Umfelandawonye - kubonakala sengathi isimo, kodwa isimo esingakanani esiphundukile esilandelayo, amanga, ukufutheka nokudumazeka. Abanye besifazane emva kokushaya okunjalo isikhathi eside abakwazi ukufika ezinhliziyweni zabo futhi baqonde ukuthi benzeni okulandelayo. Iseluleko somqondo wezokwelapha ekukhonjweni komyeni wakhe siyobasiza ukuba baqonde ngokushesha isimo bese benza isinqumo esifanele.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukunquma ukuthi umuntu odingekayo noma cha, ngoba izenzo ezengeziwe zizoxhomeka kulokhu. Abanye abafazi, kaningi labo abaye bahlala nomyeni wabo iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi futhi bayibona kangcono njengomngane, bakhetha ukungaboni izinto ezicacile futhi bangenzi lutho. Kodwa labo abaye bahamba khona ngemikhumbi ephiko lokunene ngakwesobunxele baphula impilo kuze kube "ngaphambili" nangemva ", begijima, bengakwazi, bamthethelele futhi bamvumele ahambe, noma balwe ukulondeka ubudlelwane kuze kube sekupheleni.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokuthi uthethelela kanjani umyeni emva kokukhwabanisa kuyoba ukuqonda ukuthi umkhankaso ongakwesokunxele ophihliwe awuzange uphishekele umgomo wokushiya umndeni: wayefuna kuphela ukuzwa okusha kocansi. Yebo, akujabulisi, kepha uma engafuni ukuhamba futhi azigxeke ngenxa yobuthakathaka bakhe, angathethelelwa futhi athathe izinyathelo zokuvimbela izimo ezinjalo. Iseluleko sengqondo sengqondo mayelana nendlela yokuphendula ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe kuyoba ukunikela kuye ukukhetha. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ibuyele emndenini . Kodwa uma wenza inhlamba, wenqabe ukubona izingane bese ufika kumphikisana no "ukuhlaziywa kwezindiza", ezimweni eziningi lokhu kuholela ekuqinisweni ukuthi le ndoda iyahamba kahle, ngoba uma uzama ukumbopha, nakakhulu uzofuna inkululeko.
Iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo mayelana nendlela yokuphila ngemuva kokwedluliswa komyeni wakhe kuyoba nezinyathelo zokwandisa ukuzethemba kwakhe. Kudingeka uzithande, uchithe isikhathi esiningi ngokwakho, ungahlali impilo yomlingani wakho bese uyakwazisa umlingani wakhe womuntu noma uhlangane nomunye umuntu endleleni ofuna nje owesifazane ozithandayo.