Abantu bahlangana futhi bahlukanise, baphikisana noma baphile ngokuthula nokuvumelana. Zonke zihlukile futhi azifani nomunye. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo buqala kanjani omunye noma omunye umbhangqwana, kuzohlale kukhona into ejwayelekile phakathi kwabo, okungaphatha konke ukuphila. Igama lakhe ngumhawu. Ekuqaleni akubonakalwanga ngokuphelele, ngakho-ke, njengoba ukulunywa kwesibindi kuqala ukukhathazeka, futhi kuphelisa ngokuphelele amehlo futhi kungaholela emiphumeleni edabukisayo. Ukuze sigweme lokhu, sizozama ukuqonda enye yezindaba ezicindezela kakhulu - indlela yokufunda ukungabi nomhawu ngomyeni wakhe?
Ama-Classical of the genre - umfazi unomona ngomyeni wakhe
Indwangu yokugqoka egcwele amafutha, izinwele zokugqoka izinwele ezihamba ngekhanda zihamba ekhanda futhi iphoyinti elinyanyayo esandleni sakhe. Yileyo ndlela abafazi abaningi abaphatha ngayo abafazi abahlangana nabathembekile babo. Futhi amadoda njalo ahamba ekhaya ephuzile, eze ngomlomo womunye umuntu ekhanda lakhe, i-podshofe kancane, noma ungafiki. Futhi kungaba yinto engafaneleki, uma kwakungelona iqiniso, okuye kwadlula isikhathi eside ngamahlaya ahlukahlukene. Futhi kubonakala sengathi abafazi bahlale bekhwele futhi bazoba nomona, futhi amadoda njalo azinikeze izikhathi futhi azobanika. Noma kunjalo, kukhona okukodwa kulesi simo. Uma ubheka ubujamo obujulile, abesilisa abavame ukunikeza izizathu zomhawu, njengoba kubonakala. Futhi cishe wonke owesifazane okhononda: "Nginomyeni onomhawu - kuninazala, kumyeni wangaphambili, kudadewabo," njll, empeleni kufanele abheke izimbangela zalesi sizi ngaphakathi kwakhe. Futhi into yokuqala okudingeka uqale ngayo lapho unquma ukuthi ungayeka kanjani umhawu ngomyeni wakho ukuhamba ngengqondo yakho nokuqeda ukungavikeleki kuwe nakumthandi wakho.
Ungabi nomhawu ngomyeni wakhe?
Abesifazane abaningi banesiqiniseko sokuthukuthela. Ngempela, ngingakuyeka kanjani ukuzwa ubuhlungu uma nginomona ngabangani bami abanikeza isikhathi esiningi, umyeni onomhawu kumuntu owayengumfana ozama ukuchitha ubuhlobo bethu, umyeni onomhawu kunina, ongithandi ngempela futhi ngokuvamile Nginezizathu eziningi zomhawu. Kulesi sigaba sokuzindla, kungcono ukuyeka futhi ucabange. Umhawu uvela endaweni lapho ukwethenjwa nokwethemba ukuzethemba kwenza khona ikhefu. Ngamanye amazwi, izimbangela zangempela zomhawu akuzona izizathu ezinikezwe abathembekile, kodwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umthengisi kanye nokuxhaswa, ukwesaba isizungu, ukwesaba ukuhlala ngaphandle kokusekelwa, kokungaqondakali, njll. Indlela yokubhekana nalokhu futhi unqabe umona hhayi nje ngokoqobo nomyeni wangaphambili? Lokhu kuzosiza ngezindlela eziningana:
- Inkathazo enkulu kubo bonke abesifazane - izithombe nezithombe ezicatshangelwayo. Akukaze kwenzeke lutho olwesabekayo, kodwa sesivele sikudwebe into engalungile esingayenza. Umyeni wami kwakungadingeki enze izenzo ezingavumelekile ekhanda lami, kodwa sinesithombe sesenzo esiphelele sokuhlubuka esivele siqine ikhanda lami. Ukuqeda lo mkhuba omubi kubalulekile ukufunda ukuphazamiseka embonweni:
- bahlambe ngamakhambi namafutha anambithekayo noma ishayela ehlukile. Amanzi asiza ukuphumula nokuphazamisa imicabango ecindezelayo;
- uthathe noma yimiphi imidlalo. Esikhathini senqubo yokuqeqesha, ngeke uphazamise kuphela kodwa futhi ukhulule intukuthelo nokuthukuthela okwenziwe. Noma ngabe kwakhiwe wena;
- ngokuvamile uhlangana nabangane nabangani. Kodwa ungazitsheli izwi mayelana nobuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho. Khumbula ukuthi umndeni wakho ungcwele futhi awukwazi ukubekezelela indlu engcolile kunoma yikuphi.
- Yenza i-oda ezweni lakho langaphakathi. Unomhawu ngendoda yakho ebuhle emikhankeni emifushane ebonakalayo. Uke ubuka esibukweni ngokwakho isikhathi eside? Futhi ubonani lapho? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuhla noma ukuya esikhwameni, umculi wezinwele noma umbhebhe, ukulahla noma ukuqhuma i-kgs emibili noma ukuvuselela ikhabethe? Uma okungenani into eyodwa engenziwanga nguwe, ke ungamangali ukuthi othembekile wakho angaphenduka umfokazi omuhle. Futhi uma ungathandi wena ngaphakathi, kungani kufanele uthande umyeni wakho? Into yokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu ukuyenza ukuzuza ukuzithemba nokuzithanda wena. Khona-ke ukwesaba okuhlobene nokuthembela kumuntu wakho kuyoba umyalo wokunciphisa amancane.
- Omunye umbuzo obalulekile - ukuthi ungaba kanjani uma umuntu enikela ngempela izizathu zomhawu futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe uthathwe ngokungazi kahle? Kulokhu futhi uphinde uzungeze futhi ucele noma yikuphi abangane ukuthi ubukeka kanjani. Khumbula ukuthi uziphathe kanjani nokuthi ngabe awukho yini ukuziphatha kwakho okuthandwa nguwe othandekayo kuwe. Uma
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Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - zama ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zomuntu wakho. Uzozizwa kanjani ungathembeki ngokuphelele futhi unganeliseki? Khumbula ukuthi zonke izidalwa zakho zobuhlungu ziyisinyathelo esisodwa esenza umuntu asondele esenzweni esicatshangwa kuso. Hlonipha inkululeko nokukhethwa kwabathandekayo. Zithande futhi uziqiniseke ngokwakho. Khona-ke izizathu zesikhwele zizohamba ngokwazo, futhi zingabi ngokoqobo.