphele i-akhawunti evela ku-cafe noma ithikithi le-movie ngengozi liphumile ephaketheni lakhe. - Umninindlu uyabiza, ngakho ukuhlala kwakhe kuvame ukwenza ushintsho olubukhali esimweni se-akhawunti yasebhange.
Uma uthola enye yalezi zibonakaliso kusuka kumuntu wakho, lokhu akukwazi ukukhonza njengamanje. Futhi-ke, kanjani ukuvukela umbuso kwaziwa? Bheka isibonakaliso esingaphezu kwesisodwa, qaphela indlela indoda ephendula ngayo imibuzo yakho. Ngokuvamile amadoda awela ngokweqile - mhlawumbe athi okuthile okungaqondakali, noma baqamba amanga ngokuzethemba, njengokungathi babamba ngekhanda ngenhliziyo.